6 Harsh Truths that will make you a Better Person

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Once again, I guess 95% of the population must have much higher than me, as the only thing a girl would have to 'earn' from me is my ability to trust her, rely and depend on her.

Of course niceness doesn't pay the bills but personally I value sustainability over excessive luxury and hedonism.

So a nice guy with a min. wage job is still valued less and considered to have very little to offer than a higher-earner.

But anyway, isn't it 2016?

I thought the dreaded Feminism suggests women are 'strong' and 'independent', so why, why oh why would they need to retain such high standards?

Because she doesn't want a man who depends on her?

Well, what if he has a min. wage job and doesn't depend on her but is independent?

Because reasons?

Being successful shows he's hardworking and ambitious?

Well, again, the woman who needs a high earner must have much higher standards than me because I don't correlate hardwork and ambitiousness with education level and monetary income, I associate it with real-life evidence the person has shown me.

Any spoiled 18 year old can be payed through university by their family and because he's N.T. land a simple cushy PT job, it's the aspies, the people disadvantaged from the get-go, the one's who pay their way through university while juggling English lessons and two PT jobs that are truly the hardworking and ambitious ones that have a story to tell.

Even the severely disabled person who may not have ever had a job or studied but is working very hard to live alone, drive, etc. what most N.T.'s consider 'the baseline', I would consider hardworking if the person was disadvantaged from the get-go.

As you can clearly see here a good majority of the males responding clearly don't give two sh*ts about subscribing themselves to the 'rat race' and just want a NICE woman that they are compatible with, attracted to, trust and love over anything else.

With regards to your herbs and traditional medicines to overcome your disabilities, this is largely dependent on brain chemistry and while it may work for some, a good number of aspie men here probably wouldn't react the same way.

Personally I already take a wide variety of traditional medicines processed into capsule form for improvement in cognition, focus, energy, sleep, mood, etc. along with good diet and exercise, good rest, etc. and yes they help, but it wasn't a cure-all fix-all for me.

Nor has therapy, medication or amatuer bodybuilding made me 'overcome' my Apsergers.

Yes, I am in such a better position physically and mentally a few years ago but I'm still not up to par with the average N.T. even MY age let alone when I'll be an older adult and fall further behind if I don't attempt to catch-up.

Life is a marathon, not a sprint but it's better you at least jog the marathon than walk, otherwise people will just think you were never even trying.

Unlike you, a good majority of the men and women here cannot just pick themselves up by their bootstraps and make life-altering changes within a few years.

Some, if not the vast majority here are already using massive amounts of treatment methods including therapy, medication, and trying to leave their comfort zone all the time through studying at university, working jobs, getting out to social events and trying to meet people and women as much as possible, etc.

Seems we're doomed to fail though because we don't subscribe to the same principles that you and a good bulk of N.T. society, particularly women, do.


What's all that dating advice constantly thrown around?

Just BE URSELZ? Just have CAWKFIDANCE?

Secondly, I believe the vast.majority of people have committed at least one crime, even if no one ever knew, petty theft counts, and that for.most people it would probably actually be ditticult to resist committing crime in a situation you were guaranteed to get away with it

Well, relationships of virtually any kind, whether professional or romantic, are about what people have to offer one another, to give one another, to do for one another etc in a win-win reciprocal way... and tough s**t if you're not up to par. ie I work, I get paid. I don't work, I don't get paid. Pretty simple stuff.

The article doesn't state that money is all important, however, that it is important in the sense of how our capitalist society is structured & thus it certainly doesn't hurt to have some of it. Even then, it's not so much about money as it is about being able to obtain & retain it.. the process. If you can manage that, you'll have the resources to be a provider or offer things of value (not trinkets, utilitarian value). Money is just a commonly agreed upon societal yardstick with which to measure peoples' ability to provide for themselves and offer these things to others.

I wasn't born with a silver spoon or privilege, either. I was once in debt just over $100K & then bankrupt. I'm now in the black multiple 5 figures and working my way ever wealthier, slowly, bit by bit. I'm fortunate to have the support of family that does help me do this via low cost living arrangements. My point is that not being born into money doesn't mean you can't earn and accumulate any. There are plenty of self made multimillionaires who came from poverty.

The author doesn't say you deserve to be alone.. he's suggesting that if you do what it takes to earn it, you can earn your spot as a more attractive person & not be alone.

Self made millionaires who come from poverty are the exception not the rule. Also it is kind of hard to accumulate money when you have to spend it all on bills and needs. I myself am on SSI but my boyfriend works and yeah he doesn't end up with money left over to save and accumulate....it all goes to monthly expenses, sometimes he is able to save a bit of back up money. But yeah I don't know anyone who is in a position to accumulate much money, unless they win the lottery or something.

Self made millionaires who come from poverty are the exception not the rule. Also it is kind of hard to accumulate money when you have to spend it all on bills and needs. I myself am on SSI but my boyfriend works and yeah he doesn't end up with money left over to save and accumulate....it all goes to monthly expenses, sometimes he is able to save a bit of back up money. But yeah I don't know anyone who is in a position to accumulate much money, unless they win the lottery or something.

The entire article is about how it doesn't matter what you measure yourself by, it's all about what you can give that other person and tough **** if you're not up to par. Money is all important and unfortunately I was not born with a silver spoon or the 'privilege' others were. If you're not on the same page as the article then you deserve to be alone according to the logic of the author.

Two-full-job-working couples can accumulate money.

Two-full-job-working couples can accumulate money.

I often wonder how, if you take two ordinary people, one will become a self-made millionaire and one will remain ordinary. Just what separates the two?

I often wonder how, if you take two ordinary people, one will become a self-made millionaire and one will remain ordinary. Just what separates the two?

Typically, millionaires actually save money--they earn more than they spend. And, they learn how to do that an early age, so that one can take advantage of compounded returns. For example, if you had 100,00 saved up by age 30 and it doubled every 10 years. Even if you didn't save any more you would have 200,000 at age 40, 400,000 at age 50, and 800,000 at age 60! More importantly, with such a resources they are less likely to panic and make bad decisions.