Just got rejected, and it is getting odd

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There's that girl I like (not the religious girl of the other thread I did weeks ago).

I am friend with her, she awlays complained to me that no guy ever approached her ans she's 29 already; she feels worried.

One of the guys that she liked told me that he finds her unattractive and unappealing; some of my friends who constantly saw me with her told me the same; it seems that the typical males don't find her feminine nor attractive; hence her troubles in finding a guy to approach.
But what it boggles my mind why she won't accept me? I respect her more than the other guys she finds attractive, and I would give her a chance way more than those guys!
And her reaction was really negative, she accused me of pretending all the time and she feels betrayed. Odd.
What's worse that she is not answering my texts much now and she barely talks to me when I encounter her.

I wonder, why would she won't accept me yet she is so yearning for a serious relationship? She obviously has zero chance with those guys, at least I am giving her a chance.

What did she accuse you of pretending about? Was it that she thought you had been pretending to be her friend just so you could "make a move" on her. . . . .or does she think you are pretending about asking her out?

Sounds like she accepts you as a person, she just doesn't want to be with you romantically. You're expecting her to settle for you since everyone else finds her ugly and odd. She should want to be with you, not settle, but she doesn't feel that want. That's not your fault, it's just the way she is. If you think she should be with you simply because others aren't attracted to her, then you can't really be surprised a relationship isn't happening. I can understand how you feel, because this kind of situation can be frustrating and confusing at the time. From a distance I think you will see that there probably isn't anything there to begin with (imagine her reaction if you told her you're surprised she won't accept you since everyone else thinks she's ugly and odd). She isn't attracted to you, and you're attracted to an idea of her. You'll find someone better for you in time.

Btw, I am more good-looking than her (even girls told me so) but there's a bond (no more since she is almost ghosting me now) with her that's why I asked her around.... then I wonder why she wouldn't give me a chance while she goes for the unattainable guys.

There is a mystique about the Unattainable. Both males and females fall under that spell.

When the Unattainable becomes attainable, this is frequently felt as anticlimactic.

It's a shame but I guess the chemistry just wasn't there. Like even when you are desperate you still cant force yourself to be with someone who you don't have chemistry with.

It's the same with the similar thread where the 'desperate' guy wasnt really desperate and wasn't attracted to the op. You just can't chose who your attracted to

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at Sweetleaf:

Romantic interest can develop over time. The last girl I had a crush on, I thought was a strange looking git when I first met her. It was long after we became friends that I started developing stronger feelings for her. I sure as hell wasn't "pretending" to be her friend all that time.