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I have a strong hunch that if you do that, it will tell you what area you are having your functional social deficit.
improv acting is real-time, you have to react authentically in real time in much the same manner as you would in real life. if you have trouble doing this, this then is the area you need to work on, we call it "thinking on one's feet."
What are your interests?
I've go to an adult autism group, but it mostly has women in it.
I volunteer at an animal shelter and am also in a choir. I'm also interested in some things involving psychology, medical things and nature. I've been working out more for the past few months too so maybe I could follow my aunts suggestion about joining an exercise program.
No but joining the exercise program sounds like a good idea. The experience itself can be relaxing.
I might try it, but it seems like other people who are into exercising are competitive. I'm don't mean to sound more negative, but I notice that if I just talk to a guy it seems like other people try to create a distance because they sometimes act rude to me in front of them. I found out about another autism group though.
Also, there are some guys, at least online, who seem to show interest for a little while, but it eventually fades and it's like a pattern. It especially happens when I meet up with someone. I'm usually not very interested in most of the ones I meet on dating sites, but it's something I notice. Then it seems like when I ask for feed back a lot of peoplethink I'm just looking for reassurance. They say that I'm not doing anything wrong and that I just need to be more confident or that these things happen to everyone. It doesn't help me very much. I'm 26 and have never even kissed or cuddled with anyone and people don't seem to understand that. There has to be something about me that people aren't telling me because it happens almost every time.
It depends. Some people in exercising aren't competitive at all it just depends on who you are around. Two years ago when I was 14 I found that to be case.
What are your interests?
I've go to an adult autism group, but it mostly has women in it.
I volunteer at an animal shelter and am also in a choir. I'm also interested in some things involving psychology, medical things and nature. I've been working out more for the past few months too so maybe I could follow my aunts suggestion about joining an exercise program.
No but joining the exercise program sounds like a good idea. The experience itself can be relaxing.
I might try it, but it seems like other people who are into exercising are competitive. I'm don't mean to sound more negative, but I notice that if I just talk to a guy it seems like other people try to create a distance because they sometimes act rude to me in front of them. I found out about another autism group though.
Also, there are some guys, at least online, who seem to show interest for a little while, but it eventually fades and it's like a pattern. It especially happens when I meet up with someone. I'm usually not very interested in most of the ones I meet on dating sites, but it's something I notice. Then it seems like when I ask for feed back a lot of peoplethink I'm just looking for reassurance. They say that I'm not doing anything wrong and that I just need to be more confident or that these things happen to everyone. It doesn't help me very much. I'm 26 and have never even kissed or cuddled with anyone and people don't seem to understand that. There has to be something about me that people aren't telling me because it happens almost every time.
It depends. Some people in exercising aren't competitive at all it just depends on who you are around. Two years ago when I was 14 I found that to be case.
I don't usually ask that feed back for someone I'm trying to date, but from friends and family members.
I'm not always sure how I come across though because I feel like I get misinterpreted a lot.
I have a strong hunch that if you do that, it will tell you what area you are having your functional social deficit.
improv acting is real-time, you have to react authentically in real time in much the same manner as you would in real life. if you have trouble doing this, this then is the area you need to work on, we call it "thinking on one's feet."
Yes, I struggle with that if I'm not already prepared. Maybe I could try to look into it.
I might also be joining another adult autism group that helps with learning social skills.
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I have a strong hunch that if you do that, it will tell you what area you are having your functional social deficit.
improv acting is real-time, you have to react authentically in real time in much the same manner as you would in real life. if you have trouble doing this, this then is the area you need to work on, we call it "thinking on one's feet."
Yes, I struggle with that if I'm not already prepared. Maybe I could try to look into it. I might also be joining another adult autism group that helps with learning social skills.
I am glad to hear of these new positive developments
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Such experiences are not necessarily uncommon with we so-called HFAs/Aspies. Even with as amazing and incredible that I am, I had never even so much as hugged a girl until after the age of 26, and God-forbid if there was such a thing as anybody who could understand anything I say without misinterpretation.
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The fist time a guy hugged me, a few years ago, it felt really shocking and confusing. I'm not use to guys acting that way around me. I really crave affection, but the few times guys have been affectionate I would get really uncomfortable.
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I understand that awkwardness. People round here are quite huggy, so I've had lots of quick hello or goodbye hugs from men, but last time I was given a kind of affectionate hug was last year and I hadn't been hugged like that in years. It was definetaly more than a friendly hug, but the guy was really attractive and I just felt awkward and then when I saw him again after than I couldn't talk to him. I tried and tried to make things work, but it all just fell apart and he lost interest. I'm not sure if he ever really knew how much I liked him back. I felt like I was trying to break through a wall that couldn't be broken.
I understand that awkwardness. People round here are quite huggy, so I've had lots of quick hello or goodbye hugs from men, but last time I was given a kind of affectionate hug was last year and I hadn't been hugged like that in years. It was definetaly more than a friendly hug, but the guy was really attractive and I just felt awkward and then when I saw him again after than I couldn't talk to him. I tried and tried to make things work, but it all just fell apart and he lost interest. I'm not sure if he ever really knew how much I liked him back. I felt like I was trying to break through a wall that couldn't be broken.
Yeah, affectionate hugs are much more awkward than friendly hugs. Especially when you almost never get affectionate hugs.
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I understand that awkwardness. People round here are quite huggy, so I've had lots of quick hello or goodbye hugs from men, but last time I was given a kind of affectionate hug was last year and I hadn't been hugged like that in years. It was definetaly more than a friendly hug, but the guy was really attractive and I just felt awkward and then when I saw him again after than I couldn't talk to him. I tried and tried to make things work, but it all just fell apart and he lost interest. I'm not sure if he ever really knew how much I liked him back. I felt like I was trying to break through a wall that couldn't be broken.
Awwwww
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I understand that awkwardness. People round here are quite huggy, so I've had lots of quick hello or goodbye hugs from men, but last time I was given a kind of affectionate hug was last year and I hadn't been hugged like that in years. It was definetaly more than a friendly hug, but the guy was really attractive and I just felt awkward and then when I saw him again after than I couldn't talk to him. I tried and tried to make things work, but it all just fell apart and he lost interest. I'm not sure if he ever really knew how much I liked him back. I felt like I was trying to break through a wall that couldn't be broken.
Awwwww
I've given up now. If even guys that really like me end up not wanting anything to do with me, what's the point in trying anymore. I must just be too not right for anyone to put up with.
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