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I have a major problem, i put 150 in the bank and now only have 0.77p in the bank i tried winning loads of money on gambling but lost. the thing is i get £200 every month so i will have £200 in the bank again soon but how is that going to get me what i want in my life.

How is that at the age of 24 going to get me a place to live, a girlfriend, a family.

Has there ever been anyone in my situation at the age i am now to have a partner with the money i have in my bank, in 5-10 years i want to have loads of money on things i can spend on my family if i get one

WHAT DO I DO!! !

please help

gambling is a terrible way to earn a living and rarely leads to anything but trouble. but if you have no other choice, i think i get it.

making enough money in that way to support a family and finance a home is nothing short of a miracle.

maybe consider not doing it. is gambling your "problem"?

so what i'm going to die a lonley old man then if its a miracle.

I am now tempted to kill myself then

im asking how i will get a girlfriend, be independent and live on my own in the next 5-10 years, i don't mind which comes first but how can i do that with 0.77 in bank

that's a very long and involved process i think....more needs to be taken into account than just your savings in the bank.

i was just saying you could be making far smarter decisions with your money. do you have anyone you can talk to on this matter, like a relative? it's very difficult to do it alone, yes. i realize £200 a month isn't enough to be fully self sufficient but if you turn to gambling to make more, you might end up with even less in the end.

either way, i don't think this is anything worth killing yourself over...did i say something wrong?

fortunately, finding a girlfriend is (in theory) free but you have a thread open on that already it seems.

but in 5-10 years if i try really hard how much money could i have if im careful

Email the sites, tell them you are underage and request that they block your access/delete your membership or user account. If you are old enough to gamble, you can still request that they block you.

Most Western countries have free gambling helpline numbers you can ring to get advice from a person trained in counselling problem gamblers.

If your gambling is causing you problems then you are a problem gambler, and they have heard it all at the helplines I am sure. You may have to take responsibility for the past choices you have made, and their outcomes, before you can change the behaviours that led to your money disappearing. The helpline can probably guide you to a support group or counsellor or both, and it seems like getting this help would really benefit you long term and now.



This thread should be in the Haven, not General Autism issues.

Like others said, you should stop gambling. That would at least lower the outflow of money. The next step should be increasing the amount of money that flows in. Do you have a job, or are you looking for one?

1) Don't gamble.
2) I've had a lot less in the bank and have lived off a dumplings and gravy (flour, suet, salt, pepper, gravy granules, water) before.
3) I met my future wife when I was a stinky, part-time kitchen porter on £1.50 an hour.
4) Don't assume that your life will be the same in 5-10 years. I know mine changed like the weather.

So, when you next get your money: budget properly, buy food sensibly (vegetables, pulses, grains and pasta are really cheap) and, most importantly, don't gamble. If you have trouble budgeting and cooking then get someone you trust to help you learn how.

Hi, i really want and need to turn my life around, i am 24 years old with autism. I am at college and have no girlfriend, i haven't even kissed a girl or held a girls hand. Not even taken one to a movie. So this is the question. How do i turn my life around. Where can i meet girls, i don't want to do online dating i want to experience new things, meet new people how can i do that. I have now decided i am going to save as much money as i can, walk to places and not get the bus and try and have as much money as i can to live on my own and become independent. I know i only have 0.77 in the bank but i have a aim in the next 10 years i will be hopefully living with a girlfriend/partner and maybe have kids in 20 years. If that a realistic aim?

I am also never going to gamble again. Is it a realistic aim, i do get 200 a month so i am now going to aim to put at least 150 of that in the bank and walk more places and find a job. Hopefully soon i will be richer then i am and be able to think of my next stage in life

You are gambling on the wrong things. Casinos, card houses, and bookies profit from your gambling because the odds are in their favor. If you are going to gamble your money, switch from gaming to investing and make informed decisions and take calculated risks.

A truly rich person is one who knows he has enough. A good place to pin one's hopes for material wealth is at the world average, and a much better one is at the sustainable average. Some places make it illegal to live cheaply, but many still manage to find niches. When you are content, you are more likely to find friends. One way to meet compatible people is to volunteer for something you believe in. I also knew a very happy couple who had both had many relationships and never wanted another. Then they met in a bookshop, started chatting, and have had an interesting conversation ever since. After a long dry spell, you are probably prone to expecting more than casual contact, but we all have far more acquaintances than friends. Just enjoy whatever familiarity you can build up with people you encounter regularly for social apprenticing.

i do think those are realistic aims. you say you want children...but how much do you like children? i don't think you need to have extensive experience with them years before having your own in order to be a good parent, but it might be something to consider. it's a lifelong commitment with no way to escape once it has happened.

you have goals and desires, which is good. i have similar ones. it's far better than directionless moping IMO.

i don't know how much job experience you have right now or what your skills are...but if there's anything open, even part time work will do you a whole lot of good in being able to earn more to earn a place, and to spend on fancy dates. you might even meet some people there. if not, volunteering might be a valuable way to spend your time, it gives similar benefits.

if you can't be money rich, and many of us won't be, then being sustainable and comfortable in your financial situation might be even better. it offers stability, which many people your age or older are looking for in a long term partner. i remember reading somewhere that one should spend no more than 1/3rd of his monthly earnings on rent (rest for savings, bills, etc) maybe take that into account when you're at the point that it's relevant to you.

and as someone else said...if it turns out that leaving gambling is more difficult than you imagined...perhaps you could "replace" that addiction to risk with informed investing. but i don't know much about that myself.

wisdom and contentedness in one's situation is itself a great wealth.

Well the great thing is i now have £100 in my bank account, i know its not much but its still a start

awesum.

keep it up.