Do any of prefer one parent over the other?
Joined: 24 May 2010
Joined: 25 May 2011
Location: Vancouver, British Columbia
sometimes i prefer my mom, but there have been times where its hard to tell her things because i know how she would react and she claims that the sooner i tell her something the better reaction i'll get from her.
Joined: 16 Aug 2016
Joined: 24 Sep 2013
Location: North of Emerald City
Definitely my dad. He has always acted like I was the best son he could have ever wanted and likes to take me places. And he is a real character, very fun loving and slightly mischievous.
With my mom it seems more like I am what she got stuck with. She's a good mom, but kind of more like a nurse.
I gotta be me.
Dx level 3 severe autism age 2. Current dx level 2 moderate to severe autism. Cognitively disabled. Severe dyspraxia.
Joined: 7 Sep 2014
Location: on the computer
Mother most of the time, now it feels like they are all against me, she has been brainwashed by the step-dad who throughout the time I lived with them has been very critical of my behaviour and likened it to a 4 yr old kid and has caused me emotional trauma which he today assumes has vanished but has not - i reckon he had a rough childhood himself so he'd thought he pass it on to me. Now his controlling attitude has reached mother, to a point i don't recognise her anymore and she no longer supports my way of thinking. Father on other hand i rarely see, maybe once a year, so only logical that he doesn't support me financially or any other way really - he is sickened at the thought of giving me money, so far from being the best dad even with health issues that he faces.
So i don't really have anyone to have a preference over, hard to make a choice with these traits they have:
Mother - not accepting, makes too many assumptions, expects too much
Father - absence from life, spoils his other children, gets on with my siblings more
Step-dad - anger management issues, controlling behaviour, trust issues, disrespect
But i do have grandparents who support me with accommodation etc so they are probably the only ones I can count on even if they don't understand my condition.
Joined: 6 Jun 2016
My father is slightly less abusive. I still dislike them both.
Undiagnosed, though personally suspected ASD since 11 years old; parents grudgingly accept it
Your neurodiverse (Aspie) score: 129 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 54 of 200
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Joined: 28 Jun 2016
I don't prefer one over the other, but it's easier with my mom, not as awkward. She helps me understand my dad better, though, too. For example, she explained that my dad was never ashamed of me, but has just always been intimidated by me. He's been making more of an effort lately than I have, which is more credit to him.
Joined: 20 Mar 2017
Joined: 2 Nov 2008
Location: United Kingdom, England, Berkshire, Reading
My parents were as bad as each other. They thought for years I had brain damage with lack of awareness and severe mental retardation as it was called in the 1960s. My father now dead (thank God) was a child beater who was a bit free and easy with the belt and my mum was emotionally abusive since it was found I had an IQ that was in the allistic range. They saw that as a license to abuse me and there was no understanding of autism. They actively tried to prevent me from getting a diagnosis and any support that I needed. But would just use that as an excuse. I have a family but they are not loving at all but abusive and encouraged a them and us mentality. OK there was a few good moments but they were few and far between and the 1967-74 stuff the so called kindness was just pervert style grooming to gain trust. As soon as I left the learning disability school all hell was let loose emotional abuse, expected to be starved of affection for up to 90 odd years and my mum has no regrets. No mother's day present from me she doesn't deserve it since the only thing she is proud of giving me was epilepsy.
Joined: 7 Dec 2008
Yeah, I definitely prefer my mom. She has always done her very best, been understanding and supportive, she played with me when I was little and is someone I always have felt that I could talk to. We've always had a very strong bond and a good connection. She spent time with me, played with me, read to me, and I was very aware of which parent gave me presents for x-mas and b-day. She did all this in addition to working since I was little.
She couldn't have been a better mother, and I love her so much for who she is and everything she has done for me and keeps doing and the bond we have.
My father on the other hand has always had a way of treating me as if I was a chore, never wanting to play with me unless he could get out of it somehow. He has never been approachable or supportive. He can be full of criticism but never constructively so. We have never really bonded. Already when I was 6 I knew I couldn't count on him to keep a promise of spending time with me (yes, that is a big deal to a kid). He's also hard to ask if you need help. His response is often annoyance and grunts, which is nothing like my mother. He can be pretty lazy really. As much as it can be said that he has worked and put food on the table, so did my mom, and more is needed for us to bond.
One good thing about him is that he made a zoo for my plastic animals, and he built a Lego City for me. (I was only interested in playing with the end result, not building).
"And the turtles, of course...all the turtles are free, as turtles and, maybe, all creatures should be."
Joined: 5 Feb 2014
Location: Chicago, IL
I prefer my dad over my mom. My dad is more kind and more understanding than my mom. Also, I still have some resentment towards my mom because of what she did to me while I was in her womb. She was taking at least 50 different kinds of prescription strength pain killers when she was pregnant with me, which caused me to be born a crack baby. I was all blue and not breathing when I was born. Then when I was brought back to life, I had a high pitched cry like that of a crack baby. I found this out from my dad about 10 years ago. Also, my mom got pregnant by her second husband and miscarried. I found this out from my sister about 3 years ago. I was shocked to hear that. I could have had a little brother or sister. Anyway, I guess I can understand why my mom did what she did. She's a drug addict and so am I, so I know what it's like not being able to control your drug use, no matter what your circumstances are. Another thing about my dad is that I feel like I can talk to him about anything, not so much with my mom. She and my dad divorced when I was 4 years old, and then I had to live with my grandparents because my mom was too screwed up on drugs to take care of me. Now I'm 36 years old and my mom is 70 and she's still smoking at least 2 packs of cigarettes a day. She has all these other health problems, too. My dad is going to be 70 in May and is in much better health than my mom.
Joined: 26 Jan 2013
My mother was emotionally abusive and had fits of rage. I know nothing about her and she left when i was 13. She knows nothing about me, she knows im autistic but she doesnt care.
My dad is the best thing ever. Hands down. No words can describe how much i love him and what he has done for me.
Obsessing over Sonic the Hedgehog since 2009
Diagnosed with Aspergers' syndrome in 2012.
Diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder Level 1 severity without intellectual disability and without language impairment in 2015.
Your neurodiverse (Aspie) score: 170 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 43 of 200
You are very likely neurodiverse (Aspie)
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