Considering disowning your child?

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The OP's father sounds like *he* was having a meltdown, perhaps due to the OP's meltdown, it's a vicious chain, LOL.


My dad said when I was 13 that he wished I'd never been born, but he was drunk. But I think he said it at least one other time too.

My mom said she should never have had children once.

My dad when I was NINE YEARS OLD once said he would give up his job as a parent and tell everyone when they asked him if he had kids that he didn't have any. He was SERIOUS too. He was mad at me for simply refusing to eat supper, because I didn't like tourtiere.

One of my own parents said that to me, out of the blue due to me stimming, whjch resulted in me having a meltdown and I wished they died in their sleep because they wished I wasn’t born. For a while I deliberately treated them horribly, I mean they always treated me horribly but them telling me they wish I was never born was the final straw and I was basically giving them a taste of their own medicine. They seriously consider disowning me because of my rebellious/retaliatory attitude.

My parents haven't disowned my adoptive siblings who sexually molested me. They kicked them out to protect me, but still care about them and are open to contact with them (my dad is Facebook friends with one of them).

So if sexually molesting children isn't enough to lose my parents' love, I don't think I will ever be disowned by them. They truly feel unconditional love for their children, no matter what we do.

I hope to give my child the same bedrock of unconditional love that my parents have given me.

You dad probably fell into the trap of comparing you to the dreams he had and to other people's children. No matter hard you try, as a parent its impossible to not get caught up in the social comparison. especially when other people's children are being praised or you are embarrassed in public.

However, your father's comments showed he is weak and uncaring to say this to you. In that instance he is the problem (not you).

You dad probably fell into the trap of comparing you to the dreams he had and to other people's children. No matter hard you try, as a parent its impossible to not get caught up in the social comparison. especially when other people's children are being praised or you are embarrassed in public.

However, your father's comments showed he is cruel, weak and uncaring to say this to you. In that instance he is the problem (not you)