Should a 29 year old guy be with a 37 year old woman?
Emmanuel Macron, the 'centrist' candidate in the French election, is married to a woman 25 years older than him that use to be his former high school teacher so 8 really isn't too bad I think.
Old geezers marry younger women all the time. The younger generations always complain how things have changed, then why hasn't this way of thinking? Age shouldn't make a difference if you get along with each other in every other way. Like everyone says - age is just a number.
I'm an example. I don't feel or look my age. I want to still do things because since I've spent most of my life in school, I feel like I really haven't lived and want to do those things with a Hunny. Most of the guys older than me have outlived me by several lifetimes and are probably ready to "peter" out - literally.
The difference I guess is that older women probably would have a harder time starting a family with their younger partner than vice-versa, I am sure a lot of people don't care about that but it is a consideration as to why an older guy might marry significantly younger. I think it would be hard to be an equal partner with someone way younger/older than you if that's what's most important to you but you can have other priorities too of course.
The drop in women's odds of conceiving after 36 tend to be vastly over stated.
I've heard a lot of bitter guys (the type that didn't get any dates in their teens and early 20's and spend their 30's and 40's online talking about how they only date women under 23), try to use the "older women can't start a family" line as an attack on women in their late 30's (the one's they perceive rejected them in their teens and 20's), but the reality is, while a woman's egg reserve drops off significantly after 36, it's doesn't often matter because, unlike men, where he must release millions of sperm to ensure one gets to the egg, a woman just needs to release one egg, and most pre-menopausal women over 36 still ovulate regularly. If a woman has her first pregnancy at 36, and has a baby every 2-3 years until about 45 (this is about the age healthy women stopped being able to conceive naturally before contraception), then that's still about 3-5 kids, and most people don't want more than 3. They also like to over state the odds of birth defects. It's true the chance of Down's Syndrome rises with maternal age, but it's low to begin with. It just goes from very unlikely, to unlikely, and the odds of other birth defects actually decreases with maternal age, but increases with paternal age.
Anyway, my point is, women in their late 30's and early 40's can often start families with no problems.
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FWIW I didn't say it was impossible just that it's harder. I think most guys that go with significantly younger women probably are doing it because they find them more attractive & like the power they wield over them rather than simply wanting somebody to start a family with while young woman is probably not as attracted to the older man as she is his money. Younger guys are definitely attracted to mature women but most of those women probably don't see them as relationship material the same way a guy who finds younger women attractive might. I dunno, it's just my explanation or rationalization of the double standard.
If you like them and go well together, I think that's all that matters. The only risk with big age differences is that people tend to be very different outside of personality and interests. No matter how emotionally mature, a 20-year-old won't have a 40-year-old's priorities or life experiences.
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condoms and birth control also work for that....
That said if you're not interested in having kids probably best not to get with a woman who is.
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condoms and birth control also work for that....
That said if you're not interested in having kids probably best not to get with a woman who is.
That's the problem. Condoms and birth control don't stop women from wanting kids. I was hoping 37 would be too old to have a maternal instinct.
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You're appraising people, physically, but not mentally, so far as I can tell.
There are remarks about teen K-pop singers, and whether she is capable of conception.
How did you know that she wants to start a family, and are you going to be seen as the child. Are you the object of maternal instinct.
After seeing her, I am wondering whether your looks are boyish, by comparison.
When you do the math, there seems to be a lot displacement, in the world -- in other words, when someone is satisfying an instinct or urge, in an unconventional way.
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