Feel hopeless :(

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Sigh I'm not sure what to do about getting employed there's not a whole lot I'm good at and I also have a learning disability meaning that learning new skills is difficult and I can't find anywhere that's willing to deal with a slow learner. On top of that I been asking around at other message boards and I get from recommendations of seeking out services to people telling me that employers/business shouldn't have to hire/accommodate those with a disability and I'm afraid that mentality is getting worse and thus gonna make it much harder for me to get and keep a job.

I just don't know to do I am gonna take the advice of seeking out employment services but I hear even they're not guaranteed to help get a job I feel doomed of being unemployed and poverty for the rest of my life

Me too. And I can say that I just posed a topic on this, because I have been with a disability job services office, and they do nothing. All they say is "look on Seek" and tell me to hand in evidence of jobs I've applied for.
My idea is around retraining, which may help you, too. Retrain to a much higher level, in a field where employees are actually needed, aka an area of skill shortage. Become so well trained that your value outweighs your disability. If you have learning problems it could take longer, but it's still possible.
You'd also be on student welfare, rather than unemployment, which I think would be much less depressing. It's just getting into, and affording, the training courses which are my problem.

Did you look at any jobs related to accounting?

So now I may finally have a job lined up at Kroger (a grocery store) but I not hearing anything good about them being good with those with ASD that's making me worry that if I get the job they're gonna think my performance is poor and fire me.

Not good at a whole lot? How about focusing on the limited things that you are good at and building upon those? That way you can start looking at what you can do rather than you can't. Have you thought about taking those skills and going to volunteer somewhere? That way you can learn new things as well as old along with exposing yourself to new things. Also, because you are a slow learner does not mean you can't learn. It just means that you learn differently and at your own pace.

Also, there are all kinds of free things on the internet that you can teach yourself such as computer programming.

Most importantly, please for the love of autism do NOT get hung up on your lack of skills because it will make you depressed and bring everyone around you down. It's better to focus on the above.

Actually, the bad experiences people have are usually the result of having a bad boss who doesn't get or understand Aspergers, rather than company policy. The autism spectrum is very hard for normal people to understand, because you can't assume an Aspie is like another you actually know. What use is a label if it doesn't tell me anything useful?

I'm a single Mom struggling to find work at 31. Hours are usually terribly, pay is minimal, competition is fierce. I get frustrated seeing people landing ft jobs with ease, but I keep at it. Well recently I've given up a bit but I'm getting back. Also trying to start a home business, if I can. Keep going!

I've been working the same job since November. Until literally 5 days ago, work was going extremely well, as I seemed to be doing everything perfectly to my supervisors, regardless of the fact that I was occasionally making minor errors despite my best intentions. From Tuesday to Thursday, my supervisors suddenly took more notice of the same occasional minor errors I was making, apparently due to pressure from clients who were refusing to work with us anymore, and all of a sudden, I am in danger of being out of work again.

In the United States, Aspergers, no matter the DSM classification, i.e. "on the spectrum" is a protected classification. Disclose your condition to your employer or potential employer, would be my thought. Knowing your limitations and gifts, employers can make reasonable allowances for your "mistakes" while reinforcing your strengths. I know it's scary. But if you don't invoke the Federal and State laws in your defense, then NTs will abuse you. That's the way they roll. I've taken a lifetime of it, been fired many times, or taken advantage of over and over. It sucks. The sooner you learn to guard yourself, the better.

Do not dispair. You are not alone. I stand with you. We all do.