I broke the coffee machine, fiance annoyed
As someone with no stronger addiction than caffeine I can actually really say I get a lot from ritualizing my café trips & being routine about them; either I can study my face off, make time for friends or learn things at random from cool people I sit by.
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You accidentally broke something your boyfriend loved. Apologize and buy him a new one.
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NO! do not tell him that....that is the worst suggestion yet.
Ok, I've got a better one then. Again tell him it was on purpose because he cares more for the coffee machine than he does for you, and out of jealous rage you broke it. I mean how are you supposed to be in a relationship with a person that values coffee more than you? Then list a litany of grievances you have with him. That's better right?
Now I know why the divorce rate is high in your nation.
NO! do not tell him that....that is the worst suggestion yet.
Ok, I've got a better one then. Again tell him it was on purpose because he cares more for the coffee machine than he does for you, and out of jealous rage you broke it. I mean how are you supposed to be in a relationship with a person that values coffee more than you? Then list a litany of grievances you have with him. That's better right?
Now I know why the divorce rate is high in your nation.
I blame marriage for divorce.
Apologizing and replacing is the best answer as given above.
Also, arguments that "escalate" into personal remarks can be red flag though another poster seems to have this as a usual part of the argument process.
Its important for you two to learn how to communicate your needs in a safe way. Its natural to be upset initially when your treasured item has been damaged. After that the upset/angry feelings should be finished and a solution worked out. Fear should not be a part of the process.
If he is a mean, angry beast you may want to rethink this relationship. It was a great suggestion above to work on yourself as well, being able to assert yourself without being aggressive.
newsflash: it was a [joke][/joke].
edit: because obviously that suggestion would escalate things, as would my second suggestion. I'm chalking this up to aspie 'literal thinking'.
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If my boyfriend broke my french press....and his excuse was 'I think you're addicted so I broke it on purpose' I'd be pretty pissed. I don't necessarily drink a lot of coffee but I do like my caffeine in the morning, whether it's tea, coffee, soda or an energy drink, plus I get a headache if I don't because yes I am addicted. If I ever want to rid myself of that dependence I'd have to do it gradually.
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newsflash: it was a [joke][/joke].
edit: because obviously that suggestion would escalate things, as would my second suggestion. I'm chalking this up to aspie 'literal thinking'.
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