A gender pronoun is EARNED, not given!

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glad to hear it.

I think "genderfluid" is going to be around a long time.

Because "genderfluid" is quite illustrative. It implies flexibility. It's a positive feeling. It means you're not stuck.

I will use whatever pronouns people request me to use. Its called manners.

I don't see much point in discuss with people about their pronouns, just be nice, it doesn't affect your life. Although I find a bit difficult to use "they" as neutral.

Reading threads like these and their responses I'm starting to feel like I must be a certified bad person and closeted alt-righter. Or at least that's the brow-beating hypnosis that seems to be taking place.

As far as I can tell the chasm of what allows for a culture that can communicate in any remotely effective way is being crossed for - the best I can read of it - amounts to people's right to virtue-signal. This topic rubs me particularly wrong because I'm 50 miles from Canada cross a small body of freshwater and I'm well aware of the compelled speech in C-16. You already have people at the activist end, at confirmed televised events, trying to sue show hosts and the like for misgendering them. If someone uses the term 'social justice tribunal' to talk about extra-legal groups across Canada who can dole out fines without due process, fines that a person can face jail time for not paying, it sounds like something that someone would say who's been watching too much Alex Jones and Info Wars and they probably believe in shape-shifting reptilian overlord as well but....erm... alas, no, that's actually correct - the social justice tribunals are actually there.

Most of what people are concerned about with the heavy-handedness and clouded thinking that's in all of this legislation seems to be playing itself out and about the only positive thing I can think of that might be happening is that enough legal experts across the isle from where it's happening might be able to do a few things here and there to roll back the damage.

As far as I can tell this isn't properly about trans either. Really even just looking at gender as binary covers both standard 'cis' men and women as well as trans men and women. This whole thing should be a non-issue and to whatever extent it is a real issue it's been handled in the worst way possible - ie. trotted out with legal ramifications before the notions are even fully baked. The idea of 31 gender pronouns is just preposterous because out of that number maybe only five at the most will find any sort of consistent use.

If I make a mistake with a gender pronoun, don't get pissed off about it-----just inform and educate me.

This is what too many people do these days: get mad, make it seem like everything is a "microaggression" or whatever.

How am I supposed to know, based upon a face, that you don't want to be referred to as "he" or "she?" Just inform me, man.....and I'll say the proper pronoun from now on.

I've never actually had somebody say they want to be referred to as something other than "he" or "she."

The OP seems to have done a turn-around and to have disavowed the question in the original post.

So I guess that the issue (whatever the heck the issue was) is dead.

So we can all retire this thread.

I will usually refer to someone by their preferred pronouns with two exceptions.
1. The one that's start with Z, for the mere fact that I find it confusing and can't keep the words straight.

2. The person has given me a very big reason to doubt they are actually of the gender the claim or envision themselves to be.

For example there was a man on Youtube who identified as female and dressed as female, however it was discovered that this man was a registered sex offender and had forcefully penetrated/raped a child. I refuse to refer to this man using female pronouns and I do not perceive this man as female in any way. Certainly not all or even most males are rapists, but violently raping someone using one's male genitalia is as far from a female thing to do as someone can get, and my impression of this man was that he was an autogynophiliac.

I may refer to someone using their preferred pronouns, however that does not mean I perceive them as the gender of their preferred pronouns. They do have a burden of proof to meet in that they must evanesce the essence of their claimed gender.

There is also the component of gender that is acquired by living life being related to as that gender, and certain insights one gains being related to in a particular way. Most transgendered individuals lack this at first, however it can be acquired. Caitlyn Jenner is a good example of this. I have no problem referring to Caitlyn Jenner as female, as to me she does seem very female gendered and always has, however she has made comments which reflect a lack of insight of experiencing life being related to as a female, though she acknowledges this and is learning.