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01 May 2017, 4:16 pm

Which term is more socially acceptable for a woman in her 20s to use when describing herself? Feminine or Girly Girl?


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01 May 2017, 4:42 pm

Neither.

Both conjure equally awful images.

Use terms that have meaning rather than empty vessels.



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01 May 2017, 4:53 pm

As far as I know, both are acceptable. I think they might have different implications though. I hear a potential friend is a Girly Girl, and I think: OK, we can bond on baking, and massages and salt scrubs, but she won't want to go camping or hiking or build houses in a third world country with me (because she might get dirty or break a nail). If we see a mouse or a snake, I can expect her to shriek until I control the situation. If I hear feminine, I figure she might be into all the things I'm into, but with more glitter and pink and maybe with a soft voice. I figure if I'm around her, others will hesitate to tell risqué stories/bawdy jokes and they'll watch their language because they won't want to offend her. It might be unfair, but I associate Girly Girls with exaggerated/fake mannerisms (hair flipping, unnaturally high practiced voices and laughs, pretended fear/need, vicious social sophistication).



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01 May 2017, 5:19 pm

In what context are you trying to describe yourself?

Show don't tell.



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01 May 2017, 5:21 pm

xxZeromancerlovexx wrote:
Which term is more socially acceptable for a woman in her 20s to use when describing herself? Feminine or Girly Girl?


While girly girls are feminine, I don't think all feminine women are girly girls.



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01 May 2017, 5:22 pm

Women of WP.

Please educate me on what these terms mean.

They are piffle and waffle to me, no meaning, why use them to describe yourself?



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01 May 2017, 5:59 pm

Chronos wrote:
xxZeromancerlovexx wrote:
Which term is more socially acceptable for a woman in her 20s to use when describing herself? Feminine or Girly Girl?


While girly girls are feminine, I don't think all feminine women are girly girls.


I consider myself feminine but at the same time I wear stuff like this:

-Comfortable but fitted tees
-Long cardigans
-Hoodies
-Jeans (preferably elastic waist)
-Converse
-Vans
-Plaid button ups (I wear them unbuttoned over a tee or tank top)
-Crossbody purses or a simple handbag (preferably black)
-Simple jewelry
-Simple makeup (eyeshadow, concealer, powder or BB cream and a light pink lip gloss)
-Cute beanies and scarves (preferably infinity scarves)
-A touch of perfume on my wrists
-I wear my hair up all the time
-A pair of colorful sneakers that I have had for years

I feel like I need to be prissy or people will think I'm masculine and manly


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01 May 2017, 6:19 pm

Why do you care about seeming masculine though?

Surely you should seem as you are. If someone draws the conclusion that you're masculine and therefore makes a negative out of it, they're probably a dick.

True story.



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01 May 2017, 6:23 pm

xxZeromancerlovexx wrote:
Chronos wrote:
xxZeromancerlovexx wrote:
Which term is more socially acceptable for a woman in her 20s to use when describing herself? Feminine or Girly Girl?


While girly girls are feminine, I don't think all feminine women are girly girls.


I consider myself feminine but at the same time I wear stuff like this:

-Comfortable but fitted tees
-Long cardigans
-Hoodies
-Jeans (preferably elastic waist)
-Converse
-Vans
-Plaid button ups (I wear them unbuttoned over a tee or tank top)
-Crossbody purses or a simple handbag (preferably black)
-Simple jewelry
-Simple makeup (eyeshadow, concealer, powder or BB cream and a light pink lip gloss)
-Cute beanies and scarves (preferably infinity scarves)
-A touch of perfume on my wrists
-I wear my hair up all the time
-A pair of colorful sneakers that I have had for years

I feel like I need to be prissy or people will think I'm masculine and manly


What?

I'm serious here.

None of these things mean anything, clothes and make-up?

I am utterly lost here, these are not the things which define you.