To all the bitter men

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Hey guys, this is my first post on here. I recently got diagnosed with aspergers(22) and have since been lurking a bit on various forums and gathered some information about my diagnosis. In that proccess I've noticed a pattern amongst males with aspergers, and that seems to be extreme bitterness towards women in general.

I want to say first and foremost that I can relate to this bitterness. When my previous relationship ended about one year ago, and my heart was crushed like an ant, I started trying to approach women in various social situations and met nothing but rejection and ridicule because of my slightly odd personality. After facing all this rejection while simultaneously watching my ex move on super fast... my confidence hit rock bottom and my bitterness grew. I eventually stumbled upon something called MGTOW, which is a dumb philosophy revolving around avoiding any relationships with women. I kept reading that crap even though I knew it was stupid and immature, because it gave me relief, a coping mechanism of sorts.

I still sometimes force myself to read mgtow stuff just to cope, even though I honestly think it's childish and not something I am proud of... I don't hate women either, it's just that being a really healthy, physically fit, somewhat intelligent 22 year old, and not being able to attract the opposite sex, it f*****g hurts... to the overweight guys here, having six pack abs doesn't help you if you're a self loathing and socially akward guy..
So my bitterness is mostly targeted against myself.. I am not bitter about women rejecting me, I am bitter about not having the skills to prevent it, and not ever being able to acquire them

Some of the rhetoric on this site regarding women have been really really harsh, and guys I completely understand why you do it, but realise that generalising all women with horrible adjectives is not fair, and not the right way to go about it. Even though some of us are born to be miserable, hatred won't ever make us any less miserable..

In the end I will probably live my life according to mgtow philosophy, try to be as happy as I can on my own, without bothering any women on my way. Though I'm sure I won't ever truly be happy, or feel like I'm good enough as a person.

Anyways guys, I just needed to vent a bit, but I also wanted to know how you deal with your bitterness, it seems to be such a common thing in male aspies, because it is a by product of not being able to communicate with women properly.

I turn inward with self loathing more than anything else, I would say I am more bitter in a general sense than specifically about relationships even tho that's a sour spot. I am not bitter towards women, I am too avoidant and guarded to even progress to the point where I develop feelings for people and I recognize that as deficit on my part. There is a lot in my life to be bitter about besides, I am most definitely bitter about my education and where I grew up and I've felt this way since I was very young. Bitter about the world the way it is, who isn't? It's just overall condition, I am not happy and I don't see myself becoming happy so the idea of 50 years+ more of this hardens you for sure. I vent online because I don't talk about it in real life, I am very anxious self conscious person and I don't feel comfortable talking my struggles. This general attitude of intolerance of depression is tough, even more in real life and I have a lifetime of trauma that made me this way. Lot of other personal things to be bitter about, what good does it serve? I don't know, it's not a feeling I consciously try to feel.

I wasn't a coddle spoiled child, nobody helped me and if it weren't for my mother I would of been a 9th grade dropout. I'm trying to work thru this stuff now, I wish I was 10 years younger.

How old are these women? You're only 22. I myself don't like talking to women younger than about 28.

Really good post, I do the same. Self hate and place the blame squarely where it belongs, my shoulders. Though the burden gets heavier as you get older and the failure mounts. My failures are my own, so I own it. I've never heard of MGTOW.

Keep this in mind, life is pure chaos in motion. Some things can become more predictable and even monotonous, but there will always be chaos that you never expect to happen. You can roll the dice 50 times and never get 6 or you could roll that same dice once and get 6. No one's life experience is exactly the same. Pi my friend.

Its not harsh to say the truth. The truth is that females have way to high standards and have it more eazy in the dating game then guys does.

People say things about guys all the time in a negative way, but nobody cares about that.

Females that have mental problems look down at males that have mental problems. No way you can force me to respect females when they dont respect guys like me.

Nothing wrong with avoiding toxic femininity.

Another woman bashing thread. Great. Makes you all so much more attractive.