Do you dislike or value your autism?

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For me, it's a bell curve. When I was a child, I viewer it as a negative thing, as it significantly hampered my ability to interact with others, as well as affect other areas like motoric functions. Once I entered my late teens, I was in the process of acquiring the social skills necessary to navigate through society, and I was feeling more comfortable in my own skin. But then when I got my first job, I noticed that I was not at all as socially adept as I had thought, and to this day I struggle heavily with socialization. I have failed at establishing friendships even though I've actively sought them out; at times it's highly demotivational. The only stopgap measure against going nuts from loneliness is to peptalk myself into playing up my loner status as a source of strength:"I'm independent and strong". But it only works for a while.

I find socialising really bad when I am only talking to one person.When there is few people. Its much easy to talk. That one aspect of autism which I find really bad brings anxiety for me.

The only thing I get out of autism is impairments. Some of which are close to severe.

I disliked my autism as a teenager. I figured that if I wasn't on the spectrum, I would have had the opportunities that my younger sister had at the ages that she had them. I value my autism now. I even celebrate it and all the ways that it makes me unique.

i hate it. i hate everything about it. it's a label i never wanted or asked for and it's given me nothing but unhappiness. i hate the anxiety, being focused on one thing, the sensory issues, the poor social skills. no amount of "you have it, you may as well get used to it" "focus on the positive, you might not be where you are without it" or "screw labels, you're a good person" will make me like it.

For anxiety, take a look at: http://www.eikonabridge.com/anxiety.pdf See, everything has a solution.

I know for younger autistic people out there, the young adult age is tough. You feel like you need to fit in. But now I look back at it, I see how silly all that was. This world is big enough. Try to find people that are more like you. Acquire skills, work in a field where you can minimize interaction with those nasty people that bug you. Develop hobbies (WrongPlanet doesn't count). Be patient and find a soulmate that matches you (going online usually is a good idea). My point is: there is no need to fit in. This world is big enough that you will be able to chose who you want to hang around with, later in life. As you can read from others, when you get older, you'll come to appreciate being autistic. I personally wouldn't change it for anything. Mother Nature made us who we are for a good reason. Trust me, if you do things right, you do achieve a good, happy life. At least I did.

Neither. Autism is just a part of who I am like my hair color, its not good or bad. Because of my autism I have a lot of problems which cause me a lot of difficulty but I can't do anything about my autism as a whole so why worry about it? I focus on the things which I can have some control over, I have no control over whether or not I'm autistic so it just is what it is. Instead I try to work on overcoming things like my sensory, emotional, and communication issues while also accepting the good things autism gives me.

Because of my autism I am able to think in radically different ways from those around me, I can remember loads of random facts that pretty much only I care about, I can be by my self for hours without becoming lonely or bored and I can really concentrate on things that interest me. I consider these good things, not because they cancel out the bad things but just because they are good in themselves.

Some days I wish I was not autistic but I don't like to focus on that because I will always be autistic. I just try to accept things how they are.

I would never wish to cure it. If there was a cure available I would refuse it as I find normal being vastly overrated. What I dislike is my life itself. I dislike that people use my disabling aspects of myself to take advantage of me or reject me to the point it has hindered my success.
I just wish I could figure my angle because I know I have one. Being neurodivergent would never be a problem if people were celebrated for being who they are so it's rarely us with the problem. It's them and I can't stand the general neurotypical population for this. I'm even constantly told that in order to get a job I have to lie or that I'm too honest (someone IRL that tried to help me said I was too honest even)

I would imagine most importantly my disorder would never have been a problem if they had thought to diagnose me as a kid but you can partially thank my father for that.

I don't like my autism. I especially do not like the attention I get from my autism.

I hate it and wish I was a normie.

BS.

Without my autism I would not be the person I am. If it were possible to have never expressed it I would not choose it as I would be more independent and have a greater chance of being happy. Nothing is certain about what might have been but what is certain is that autism is a challenge I can live with and be happy if I don't spend my time regretting something I can't change.

I hate it when people give me a long list of rich and successful Aspies, as though it's going to make me feel happier. It doesn't. Yes, it's good for them, but not ALL Aspies have that sort of skill. Some of us just hover around the average or even below average intellectual line.

Also it's the stereotypes. Just because I have this label, it doesn't mean I am good at maths, obsessed with complicated facts, lack emotion, lack self-awareness, and all the rest of it. I suck at maths, my interests are social interests, I feel intense emotions, and I care a lot about what others think of me.

You pretty much told the whole story of my life, Joe90.

Simply: Despite the daily hells. To choose whether i would rather be a sheep or a lone wolf. I would pick lone wolf, no matter the difficulties.

Or a Wolfman......