Does being afraid of sex count as asexual?

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Non-libidoist asexual.

That makes sense.

how about delibidoed? nonlibidoed?

sounds about right. in my case the desire to do the former came about must earlier than the desire for the latter, and i never considered myself "asexual" at any point. i don't think the desire to pleasure yourself and the desire to do it mutually has to come at the same time...i wonder if it's the same for anybody else.

I wanted to be with somebody else at the same time as I wanted to pleasure myself.

You could just be a prude. A prude is somebody who hates and fears sex but can still feel sexual attraction. I identify myself as a homosexual prude because even though im sexually attracted to the same gender ive never had sex and probably never will.

Hmm, I've encountered some scary militant asexuals who would turn inside out reading that.
I have identified in that way casually - I am bisexual/pansexual in terms of attraction, as in can feel sexual attraction for anyone of any gender if they appeal to me - but am not interested in having sex with another person. These rather militant asexuals screamed that because I can experience sexual attraction in any way, cannot possibly be asexual, as asexuals do not experience sexual attraction of any kind.
Like anything it seems, everyone has their own definition and they all believe they're right. Then people start mincing things up to "grey-A" "demisexual" and so on and arguing about the sub-categories of those, and it gets crazy and pointless.

an asexual non libidoist.

An asexual can feel aesthetic,romantic or emotional attraction without having sexual desires for the person.

No, a fear of sex is not asexuality. Asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction to anyone.

Some people, particularly females, fear sex because they have structural or other medial issues that make penetration painful. This is common but not normal and can be treated, and if this is the case, you should discuss it with your doctor, specifically, a gynecologist or OBGYN.

But how is it 'sexual' attraction it you don't desire sex with other people, wouldn't that just be attraction?

I used to be afraid of straight sex and I wanted to be a lesbian for some time. I went off men. I was still attracted to them, though. Fear did push some of the attraction out of my conscious mind, but it would come out subconsciously. I ended up getting into relationships with men despite resisting it. Given that my current lover is so good, I'm glad my instincts won out.

I have never had any interest in having sex but the idea of it does scare me. Even the thought of someone kissing me repulses me.