Banned From MB...again

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Anna, remember it IS a social game. They WILL recruit new members, but ONLY those who reflect their values. And it is a game that is willingly played by NTs and those who wish to climb a social ladder, belong/advance in a hierarchy, and they intuitively KNOW the rules. The rules that you and I and many other Aspies do not get. We just do not get it.

I know I examined my psych texts like that expedition I mentioned previously. The knowledge was applied to tests, not real people.

USE that knowledge you are accumulating. LEARN to see how the theories apply to the people in public. PRACTICE your own analyzing skills by simply READING the posts on this message board or ANY message board.

One person on another site had a father who was a psychiatrist. I inferred from one post, that he must have worked from home. As she had said that her father made her analyze instantaneously the KIND of person who wanted to see him, and that he would be mad at her if she did not cut off a certain kind of person.

I was shocked. She said she was a young person at that time. Yeah, make a child become a professor of psychology and then blame the child if they don't pick it up. I am still disgusted. I, as an Aspie, could NEVER have picked that stuff up. And ANY child is NOT responsible for a parent's job.

How DARE a parent place that responsibility on a child.

You may have to shut up in university. I didn't. I reported professors for hypocrisy. I hate hypocrisy. And I WANT to know if I do that too. You will need to be part of the group, in THEIR eyes to get in grad school. BUT, you CAN keep records... You CAN express yourself and what you observe in your own personal writings. This does NOT rock the boat, and gives you the release you need to continue.

That professor's handout said that if people did not want to be on time for class, they should reassess their priorities and not bother with the class. Something like that. And get who was consistently late? That professor. He was always late. I think ONCE he was on time. ONCE in an entire semester. So I sent a letter to the chair and suggested that the professor in question should reassess his wanting to teach. Hah.

I couldn't shut up. I have always been outspoken.

It hurts a lot when people attack. So we HAVE to learn the psychology and other behavioral patterns. We have to think about them consciously. And we have to use those things so often that they become second nature.

Remember, we all started off just pooping whenever we had to. Really. We defecated, we urinated, we hollered our little lungs out. We learned over time to control those things. We originally had to make a conscious effort to be aware of our bodily processes, what those feelings meant, and to look for the proper (read that as socially acceptable) outlet (no pun intended).

We learned to communicate that we had to use the bathroom, and to get to the bathroom to do what was required.

It is much more natural to just let it happen. Hah! But it's not socially acceptable.

So we require conscious effort to work on communication and learning what is socially acceptable. It's harder. Yup. But, that learning process gives us strength in other learning processes.

Our attention to detail can greatly benefit those who do not automatically "get it". It could help NT teens who are in wonder. Kids. Adults entering into a new job, NT or Aspie. Changing behavioral patterns. Like starting an exercise program, eating healthy, moving to another place. Some people just do it, and they don't need our help. Others need a little help. And some need a lot of help.

If I knew to expect hounding, it wouldn't hurt as much, right? If I knew how to analyze a group before posting, and see what they wanted, and decide if I wanted to fit in with them, it would help.

A "life instruction course" would be helpful for a lot of people. You could lecture forever on that. And it would be certainly appreciated by people like me. I could have used that in grade school. As so many patterns are set in grade school, those things could be worked on from the beginning, and that could contribute to a better world.

While we can't change it all, making a difference in ONE PERSON'S LIFE is a MAJOR contribution. Who contributed to Martin Luther King's life? Probably a combination of who he was, how he felt, what he saw, and what he chose to do. What about Ghandi?

Someone, somewhere, contributed to those lives. They will forever be unknown and unnamed. I am not destined for fame. I do believe that I am destined to be myself, to set examples, to make contributions. I don't need to be the one who affects the world. I leave that to those who are better qualified.

What I want to do is plant a seed. A simple, small seed. Some will nourish it, and it will grow strong. In your future lectures, do not seek to change all. Just plant the seed. Out of hundreds of seeds, that go off to different circumstances, a few may grow.

And those seeds of the parent plant will be passed on to others. We may not be alive or have any direct connection to those people who make the BIG differences in this world.

But I guarantee there were many influences all along the way for the many good people in this world that have made major differences. I wished I could have taken the place of Princess Diana, when she died. She was doing good. People listened to her.

Then again, I might just be in that supporting role. SOMEONE influenced her along the way. Right? Some teachers. Some news reporters. Some PBS shows. Some "something" got her interested in a particular cause that she decided to get involved with.

Think in those terms. I might not (probably will never) get the Nobel Peace Prize. I sincerely want to do something big. BIG~!~!~! I want peace so bad.

But I think my place is to set the stage with other people. To ready them for a real leader. Someone who has done the climbing of the social ladder and can take those lessons they may have learned from their grandparents, in which I may have played a minor role.

I won't be around to see it. The grandkids won't know it was me who added a tidbit. I will be long gone and forgotten.

But isn't it worth it?

It is.

Oh yes, it is.

Off on a tangent: the first thing that came to mind when I saw the subject line was, "How can someone be banned from Manitoba?"

(Manitoba's postal abbreviation is MB)