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The_Face_of_Boo
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18 Jul 2017, 2:51 am

Why when a guy says that, they interpret it quickly as the following:

"I love you" = "I want to marry you, live with you forever and make babies with you"


That's not necessarily true!!



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18 Jul 2017, 3:19 am

I love you too.


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18 Jul 2017, 3:29 am

Did you say that to your partner?


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18 Jul 2017, 3:54 am

what else could it mean?

i tell it to her every night, and i cannot know how she'd interpret it. she's plasticine, $300. some are ovenbake.

that's what i want in life. but i'd use different words.

maybe it means she'll stay for you.

are you in fact interested in settling down in that way?


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18 Jul 2017, 9:37 am

This is no different to horny men thinking a woman they've been dating for two weeks wants sex just as badly as he does.



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18 Jul 2017, 2:34 pm

It seems there's a dichotomy mindset about men: if he's not anticipiating marriage with the given partner = he's just after sex!

Why is that? This is so untrue.



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18 Jul 2017, 4:10 pm

i believed in every word of it until July 2015,and since then,i became hateful of romance,sex & anything else about relationships because of my aspergers involving how severely awkward that i appear to women & girls of my own age :x :x :x :x :x :x ,making plans to stim on a giant-stuffed bear & blaming them for it :x :x :x :x :D :D :D :D :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart:



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18 Jul 2017, 5:23 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
It seems there's a dichotomy mindset about men: if he's not anticipiating marriage with the given partner = he's just after sex!

Why is that? This is so untrue.


Personally because I don't want the happy thing to end.

There was a female user asking a similar question a while back. Her boyfriend got upset because she said she didn't know truthfully if she could love him for the rest of her life. He felt hurt by that.

People like the feeling they have and they really hope it will last.

Security is a nice feeling too.



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18 Jul 2017, 6:33 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Why when a guy says that, they interpret it quickly as the following:

"I love you" = "I want to marry you, live with you forever and make babies with you"


That's not necessarily true!!

Do they? Is that what all women think? Who says that is what we believe? Who here has stipulated that that is what they believe? Only you....so why say something that only you believe, then tell us that it's not necessarily true when we all know it isn't true at all as it is something only you think? Is there a point to these threads? I just don't get it.



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18 Jul 2017, 10:49 pm

"Love" is a very strong word. I don't think we can truly understand its meaning until a relationship has been tested.



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18 Jul 2017, 11:04 pm

hurtloam wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
It seems there's a dichotomy mindset about men: if he's not anticipiating marriage with the given partner = he's just after sex!

Why is that? This is so untrue.


Personally because I don't want the happy thing to end.

There was a female user asking a similar question a while back. Her boyfriend got upset because she said she didn't know truthfully if she could love him for the rest of her life. He felt hurt by that.

People like the feeling they have and they really hope it will last.

Security is a nice feeling too.


I love securing people. :heart: Thankfully I can give some friends a few interesting self-defense techniques.


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18 Jul 2017, 11:38 pm

Security is an illusion.


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19 Jul 2017, 12:32 am

Raleigh wrote:
Security is an illusion.


People enjoy the security of illusions.



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19 Jul 2017, 12:46 am

Or illusions of security; LOL.

And I'm blessed to say nobody's secured me unless they plan on being nice to me forever, no drawing back on that one.



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19 Jul 2017, 1:13 am

i never felt love as i would define it.

the best i can do is tell someone i find them acceptable for a certain amount of time each week.
with my cat, that translates to "every minute of the week", but to others, well they are lucky if i accept them for company.



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02 Aug 2017, 11:34 pm

Love you too. :heart: :nerdy: