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15 May 2017, 5:45 am

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17 May 2017, 4:16 pm

nurseangela wrote:

Why Millennial Women Want to Date Older Men

http://www.intellectualtakeout.org/blog ... -older-men

From the article:

"More and more women I know are dating men twice, yes twice, their age. In her new film, The Intern, Anne Hathaway stands with Robert DeNiro and a bunch of young male colleagues in a bar and draws a harsh comparison: “How in one generation have men gone from guys like Jack Nicholson and Harrison Ford to . . .?” She gestures despairingly at the four men in front of her, archetypes of my generation in their hoodies, craft beer in one hand, iPhone in the other, with their untrimmed beards and general lack of ambition. I see what Hathaway means: Why put up with Tinder when there’s a whole generation of men out there who wouldn’t dream of using it?"

"My friend Gabrielle met her boyfriend at a restaurant opening. They are twenty years apart, and they’ve been together for two. He “treats me like I’m a person,” she told me. “I watch so many of my other friends agonize over text messages from guys who . . . just clearly don’t care.” The stereotypes, she says, are true: Older men are attentive, they aren’t threatened by your career success, they didn’t grow up watching porn on their laptops, and they certainly don’t expect sex from you before you’ve even had a chance to meet. It’s not an “old-fashioned” dating scheme, it’s just a more humane one. “I wasn’t trying to go back in time,” Gabrielle added at the end of our conversation. “Nobody wants to go back to the 1950s, we just want to be treated with respect.”

I agree that the females of the new generation are going for guys in their 30's when the women are in their 30's because by the time men hit 25-30, they start treating women better. I know I do.

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17 May 2017, 10:20 pm

i mean, i've always found older men more appealing than younger men but this never had anything to do with their use of social media. the person i'm dating is 7 years older than me and we use technology the same exact amount and actually met through social media. i think the amount of time one dedicates to social media or coffee or scarves, or whatever people say millennials obsess over now, is irrelevant in whether or not one is able connect with another.

i'm able to relate more with older men than i am with men my own age or men younger than me. men my age, teenagers, are typically very uninterested in what i'm fixated on (art, philosophy, politics, etc.) and typically have a preoccupation with sex and aren't intending on participating in any relationships with the intent of being serious and developing a meaningful, deep, loving connection. older guys have typically grown tired of being rowdy and don't want casual sex. i've never been interested in sex-fueled relationships, i want a serious relationship or nothing at all.

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18 May 2017, 11:21 pm

nurseangela,

I think a lot of what's getting highlighted here are the moaners - ie. the percentage of women who don't seem willing to put together two-and-two that second and third-wave feminism did everything it could to make the types of men they're looking for go extinct.

I just wish that, if there's an equal and opposite dynamic going on of women giving guys a chance for what they are and helping them grow past the cultural debt of maturity, they could be as vocal as the moaners. Make it a public level suggestion that there's another way to be about the situation.

I might be pushing 40 pretty soon and single as well but, no matter how successful, I'd feel like a pedophile dating anyone under 25 at this point and I don't think changing times and culture would change that a whole lot.

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19 May 2017, 5:14 am

seaweed wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

99% of women on tinder are seeking for a seriouls relationship and not for hookup.
"No hookup!" is the most common intro.

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I have no idea how things are among lesbians (who are way more likely to be liberal); but for the heterosexual women I have yet to find one on Tinder who doesn't want things serious.
So I was referring to straight women in particular.

"No hookup" are the two most used words in straight women profiles there.

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19 May 2017, 9:47 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

seaweed wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

99% of women on tinder are seeking for a seriouls relationship and not for hookup.
"No hookup!" is the most common intro.

99%
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Indeed or "not looking for causal sex if you are don't bother"

I see it on most women's profiles on dating sites.

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19 May 2017, 11:48 pm

What a load of nonsense, there are plenty of millennials who have their priorities straight and treat women well. There are older men out there who seem genuine and attentive, but leave for someone new (just ask my former aunt). There's no guarantee for a successful relationship, the best you can do is take things slow, use your judgement, learn from your mistakes, and most importantly: not give in to cynicism. Success based on age is just a gimmick.

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20 May 2017, 2:51 pm

I really wouldn't mind dating an older guy, who's on the same page as me in life - divorced, with kid(s), slightly battered by life in general, but... I mainly attract younger men for some reason, especially when I go out I normally attract people like 10 years younger who are still students, so are probably looking for a MILF or something like that It's all good for little adventures, but that's not exactly what I want.

Currently I have a younger boyfriend (only 3 years younger, luckily) and if that does not go well... I will definitely try harder to look for older guys. I know age is not a guarantee they won't be players and cheaters, but their personal history can tell you a bit more about them, while the young ones are all hot&ready and with not much experience in life, so it's more likely I'd be like a training material for them not a partner/lover

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21 May 2017, 9:07 am

Oh yeah girls and older guys are totally not into hook ups these days, it's only younger guys. Shame on us!

Btw Angela isn't older than you like Tutankhamon or something?

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22 May 2017, 6:53 am

Peacesells wrote:

Oh yeah girls and older guys are totally not into hook ups these days, it's only younger guys. Shame on us!

That's about the essence of it, yes.

So, if you want to make your generation a favour, date a girl without having a hook up as the motive, and then at least she will not accuse you of being like that.

It's like this: At least some younger guys can get away with only wanting hookups, and maybe even a few older men (celebrities and the very rich). It is the first group that gives younger guys a bad reputation, and the latter really doesn't attract anything else than gold-diggers, so I think we can discard them. Sure, there might be some other older men that would want to sleep with younger girls, but they will very seldom get what want, so we can basically discard them too. Now, the mature and serious older men need to use their courtship skills and their persistence as their looks will not work. It's actually similar to many NDs that are viewed as unattractive and socially plump. They too, just like older men, need to use the same method, and cannot rely on the hookup culture.

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22 May 2017, 7:11 am

rdos wrote:

Peacesells wrote:

Oh yeah girls and older guys are totally not into hook ups these days, it's only younger guys. Shame on us!

The hell are you talking about? You lookin down on me? Don't you use that tone with me, as if I go around hooking up with random girls. You know nothing of me, stop trying to lecture me. Why do you always have to try so hard to be a giant moron?

And for your information there's a good number of girls who engage in hook-ups and FWB relationships.

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22 May 2017, 7:23 am

Peacesells wrote:

And for your information there's a good number of girls who engage in hook-ups and FWB relationships.

I don't think that is very common. As Boo and other's have already claimed, most girls in online dating say "no hookups". It also makes perfect sense, because it is only guys that can gain anything from having a large number of sexual partners. When it comes to FWBs, my guess is that most of those girls hope for something more, or wouldn't engage in it.

I think a good "rule of thumb" is that if a girl wants to have sex with a guy, the guy should view that as a favor or compliment, not as something she would do with just any guy. Something that obsviously doesn't apply to guys.

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22 May 2017, 7:40 am

rdos wrote:

Ironically, Boo is the one who finds FWB partners on these sites. It would seem that they are not looking for that but a good portion of them don't mind that.
Also, what would you think would happen if a girl wrote on her profile that she is looking for a FWB? The freaky messages would increase by 9000%.

Huh, I'd rather see it as something both people want, I wouldn't want to see it as a favour for sure. But I guess everyone can see it as they prefer.

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22 May 2017, 3:00 pm

Peacesells wrote:

rdos wrote:

Ironically, Boo is the one who finds FWB partners on these sites. .

True, but they never admit it in their profiles, yes you are right on that.

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22 May 2017, 7:27 pm

rdos wrote:

Peacesells wrote:

And for your information there's a good number of girls who engage in hook-ups and FWB relationships.

I do wish I had been a little more assertive in my dating profile and when I met guys that I did not want to 'hook up' back when I was dating. But I admit having rather low confidence and thinking I was kind of a loser, I thought putting that could lower my chances of meeting guys...even had it in my head that maybe a guy would fall in love with me even if they only intended to hook up and other naive things. But past is past I suppose I have a great relationship now so none of that really matters now.

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