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I'm the opposite, I only feel comfortable when I'm wearing a bra, so much so that I even sleep in bras. I don't feel comfortable without the support. I also need to have it be the right size not just in the cup, but in the band, the part that goes around your ribcage.

I need the 'band' to be super-tight. If the band size is too large and moving around, it drives me crazzzzeeeee. But if the band size is really tight, all is well in my world.

It may even be that I'm making my bra bands act as the "hugging" technique said to soothe people on the spectrum, as something about the sheer pressure of the tight band goes a long way to making me okay, and a loose band affects everything. I have to even sew mine tighter if I can't find a small enough size in the shops.

Are you sure you can't find a right-fitting bra? Most women are not wearing the correct bra size, as for a long time we haven't been measuring the right places properly.

You have to measure your band size, then the largest place around the actual breast, then find out the difference and consult a chart that calculates what the cup size should be. Things wind up crazy, like "28 F" instead of the 34 C someone may have been mistakenly wearing. And it's impossible to find those adjusted sizes in stores other than specialist ones.

Seems like the vast majority of bras in the stores where I shop now are padded. Who thinks everyone wishes they had larger boobs? I certainly don't. I go for a compressing too-small sports bra and am comfortable everywhere I go in it. I would love to size down a cup at least or even two. Small boobs rock.

About 10 years ago I didn't wear a bra either... I couldn't find any the right style or material... now there's a lot much more choice. Even at Walmart. I still often don't wear one because I wear layers anyway, a dress and a shirt over that and leggings under the dress. Sometimes a pretty tanktop over the shirt.

And being overweight is the only reason I even have boobs or a butt. If I was a normal weight I'd be straight as a ruler; it's just the way I'm built.

I hate having breasts. I hate having a vagina. I hate not being sexless.
I refused to wear a bra until I was 13. I couldn't wear padded bras, and I still can't. It felt like wires and ropes were tied around my entire body, constantly, when I wore bras. The only reason I began wearing bras, at 13, was so no one could see my nipples through my shirt. I wore training bras for years, loathing 'real' bras. Despite being small-chested, I even ordered a chest-binder marketed towards transgender men when I was 15, despite my not being transgender, just to compact, flatten, and hide my breasts because they made me so uncomfortable.
Sensory issues and breasts aren't a good combination. Even with breasts on the small-side, I've seriously considered getting a breast reduction for the past 5 years. It feels disgustingly uncomfortable to have lobs of meaty flesh on my chest, protruding. I hate it. The mere thought of breasts often causes me to squirm out of discomfort.

You'd probably be interested in bralettes or a binder. At this point, bralettes are all I can really wear. Absolutely no padding or wiring, just elastic and, sometimes, lace. They're extremely comfortable and cause minimal sensory issues for me. For women with breasts on the larger side, it can be difficult to find bralettes that can support their chest well, but they do exist. I still go braless quite often, but I'm usually too self-conscious to do that.

If your issues with having breasts reach the point where you cannot stand them any longer, I don't think there would be anything wrong with getting a breast reduction. Do anything and everything you can to postpone that potential need, as surgery on the breasts can be extremely expensive and not covered by health insurance, and can lead to a myriad of health complications. If you do decide to get a breast reduction, good luck! I wish we could all exist comfortably.

Finding the right bra size is paramount, however there is no standard bra sizing system so they vary between brands and occasionally even between models.
Me personally, I range between a 36/14G-I. I really like fayreform bras. They work for me. Because I am larger, it is harder to find bras in my size. And when I do, they are expensive.

It is best to go to a bra store as opposed to a general department store. Even then, trust your intuition. If you feel the bra is too loose or tight tight - say so. You should be able to get two fingers under the straps, but not much more. It should do up on the third set of hooks, but I often find that the second set is not so irritating on my skin. Don't shop when you are having a bad day.

One of the best sites I have seen for evaluating your boobs and deciding what sort of bra you need is https://www.herroom.com/bra-fitting-center,954,30.html There is more to bras that just cup size and band size.
If you do like compression type bras - there are a number of sports bras that are good for this. They have their own sizings.

I agree there is more to bra size than just cup size and band size.

For example, I find that many bras have the cups too far apart for me. Like, the bra is actually made for someone whose boobs are further apart than mine are but the manufacturer just "scaled down" the cup size and band size but left the cups in the same position in the structure of the bra.

I have a very small ribcage and so, proportionately, my boobs are seemingly closer together than other women. I don't mean they are squished or I'm all cleavage -- actually I'm not, lol. They are still separate. They just are in places on my chest that are proportionally nearer to each other than a woman who has a larger skeleton and therefore everything else on her is in different relative dimensions.

The only bra I ever found that seemed made for the "placement" of my boobs was something by Gilligan & O'Malley that Target used to sell about fifteen years ago. They were perfection for all my needs and wants in a bra. No sooner had I bought the few they had in my size, than I went back for more and they had ended that line!! !! !!

I have actually found them being sold on e-bay -- not used, new! There are e-bayers out there who apparently buy up tons of unsold or "seconded" lines of clothing that never sold or got pulled at the end of a season, and would end up in outlet stores or something.

So I bought every one of those that I could find, to "stock up" on the only bra that has ever really fit me yet was a reasonable, ordinary price.

I've now worn them all out. I'm stuck wearing crap that doesn't fit. I can't afford to shop from one of those fancy places that actually might have something that's right for me.

I have large breast :L( I only wear a bra when I am going out to work, or whatever. It home, never. My boobs need time off too!

You could try wearing a snug cotton undershirt/camisole instead of a bra. That might be more comfortable.

You didn't mention trying a band to flatten them, hold them firmly against the body (if physically possible based on cup size). I don't recall being as uncomfortable with my breasts as you write, but I wasn't pleased with them. Now approaching my 50s, I kind of like them. I am glad you are seeking advice and making careful consideration of a major procedure. Wishing you well as you consider what will work for you.

What insurance do you have?

It might be difficult to get the insurance to pay

How are you going to convince the insurance to pay?

A diagnosis of autism might make it easier

A little

After years of struggling to find a comfortable bra with wire and tight bands I now only wear tank tops with an included shelf bra. It does help that I lost lots of weight and they are much smaller but I was far too concerned previously about trying to make them defy gravity. Having them smaller is a good enough reason to eat well and would be a much better option than surgery and have many many other good effects on your life. Stop eating processed food and everything will be better in your life.

I need a bra for comfort. I'm a 34/36DD in US sizing, so my back hurts if I don't. I've needed one since I was 7 or 8 due to Risperidol. I wish I was more androgynous looking because I'm straight as a stick except for my bust.
I prefer wired bras because of the support. I just recently got properly sized by my aunt, and wore improper fitting wireless bras to the point of breast tissue crushing for more than a decade. I prefer t-shirt bras with full coverage, and light padding (enough to cover nipples, not enough to push up). Why are push-up bras made in a cup size larger than a C?

I just wear sports bras now...its like a half shirt for my boobs and I like just slipping it on without having to screw around with straps and the little connecter part.