Who else NEVER had a close friend in childhood?

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Summer_Twilight
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12 Aug 2017, 6:27 am

As I said, I had a close childhood friend who I associated with that lost her interest in me when she turned 12. Why? She got into boys upon turning 12 and meeting her first puppy love boyfriend in 1996. After that, she got very rebellious and became a bad influence along with turning into a bully. Yet, she had always had a mean streak in her and did some weird things during our friendship. She also kept manipulating me by saying that her other friends all hated me.

Then I played with two sisters who were one year apart when living in a neighborhood with lots of other children who were my age. Though I was closed with the younger of the two, I was supposed to attend two of her birthdays which never worked out. After that, she refused to invite me to her birthday though I invited her to several of them. It was
1. My other friends didn't want you there
2. "Guess what? I had my birthday yesterday." I asked if she forgot and it was "I could only have three guests."



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12 Aug 2017, 1:18 pm

I never had a close friend in my childhood, only acquaintances and casual friends. I do actually feel like I missed out on something. Now even in adulthood I don't have a close friend... actually I downgraded to having no friends.(though that's because I moved right after I graduated high school.)

It was very hard keeping up with my casual friends and acquaintances. I also had interests outside of what every kid had, sports and some celebrity.(at least where I lived that's all they talked about... also when I was a kid that was when people like Usher, Tupac and Beyonce was starting to get really famous. Actually I think Tupac was already famous.)

That's what I had to hear about a lot and I didn't care about sports and neither one of them!(maybe Beyonce a little.)


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12 Aug 2017, 6:11 pm

I forgot to mention that I have other close friends

1. My dad was friends with someone who he grew up with and I was friends with their son and I hoped that we would grow up and get married which didn't work out because we grew apart

2. I was close friends with two-second cousins who were also sisters because their mom was close with my mom. We were joined at the hip too and we grew apart but started getting along once we became adults but not close. I am close to their mom, who's my first cousin.



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13 Aug 2017, 12:05 am

Summer_Twilight wrote:
I had close friends in childhood but they never stuck around with me and especially after we all hit puberty. Suddenly I was this weird kid to talked to herself and about Disney things. I think the only closest friend that I have had the longest relationship with is a woman who drove me to school during my Jr year of high school who I still talk with over the phone and write to.

I sometimes envy DJ and Kimmy on Full House because those characters have life long friends in addition to hearing about real life relationships because my closest childhood friend abandoned me after she met her first boyfriend.


Well this sounds familiar.

My high school friends all but legally disowned me.

I was blessed some of my college dorm mates seem to get me though admittedly I don't get them some times.

.....I hate the loneliness I feel right now.



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13 Aug 2017, 7:49 am

I have friends but most of them are people who are on the spectrum while others have other issues. I also have a few friends at work who I get along with really well.