Awkward around family members

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^ yeah I feel the OP. . .well, I guess you and the other posters in this thread are somewhat lucky in some respects as you have family members that seem somewhat close to you even though you might not be. . .

I'm in a situation where I have living relatives but I don't have contact with any of them. . .it's a really lonely place when that happens. . .when you have a death in the family, a mother, it's like glass breaking. . .a family can never fully recover. . .a mother is the glue that holds the unit together. . .

But yeah, I mean, it can be awkward facing my own relatives that I haven't seen in 10 years or more. . .

Your account says that you're 35 though.

I am 35 but this extended family member is 28.

Ok didn't get that.

Anyway, they sit there and complain about how I am this bad influence with a bad temper who makes bad choices and yet it's okay for their child to dress in this creepy goth look with heavy make-up. I am fine with their kid doing this but can't find it in their hearts to accept me.

See what's wrong with this picture?

It's always awkward because they expect me to be married by now.

My family didn't expect me to be married or even really expect me to be in a relationship but that was probably because I have so many issues that they held me to different standards than they would of for most others. It was good they weren't on my back or anything but knowing I'm held to different standards cuz of my issues made me feel kinda like a failure.

also feel awkward/shy, don't like family very much most of the time

I usually feel pretty awkward and out of place at family gatherings. A lot of them are nice to me, but I don't always know how to interact with them and some of them treat me differently.

I'm awkward around anyone really. Defeating awkwardness takes a while.

I use to be close to my extended family as child but I don't even have a relationship with them as an adult, they are strangers to me now.

I did as well and I was sad when they suddenly stopped talking to me. I do think that perhaps they realized that I wasn't going to grow out of being "Autistic" after 18.

While they don't understand me, though, they aren't really interested in anyone outside of their immediate family.

It's difficult to be at ease with others, if you aren't at ease with yourself. Also, the obligatory nature of many family related interactions can be a bit of a drag. Something about feeling required to talk makes the mind go blank. Also, just being related to a person doesn't necessarily mean you share common interests or world view.