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03 Jan 2017, 10:02 pm

ya, way life is meant to work is that anything worth having doesn't come easy



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04 Jan 2017, 7:54 am

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That could happen to me. Or it could happen to you. When I'm dating one of these low-tier girls, I'm afraid to let go becuase I may be choosing between her or nothing. Or if I dump her the next girl might be even worse. The reason I'm reluctent to give up low-tier girls is because I don't know whether or not high-tier girls would be willing to date me.

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So how do you define a 'high tier' girl? are you a high tier male?

Yes I am.

I would define high-tier as having a middle-class income, a reasonable amount of charisma so you can go out and socialise, an outgoing and entertaining personality, a sense of fairness and a physically attractive body.

I currently meet these criteria. However, I did not always meet these criteria. For the majority of my 20s I fell woefully short. I was very shy, unemployed or in low paying jobs, and I weighed 300 lbs.

I was only able to escape from this pit through years of difficult self-improvement.

Wow, looks like yesterday I was needlessly worried. Surely someone like you won't need my advices.

Some people should just emigrate to India, where they have a caste system.



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04 Jan 2017, 11:56 pm

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Wow, looks like yesterday I was needlessly worried. Surely someone like you won't need my advices.

Some people should just emigrate to India, where they have a caste system.


What do you mean?


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05 Jan 2017, 3:34 pm

Ya, it's like looking for a job



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07 Jan 2017, 7:20 am

Peacesells wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
That could happen to me. Or it could happen to you. When I'm dating one of these low-tier girls, I'm afraid to let go becuase I may be choosing between her or nothing. Or if I dump her the next girl might be even worse. The reason I'm reluctent to give up low-tier girls is because I don't know whether or not high-tier girls would be willing to date me.
RetroGamer87 wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
So how do you define a 'high tier' girl? are you a high tier male?
Yes I am.

I would define high-tier as having a middle-class income, a reasonable amount of charisma so you can go out and socialise, an outgoing and entertaining personality, a sense of fairness and a physically attractive body.

I currently meet these criteria. However, I did not always meet these criteria. For the majority of my 20s I fell woefully short. I was very shy, unemployed or in low paying jobs, and I weighed 300 lbs.

I was only able to escape from this pit through years of difficult self-improvement.
Wow, looks like yesterday I was needlessly worried. Surely someone like you won't need my advices.

Some people should just emigrate to India, where they have a caste system.
If only I'd gone to university and got a promotion and a raise. That way I could be upper middle class instead of just middle class. Then I could be in a higher caste :lol: JK


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07 Jan 2017, 7:26 am

RetroGamer87 wrote:
Peacesells wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
That could happen to me. Or it could happen to you. When I'm dating one of these low-tier girls, I'm afraid to let go becuase I may be choosing between her or nothing. Or if I dump her the next girl might be even worse. The reason I'm reluctent to give up low-tier girls is because I don't know whether or not high-tier girls would be willing to date me.
RetroGamer87 wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
So how do you define a 'high tier' girl? are you a high tier male?
Yes I am.

I would define high-tier as having a middle-class income, a reasonable amount of charisma so you can go out and socialise, an outgoing and entertaining personality, a sense of fairness and a physically attractive body.

I currently meet these criteria. However, I did not always meet these criteria. For the majority of my 20s I fell woefully short. I was very shy, unemployed or in low paying jobs, and I weighed 300 lbs.

I was only able to escape from this pit through years of difficult self-improvement.
Wow, looks like yesterday I was needlessly worried. Surely someone like you won't need my advices.

Some people should just emigrate to India, where they have a caste system.
If only I'd gone to university and got a promotion and a raise. That wayI could be upper middle class instead of just middle class. Then I could be in a higher caste :lol: JK
Yeah JK, sure...
goldfish21 wrote:
Peacesells wrote:
Wow, looks like yesterday I was needlessly worried. Surely someone like you won't need my advices.

Some people should just emigrate to India, where they have a caste system.


What do you mean?

He knows what I mean, no need to elaborate it further.



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07 Jan 2017, 7:26 am

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Haven't been posting here for a while. I had couple of dates but they are both two girls who are older than 10 years than me. I am 25 and they are 38. Didn't work out because the age felt me badly as we have completely different energy and outlook. It makes me feel like I am 10 years older than my age and I am not stopping yet.
Does that mean I shouldn't date girls who are 10 years younger than me?


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07 Jan 2017, 7:28 am

Peacesells wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
Peacesells wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
That could happen to me. Or it could happen to you. When I'm dating one of these low-tier girls, I'm afraid to let go becuase I may be choosing between her or nothing. Or if I dump her the next girl might be even worse. The reason I'm reluctent to give up low-tier girls is because I don't know whether or not high-tier girls would be willing to date me.
RetroGamer87 wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
So how do you define a 'high tier' girl? are you a high tier male?
Yes I am.

I would define high-tier as having a middle-class income, a reasonable amount of charisma so you can go out and socialise, an outgoing and entertaining personality, a sense of fairness and a physically attractive body.

I currently meet these criteria. However, I did not always meet these criteria. For the majority of my 20s I fell woefully short. I was very shy, unemployed or in low paying jobs, and I weighed 300 lbs.

I was only able to escape from this pit through years of difficult self-improvement.
Wow, looks like yesterday I was needlessly worried. Surely someone like you won't need my advices.

Some people should just emigrate to India, where they have a caste system.
If only I'd gone to university and got a promotion and a raise. That way I could be upper middle class instead of just middle class. Then I could be in a higher caste :lol: JK
Yeah JK, sure...
Blast! You have uncovered my evil scheme to become an elitist rich person!


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07 Jan 2017, 7:29 am

RetroGamer87 wrote:
Peacesells wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
Peacesells wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
That could happen to me. Or it could happen to you. When I'm dating one of these low-tier girls, I'm afraid to let go becuase I may be choosing between her or nothing. Or if I dump her the next girl might be even worse. The reason I'm reluctent to give up low-tier girls is because I don't know whether or not high-tier girls would be willing to date me.
RetroGamer87 wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
So how do you define a 'high tier' girl? are you a high tier male?
Yes I am.

I would define high-tier as having a middle-class income, a reasonable amount of charisma so you can go out and socialise, an outgoing and entertaining personality, a sense of fairness and a physically attractive body.

I currently meet these criteria. However, I did not always meet these criteria. For the majority of my 20s I fell woefully short. I was very shy, unemployed or in low paying jobs, and I weighed 300 lbs.

I was only able to escape from this pit through years of difficult self-improvement.
Wow, looks like yesterday I was needlessly worried. Surely someone like you won't need my advices.

Some people should just emigrate to India, where they have a caste system.
If only I'd gone to university and got a promotion and a raise. That way I could be upper middle class instead of just middle class. Then I could be in a higher caste :lol: JK
Yeah JK, sure...
Blast! You have uncovered my evil scheme to become an elitist rich person!

Don't worry, you already are.



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07 Jan 2017, 7:31 am

Peacesells wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
Peacesells wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
Peacesells wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
That could happen to me. Or it could happen to you. When I'm dating one of these low-tier girls, I'm afraid to let go becuase I may be choosing between her or nothing. Or if I dump her the next girl might be even worse. The reason I'm reluctent to give up low-tier girls is because I don't know whether or not high-tier girls would be willing to date me.
RetroGamer87 wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
So how do you define a 'high tier' girl? are you a high tier male?
Yes I am.

I would define high-tier as having a middle-class income, a reasonable amount of charisma so you can go out and socialise, an outgoing and entertaining personality, a sense of fairness and a physically attractive body.

I currently meet these criteria. However, I did not always meet these criteria. For the majority of my 20s I fell woefully short. I was very shy, unemployed or in low paying jobs, and I weighed 300 lbs.

I was only able to escape from this pit through years of difficult self-improvement.
Wow, looks like yesterday I was needlessly worried. Surely someone like you won't need my advices.

Some people should just emigrate to India, where they have a caste system.
If only I'd gone to university and got a promotion and a raise. That way I could be upper middle class instead of just middle class. Then I could be in a higher caste :lol: JK
Yeah JK, sure...
Blast! You have uncovered my evil scheme to become an elitist rich person!
Don't worry, you already are.
Now you're just trying to flatter me.


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07 Jan 2017, 7:34 am

RetroGamer87 wrote:
Peacesells wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
Peacesells wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
Peacesells wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
That could happen to me. Or it could happen to you. When I'm dating one of these low-tier girls, I'm afraid to let go becuase I may be choosing between her or nothing. Or if I dump her the next girl might be even worse. The reason I'm reluctent to give up low-tier girls is because I don't know whether or not high-tier girls would be willing to date me.
RetroGamer87 wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
So how do you define a 'high tier' girl? are you a high tier male?
Yes I am.

I would define high-tier as having a middle-class income, a reasonable amount of charisma so you can go out and socialise, an outgoing and entertaining personality, a sense of fairness and a physically attractive body.

I currently meet these criteria. However, I did not always meet these criteria. For the majority of my 20s I fell woefully short. I was very shy, unemployed or in low paying jobs, and I weighed 300 lbs.

I was only able to escape from this pit through years of difficult self-improvement.
Wow, looks like yesterday I was needlessly worried. Surely someone like you won't need my advices.

Some people should just emigrate to India, where they have a caste system.
If only I'd gone to university and got a promotion and a raise. That way I could be upper middle class instead of just middle class. Then I could be in a higher caste :lol: JK
Yeah JK, sure...
Blast! You have uncovered my evil scheme to become an elitist rich person!
Don't worry, you already are.
Now you're just trying to flatter me.

If you say so.



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07 Jan 2017, 7:39 am

goldfish21 wrote:
Peacesells wrote:
Wow, looks like yesterday I was needlessly worried. Surely someone like you won't need my advices.

Some people should just emigrate to India, where they have a caste system.


What do you mean?


In Hinduism someone being born rich is a reward for being good in the previous life; and someone being born poor is a punishement for being bad... in the previous life.

So a rich who was born poor there from a poor family may still face some discrimination by some.



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07 Jan 2017, 7:52 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
Peacesells wrote:
Wow, looks like yesterday I was needlessly worried. Surely someone like you won't need my advices.

Some people should just emigrate to India, where they have a caste system.


What do you mean?


In Hinduism someone being born rich is a reward for being good in the previous life; and someone being born poor is a punishement for being bad... in the previous life.

So a rich who was born poor there from a poor family may still face some discrimination by some.

No, I just mean that if they enjoy looking down on people of a different social extraction they might enjoy a country with an actual caste system.



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07 Jan 2017, 7:54 am

Peacesells wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
Peacesells wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
Peacesells wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
Peacesells wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
That could happen to me. Or it could happen to you. When I'm dating one of these low-tier girls, I'm afraid to let go becuase I may be choosing between her or nothing. Or if I dump her the next girl might be even worse. The reason I'm reluctent to give up low-tier girls is because I don't know whether or not high-tier girls would be willing to date me.
RetroGamer87 wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
So how do you define a 'high tier' girl? are you a high tier male?
Yes I am.

I would define high-tier as having a middle-class income, a reasonable amount of charisma so you can go out and socialise, an outgoing and entertaining personality, a sense of fairness and a physically attractive body.

I currently meet these criteria. However, I did not always meet these criteria. For the majority of my 20s I fell woefully short. I was very shy, unemployed or in low paying jobs, and I weighed 300 lbs.

I was only able to escape from this pit through years of difficult self-improvement.
Wow, looks like yesterday I was needlessly worried. Surely someone like you won't need my advices.

Some people should just emigrate to India, where they have a caste system.
If only I'd gone to university and got a promotion and a raise. That way I could be upper middle class instead of just middle class. Then I could be in a higher caste :lol: JK
Yeah JK, sure...
Blast! You have uncovered my evil scheme to become an elitist rich person!
Don't worry, you already are.
Now you're just trying to flatter me.
If you say so
If I've offended you, I apologize.


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10 Jan 2017, 9:53 am

Relationships require care and long term maintenance to keep them alive and healthy.
It's not like a Skyrim marriage.

Also if you tried to be a certain person in order to get a relationship, then revert back to something else after it's official, it will inevitably fail. Again, they're not like video games (think Mass Effect where you have multiple choice options for dialogue).


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