Daniel Radcliffe is such a "Nice Guy TM" douchebag

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I'm curious how you can be bitter and bitter phobic simultaneously.

You're both being bitter.
He is fixated on how difficult dating is for him whereas it is but a breeze for people he deems morally unworthy of a date. You on the other hand appear to be targeting men's threads to belittle, denigrate, report and shut them down. I'm going to give you the benefit of a doubt and assume you want him to change, or become what you perceive to be a better person. If that is the case, though, I don't know how you expect to achieve that when you're doing to him what others have in his past. His posts might frustrate you but try helping him or at least hearing him out. You'd be amazed what that can accomplish.

So much hate on both sides. I expect any day now to see a headline that reads "All men are as*holes, and saying you're not an as*hole makes you more of an as*hole."

She hasn't trashed my threads about robo-sex, or even itchy butts. Don't hold back, m'dear.

I would like to start seeing a psychologist again, just to improve. I'm doing basically okay.

My previous one expressed interest in seeing how I would cope with a relationship. He had a lot of respect for my ideas, and spent a lot of time explaining how different people could reach different, but equally workable solutions for them. Mainly, he helped me work out how I could do better at getting my ideas across and also better at understanding others. Seems like good work toward a successful relationship.

Some women like brooding guys. Paint your nails black and own your feelings.

OP, the point of my original post was to give you the perspective of a woman who hears your words. I've struggled with anger before in my life, and I have angry family members. I've also had friends and relationships with people who struggle with anger. Unaddressed anger can put a great strain on all your relationships, it pushes people away from you if they are always worried that something they say or do will set you off and make you yell at them (or worse, because some of the angry people I have known were also violent people when they were angry.) If you had someone to talk to who understands and can teach you how to work through your anger in a healthy way, maybe that would help make it easier to attract people to yourself and to keep people around? I know working on my anger has helped me with all my relationships, not just with men but with my family and friends too. Now when I get angry I know how to deal with it (my personal favourite way is to acknowledge my right to feel anger and the reason I feel that way at the moment and then to exercise--often by going for a walk--to deal with the physical effects of anger like the adrenaline that comes with it.) Because I'm not lashing out at the people around me and have better emotional control, my relationships have improved. Perhaps you can improve your relationships in the same way?

TheSpectrum: it is telling that you see the suggestion of seeing a therapist as an insult. I personally have spent many years in therapy and learned quite a lot from it (including how to deal with my abusive family.) It has contributed very positively to my quality of life, because I learned life skills (and some social skills) in therapy that I couldn't learn from my sick family and parents. So it is natural for me when I see other people struggling with things that I have struggled with and that therapy has helped me with to suggest therapy as a solution. Your perception of my "agenda" seems paranoid.

I don't think Daniel Radcliffe is unworthy to date, I just hate when people say "oh those friend zoned guys are just whining about sex."

Like I said at first. It's the people who use the term, and the way they use it.

OTOH, encouraging these guys to nurture their resentments effectively removes them as potential competitors, so hate on, haters.