What makes someone unattractive?

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If you think that's true you should meet my grandmother

I don't think you're ugly. No BS.

The way I personally see it is that we are still trying to figure things out. For that reason discussing personal tastes might be useful, it allows people to talk about them and see if it applies to the majority of people.

Imagine you had a thread dominated by big cynics like Face of Boo, who profess to know what the majority is like, you wouldn't get any kind of alternative viewpoint. And heck maybe those who will get into relationships with aspies are in the minority so finding out what they like can be a good thing.

If you would prefer this thread to be scientific, you could have explained that in the original post to begin with.
Talking about personal tastes on what makes someone unattractive, still follows the thread title and what is meant to be discussed on the thread IMO.

What the article says does make sense, however I think some of the studies are not particularly good.



For example this is not really surprising and while it says something about what people want or don't want in a relationship it says little about who has how good chances to get into a relationship.
After all, people with bad personalities don't exactly have 'evil' printed onto their foreheads in real life. Sure some kinds of evil or mean
are easily recognizable and some people will be avoided by others because they seem evil but a lot of people with bad personalities know how they come across and know how to pretend. There obviously are many things in between being a 'good' person and a 'bad' person. So just because the participants don't like people that get attributed with the word 'evil' doesn't say much about what of the many things in between they prefer irl.
Still, people who claim that only the bullies of their own gender get girlfriends/boyfriends and the nice guys/girls don't are obviously wrong. If they can't get a girlfriend/boyfriend it's usually neither because the opposite gender has a preference for bullies and idiots nor because they are nice (if they are) but because something else about them mightn't be that attractive.

I'm not saying this one isn't true but for me personally it isn't:

Actually I think it's quite off putting if someone never smiles and, while confidence is a good thing, excessive display of pride isn't.
But maybe I prefer men who smile frequently because I might have difficulties seeing small nuances in people's facial expressions and I often get the impression that I am bothering or boring the other person or that they simply dislike me if they never smile.

i think the most unattractive people are those who are conceited and believe they are better than everyone else.

^ agreed.

i don't react well to anything i perceive to be "highhorsing"...moral or otherwise.

Oh cool its Tsar Nicki.

Maybe that could be the case. I have certainly seen a share of very arrogant people be turned down.

i also do not have much time for people who are easily humiliated by me because it indicates that they think i have a judgemental mind which is incorrect, and if they retreat in some sort of agony which is designed to solicit "guilt" from me, then i think they are trying to rob me of emotions i do not have........heh....not well said but whatever.

Fair enough but If my thread is exactly the same as the other won't it get close for a double post or something?

I'm only bothered about looking like I've copied the other thread. Do you always explain yourself perfectly?

why are people acting like I'm trying to stop them talking because I have some issue with what they are talking about

Why are people humilated by you as opposed to just embarassed? Humilated suggests you are doing something to make them feel that way but Im assuming I am wrong

No I don't think so and besides that discussion might get revived for later.

That was my main concern I do understand personal taste can be important to I was never disagreeing with you about that. Was just trying to distinguish this post from the other.

Well you must have found your thread quite interesting. What kinds of things did you talk about?