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13 Sep 2016, 10:39 am

Do you think it's quite a common trait for aspie men to chase after women who are already in commited relationships? Because we don't understand what is and what is not appropriate?



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13 Sep 2016, 10:42 am

Nope....Aspies are usually smarter than that.



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13 Sep 2016, 10:51 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
Nope....Aspies are usually smarter than that.



Guess is it's just me then


Possibly not my best personality trait.



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13 Sep 2016, 11:03 am

Never had this problem 8O

But let me get this straight, do you chase after unavailable women because they're in a committed relationship or despite it?


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13 Sep 2016, 11:13 am

BenderRodriguez wrote:
Never had this problem 8O

But let me get this straight, do you chase after unavailable women because they're in a committed relationship or despite it?



Despite it I suppouse



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13 Sep 2016, 11:21 am

Jamesy wrote:
Do you think it's quite a common trait for aspie men to chase after women who are already in commited relationships? Because we don't understand what is and what is not appropriate?


Why do you think it is appropriate to pursue someone in a relationship? I sure hope it is not a common trait...but yeah if it is something you're thinking about doing I'd advise stopping while you are ahead.


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13 Sep 2016, 11:40 am

Sweetleaf wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
Do you think it's quite a common trait for aspie men to chase after women who are already in commited relationships? Because we don't understand what is and what is not appropriate?


Why do you think it is appropriate to pursue someone in a relationship? I sure hope it is not a common trait...but yeah if it is something you're thinking about doing I'd advise stopping while you are ahead.




I don't think it's appropriate but my emotions get the better of me sometimes



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13 Sep 2016, 2:34 pm

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13 Sep 2016, 2:55 pm

Jamesy wrote:
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Jamesy wrote:
Do you think it's quite a common trait for aspie men to chase after women who are already in commited relationships? Because we don't understand what is and what is not appropriate?


Why do you think it is appropriate to pursue someone in a relationship? I sure hope it is not a common trait...but yeah if it is something you're thinking about doing I'd advise stopping while you are ahead.




I don't think it's appropriate but my emotions get the better of me sometimes


Well one cannot control their emotions per say, so I suppose it is understandable to be tempted, however I don't think it ever ends well to act on those feelings and pursue them. Never really heard of a good relationship coming out of that kind of thing more just turmoil and emotional hurt for everyone involved/effected.


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13 Sep 2016, 4:19 pm

Jamesy wrote:
Do you think it's quite a common trait for aspie men to chase after women who are already in commited relationships? Because we don't understand what is and what is not appropriate?


that depends on how one looks at it.

I personally have been rejected several times in a row by those I though I had a good chance of hitting the jackpot only to be disappointed and very disillusioned after the fact.

:( oh well at least there are other fish in the sea.


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13 Sep 2016, 4:31 pm

I've experienced it a few times.



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13 Sep 2016, 4:53 pm

When meeting girls on some social occasions a male associate of mine would often say to me "yeah man she already has a boyfriend" when I appeared to shown interest in them.

Perhaps he's just trying to be a good friend by saying that maybe?



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13 Sep 2016, 4:57 pm

Jamesy wrote:
When meeting girls on some social occasions a male associate of mine would often say to me "yeah man she already has a boyfriend" when I appeared to shown interest in them.

Perhaps he's just trying to be a good friend by saying that maybe?


He's definitely being a good friend: he's warning you not to waste your time on someone who won't be interested and maybe also looking out for you so you won't get in trouble with the girl herself or her boyfriend if you hit on her.


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13 Sep 2016, 5:14 pm

BenderRodriguez wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
When meeting girls on some social occasions a male associate of mine would often say to me "yeah man she already has a boyfriend" when I appeared to shown interest in them.

Perhaps he's just trying to be a good friend by saying that maybe?


He's definitely being a good friend: he's warning you not to waste your time on someone who won't be interested and maybe also looking out for you so you won't get in trouble with the girl herself or her boyfriend if you hit on her.





He's also making false assumptions that I want to hit on them just because I ask him questions about a certain a girl when I meet them for the first time in social settings.



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13 Sep 2016, 5:36 pm

If your playing the game " let's figure out the normies" , I'd say winning is the name of the game.
How do I win?
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I get it.
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13 Sep 2016, 6:25 pm

From what I can see here, it's not a common trait. If I was attracted to someone who was already in a relationship (it's yet to happen), I'd let it be and move on.

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He's also making false assumptions that I want to hit on them just because I ask him questions about a certain a girl when I meet them for the first time in social settings.


Perhaps your friend has seen you go after enough women who are already in relationships as to suspect it's a thing you like to do.


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