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shortfatbalduglyman
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12 Apr 2017, 9:53 pm

after applying to a wide variety of menial jobs. minimum wage. unskilled labor. almost everyone ignored me. the of the ones that hired me, morons keep firing my worthless corpse.

emotional resilience is getting harder with age. the older i get, the more i feel like anyone could wound me immediately, permanently, profoundly, without undue effort or intention. but for someone to assist me it would take a lot of $$, time, energy, effort, skill, and success.

for example, when i was in 6th grade, an entire stampede of junior high school reptiles physically assaulted me. now i am 34, and every day since then i have obsessed over it. actually, after it happened, i had no clue that it would take this long to get over. not only that, but a couple months afterward, felt like i could put it in the past. wrong.

likewise, i have discussed this with numerous counselors, a lot of times. what do i get, "i'm sorry it happened"? quite frankly, i feel guilty that maybe it was my fault. but it was certainly not the counselor's fault.

the other thing tough is by saying "i'm sorry it happened", that made it sound more important than it was.

driving is also pretty hard for me. i get edgy/uptight/anxious. and a lot of the times i just zone out.

bowel movements are pretty hard too. two or 3 per day. 30 to 90 minutes each one. straining.

even with 5 liter water per day.

some articles claim that autists have more excretory (bowel movement) problems than the standard population. neurotypicals.

likewise, b/c of the job situation (or lack thereof), i worry about ending up homeless.

feel kind of ashamed i ain't normal. neurotypical. it takes so much energy to interact with someone.



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17 Apr 2017, 8:01 am

Having to cut out all of my family from my life.
But it is freeing.



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17 Apr 2017, 9:55 am

Health issues
My peers have had such different life experiences than me, they are wrapping up their careers, are grandparents etc that it exacerbates the existing neurological communication issues.


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23 Apr 2017, 1:25 am

Leaving the house is struggle... Until xmas i was going out almost every weekend to clubs or gigs, but it just got harder and harder.

Then a started having panic attacks in public. Just hard to breath, cold sweats. So i avoid it as much as i can now.
My friends and family as social creatures they party a lot. I get overwhelmed in crowds now, and certain sounds go through me like a knife blade.



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23 Apr 2017, 7:37 pm

While middle-aged me is much better with social skills, I'm also less tolerant of people invading my space with noise, touching, etc. and sometimes react harshly--and wonder afterward if my response was justified or not by NT standards.

AS meant I had very poor social skills when younger, which means I didn't get a career till I was in my late 30s... and a lot of debt, which means I worry about my financial future.

It's much harder to form friendships and other relationships. In middle age, people already have their preexisting social groups, and new connections tend to be used pretty openly for professional or business purposes.

I have kids, my wife is away a lot for work, and it's exhausting. The normal chaos and noise of two young boys is sometimes just too much. Added to that, one son is like me; while that means I understand him, it also means that his AS (for example, making weird sounds) isn't always compatible with my AS (for example, hypersensitivity to sound).

When I was younger, I was fortunate to be quite good-looking, which meant I got lots of passing smiles and flirting from the ladies. (Which saved me, since I was inept at making a first move!) I didn't realize how nice that was till it went away (though that might be for the best, since I'm married now).

Positive thing: I care a lot less what anyone else thinks. I am who I am, weird or not. Deal with it.


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