Men's Looks Matter More Than Women Admit, Study Shows
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Boom!
https://www.livescience.com/58607-mens- ... ality.html
They spend too much money on what's known and obvious in life, but it's cool still.
She explained that physical attractiveness appears to act as a gatekeeper for potential mates. If a man meets a required level of physical attractiveness, then women are willing to consider his personality characteristics, the study revealed.
and like I have always suspected:
This is not true of men, she said. Men are more consciously aware — or more willing to admit (bingo!) — that good looks in a woman are more important to them than personality, Fugère said
...and oh, before you call this a sexist conspiracy, note that the leading researcher is a lady.
That's the article by herself:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/da ... ersonality
lol
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I just have to get to know a person first before I make a judgment of attractive or not. I've been with "curvy" women that were more attractive to me than skinny supermodels, and I've known absolutely heinous "attractive" girls.
But what I have found most consistently is how easy it is to predict behavior based on looks. I've met more physically attractive women who were all-around fun to be with than less-attractive women.
I'm not exactly in the market for guys, but I wonder if something similar isn't true. People with disabilities don't bother me. But I was once nice to this guy, and just looking at him I felt uneasy. Well, give everyone a chance, right? He asked me what video games I like, and I mentioned one in particular. Next thing I know he's constantly badgering me about coming over and playing video games. I'm like, y'know, some of us actually WORK for a living. Nothing against people who need assistance, but I don't have that kind of time on my hands. The needle on my creep-o-meter started to move a little, but it blew my wife's clean off the scale.
I'm not saying judging a person by looks alone is right. However, it does seem to communicate something about what that person really is like.
i think this matters more in online dating where a woman is presented with photos and photos and photos of men. She's probably going to click on the ones that look most attractive. This study reflects this sort of circumstance more than it does situations where you get to know someone over a period of time and find out what their personality is really like.
I wonder what the study would show if the women were shown photos of men they actually know and then strangers were also shown these men and whether they would rank them similarly.
Take Keanu Reeves as an example. I've never been a fan of him movies and at face value I don't find him particularly good looking. But I have read a few articles about him and he seems to be a genuinely nice bloke. Finding this out makes me more liable to date him. (Not that I'm ever going to run into him, but in theory). Not sure how he'd take this lol. You're not stereotypically attractive, but attractive none-the-less.
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I thought it was common knowledge that when it comes to relationships people tend to consider people they find attractive, rather than people they don't find attractive for said relationship. So its not a real surprise.
I don't think anyone would want a romantic relationship with someone they don't find attractive, generally speaking.
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I don't think anyone would want a romantic relationship with someone they don't find attractive, generally speaking.
The study shows that there's so much denial in that among women; and we see it common in life, as if women are afraid to be seen as shallow as men.
You see a lot often women saying something like "Nooo I don't care about looks, I care for personality"; yet you see them in the next moment drooling for some celeb hunk.
It's that denial which is really bothering, not their care for looks which is natural like you say.
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I wonder what the study would show if the women were shown photos of men they actually know and then strangers were also shown these men and whether they would rank them similarly.
Take Keanu Reeves as an example. I've never been a fan of him movies and at face value I don't find him particularly good looking. But I have read a few articles about him and he seems to be a genuinely nice bloke. Finding this out makes me more liable to date him. (Not that I'm ever going to run into him, but in theory). Not sure how he'd take this lol. You're not stereotypically attractive, but attractive none-the-less.
But I bet it's the same for men, for example if men learn this hot babe is a gold digger (the most repulsive personality trait a woman can have to men) then I am sure 90% of men at least wouldn't want to date her anymore.
I wonder what the study would show if the women were shown photos of men they actually know and then strangers were also shown these men and whether they would rank them similarly.
Take Keanu Reeves as an example. I've never been a fan of him movies and at face value I don't find him particularly good looking. But I have read a few articles about him and he seems to be a genuinely nice bloke. Finding this out makes me more liable to date him. (Not that I'm ever going to run into him, but in theory). Not sure how he'd take this lol. You're not stereotypically attractive, but attractive none-the-less.
But I bet it's the same for men, for example if men learn this hot babe is a gold digger (the most repulsive personality trait a woman can have to men) then I am sure 90% of men at least wouldn't want to date her anymore.
Actually I know a lot of men who are happy to play a gold digger's game for a time if she's attractive enough. Gold diggers are only a concern if you're interested in serious relationships.
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I wonder what the study would show if the women were shown photos of men they actually know and then strangers were also shown these men and whether they would rank them similarly.
Take Keanu Reeves as an example. I've never been a fan of him movies and at face value I don't find him particularly good looking. But I have read a few articles about him and he seems to be a genuinely nice bloke. Finding this out makes me more liable to date him. (Not that I'm ever going to run into him, but in theory). Not sure how he'd take this lol. You're not stereotypically attractive, but attractive none-the-less.
But I bet it's the same for men, for example if men learn this hot babe is a gold digger (the most repulsive personality trait a woman can have to men) then I am sure 90% of men at least wouldn't want to date her anymore.
Actually I know a lot of men who are happy to play a gold digger's game for a time if she's attractive enough. Gold diggers are only a concern if you're interested in serious relationships.
Well, yeah, those are the remaining 10% who view them as sort of prostitutes and nothing else.
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Wow, a post that isn't politicising what is in essence a biological urge, from both sides!
I'd completely agree with this. No matter how we dress it up, the men want as young as they can get, as attractive, because of this biological urge.
Same for the ladies, they want the best provider, the most attractive etc etc.
Both sides want the best carrier for their genes.
Mother nature is practical. So are We, if we brings things down to brass tacks.
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