What do guys look for in a woman?

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To me the most attractive trait in a woman is empathy, and I don't mean this fake new age attention seeking kind of empathy, trying to win social brownie points from others. But real genuine empathy for others, makes me open up and makes it easier for me to build trust. Second most would be intelligence.

Looks wise I am only picky about weight, otherwise I find many different looks attractive.

a pulse

What appeals to me are, as the thoughts happen; intelligence, kindness, grace, mercy, honesty, a sense of fun and humor, that she would have her own interesting hobbies, that she takes care of herself.

I still can't quite gather what I'm doing wrong. I have two dates lined up this weekend (the first in about 5 years due to being in an abusive relationship) and one later on over the Easter holidays. But neither of the first two I don't believe I will have enough in common with them to make it a lasting relationship and more a fling and the late one is moving back to China since his visa will run out soon. Seriously I have pretty bad luck when it comes to dating guys I like -.-

One thing I hadn't really thought of before, being dignity. It's a bit dumb because the remake of B&B put it into perspective, and Gaston's not really got a moral compass, but I also can't seem to stand when someone practically throws themselves at you. Doesn't need to necessarily be romantic, just anyone pushy really. You'd think I'd know better, though, having been desperate for attention and now having to learn some restraint.

That being said I'm usually pretty clueless so probably not a good idea to avoid more aggressive people.

For me, it's all about the eyes and the smile. I prefer a woman who is emotional based (empathetic), and can sense what mood I am in, or can sense my emotions that I have for her. I like women who can make me laugh a lot (that's somewhat important), I like witty or sarcastic women, and women who are willing to be sensual or very forward/playful or blunt. Also touch is important. If she doesn't like cuddling or kissing a lot, then I will probably lose interest.

Well, hey, thanks y'all!

And now for a different answer
Q: What do guys look for in a woman?
A: neither too much nor too little filling.

I'm generally looking for the small, sickly, genius type, preferably with one eye and a limp. But I'm very open minded, and would certainly consider two-eyed candidates as well.

avoiding abusers is less about changing yourself (other than having good boundaries-this is a skill), and more about learning how to identify patterns that are common in abusers-also a skill, you can get better at both with study and practice. if you like reading books, I can recommend some books when I get home from work. also Google "dating red flags". youtube probably has some videos in this area as well.
Practice, these skills don't come naturally to a lot of people, hence why there are many books exploring these topics.

I also recommend taking a long time to get to know people and studying their behavior across different circumstances over time. at least a year to begin to understand what another person is about.

What i look for in a woman,is a nice face,honesty,someone different and like myself,in many respects.

If you're an Aspie (and me especially), a pulse.

Every guy is different and look for different things in women.

The only thing most guys have in common is to want their partner to be healthy and conventionally attractive.
Make sure not to be a jerk to guys you like, I've seen some girls do this, and they are always the lonely ones.