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04 Jul 2017, 9:22 am

Seriously, I came to the conclusion in the real life there is no meaning, just live your life and be happy for each day :heart:



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06 Jul 2017, 9:46 am

I think the answer you are pretty much going to get on this board is that life has, objectively, no meaning. That is what I think. However, I find that socializing makes me more energized and less depressed (even though I have no desire to socialize and would just like to stay home by myself all the time). It's like it causes my brain to shift gears and often snaps me out of depression, at least for a time, even if I don't have the greatest time when I'm out and start wanting to go home after a couple hours.



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06 Jul 2017, 9:56 pm

I think the answer you are pretty much going to get on this board is that life has, objectively, no meaning. That is what I think. However, I find that socializing makes me more energized and less depressed (even though I have no desire to socialize and would just like to stay home by myself all the time). It's like it causes my brain to shift gears and often snaps me out of depression, at least for a time, even if I don't have the greatest time when I'm out and start wanting to go home after a couple hours.
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"energized and less depressed?".

just b/c something makes you feel "energized and less depressed" does not mean that that activity, merchandise, or precious lil "person" has inherent meaning. or any other meaning.

for example, sleeping, Kit Kats, surfing the internet, and maybe at most. several other things. at this point. now that i am senile. make me feel energized and less depressed.

but that does not necessarily follow that the meaning of "life" (or the meaning of my "life), is to sleep, gorge on Kit Kats, surf the internet.



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14 Jul 2017, 7:11 am

Everyone is here for a reason. To learn, to teach, usually both.

I isolated myself to think to find the meaning of my life and I feel I found most of it. I now am turning outward to help others.



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11 Nov 2017, 1:48 pm

This is a very late response but what you wrote really resonated with me. I'm about to be 27 too and in the same boat. I purposefully distanced myself from people because they didn't like me but know i just feel useless and like a burden. For me, the thing that makes me happiest is helping others. Even with the smallest thing,it makes me feel useful and like i was put here for a reason. Maybe you can try the same too.



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11 Nov 2017, 4:23 pm

TryNotToBreathe wrote:
I think the answer you are pretty much going to get on this board is that life has, objectively, no meaning. That is what I think. However, I find that socializing makes me more energized and less depressed (even though I have no desire to socialize and would just like to stay home by myself all the time). It's like it causes my brain to shift gears and often snaps me out of depression, at least for a time, even if I don't have the greatest time when I'm out and start wanting to go home after a couple hours.

Same. I find it very strange that I enjoy socialising yet I have no desire to do it.

I only desire to continue doing it once I'm already doing it (most of the time). Maybe not socialising makes me depressed.


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12 Nov 2017, 10:02 am

There isn’t anything that possesses any form of inherent existential meaning whatsoever. I don’t know the "meaning" of my life, but if there is one, it is entirely of my own devising.



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12 Nov 2017, 10:18 am

I may have major goals, but I don't attach them to my own identity in the way that some people do.



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12 Nov 2017, 7:04 pm

Shahunshah wrote:
Their is only two principles I follow.

Pleasure and happiness is good, pain and suffering is bad. Everything we pursue must be to mitigate the latter in favor of the former, for us and the world around us. I think it gives me meaning.


I'm different. For many years I worked with damaged and traumatized horses. It was hard work. It was often frustrating, not the horses, but that all their problems came from stupid humans. I lost count of how many bones I broke being kicked and thrown. I was stood on, run over, bitten and even chased out of paddocks by the really angry ones. As I said, it was hard work but I always believed it was worthwhile. That's what gave my life meaning. I was doing something I believed in. I think believing what you are doing is worthwhile is more important than happiness. Happiness is fleeting. It's nice but never a permanent state. A sense of commitment to what you are doing, a belief that it's meaningful, gets you through the long, difficult and sometimes disappointing interludes between the happy bits.
For me, starting with a horse that could only be caught by running them into a small yard and gradually building trust to the point where I could walk up to them in a paddock and halter them and then months later having the horse see me coming and it comes running up to the gate to be haltered, those breakthroughs were the happy bits but the work inbetween the breakthroughs was often a tough slog. The belief in the meaningfulness was what sustained me.


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13 Nov 2017, 1:01 pm

An extremely wise, academically smart, visually handsome, socially adept, skinny, and homophobic man once had the nerve to tell me "the meaning of life is :cry: helping people :!: !" :lol:

Makes me wanna puke

He acted so innocent, like he never hurt anyone before in his life

Besides, every party has its own euphemisms

The Holocaust had a euphemism :lol: :. "ethnic cleansing" :roll:

Besides even if the meaning of life was "helping people", that does not explain why there are so many precious lil "people" in the world

He acted like Allah, Buddha, God, Krishna and etcetera descended from the sky and said "Justify your existence!"

And he answered "I'm :skull: helping people".

Does not excuse his homophobia

But now that I am 34 pretty much given up on trying to find a "meaning".


A higher Global Area Functioning would suffice

Better to have a functional meaningless life, than a dysfunctional meaningless life

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Some claim that the meaning of their life is:. Their job, their religion. Good causes. Like racism, sexism, homophobia, classism. "Helping people". Animal rights. And et cetera.

But maybe I think that those are just good methods to spend their lives, but not the "meaning"



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13 Nov 2017, 5:00 pm

Whatever the purpose of my life is, I'm probably missing out on it.


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13 Nov 2017, 8:47 pm

Sometimes I wonder if maybe there is no objective or subjective "meaning" of life, but some of us are so arrogant, as to believe that there is a meaning to their lives



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25 Nov 2017, 4:31 pm

Life not having meaning is a meaning that life has. That's what the madness in me wants to say but. it's a little bewildering and also. You have to make meaning in your life. It can be something as simple as something you enjoy doing. Or helping others but. It's there nonetheless.


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25 Nov 2017, 5:02 pm

I can choose to assign any meaning I want but that choice makes all possible meanings seem arbitrary.


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25 Nov 2017, 5:40 pm

No meaning or purpose



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25 Nov 2017, 5:46 pm

shortfatbalduglyman wrote:
No meaning or purpose
Having no meaning or purpose in life gives you the meaning and purpose to find meaning and purpose for your life you have to bring meaning and purpose into your life.


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