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04 Sep 2017, 9:25 am

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I hate to be someone's average, I want to be their fantasy too.



.....which is highly unrealistic.


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04 Sep 2017, 9:32 am

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I hate to be someone's average, I want to be their fantasy too.



.....which is highly unrealistic.


No, I am literally someone's fantasy and so I was to few others (details are too erotic, but let's say... I was their fap material when they're alone in bed).

I don't even consider a relationship with who doesn't view me as a sex fantasy to a certain degree.



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04 Sep 2017, 9:35 am

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Basically, male genitals are all-out and very visible so if you wanted an equivalent situation from woman's side, she'd have to detach her vulva, hold it in her hand and say "heeeey heeeeey... in your face!":D or lie on the table and suddenly spread her legs.
I bet many men seeing a hairy, sweaty vulva all-out in a public situation would go ewwww cover it up, gross!

Boobs and even buttocks are nowhere near that and can be inappropriate in public spaces, or just neutral, or actually very pleasing to the eye if the situation is right - like at a bodypainting festival.
I watched a documentary about a whole nudist village and folks were doing naked yoga :D it wasn't gross, just kinda funny, because I don't really see that every day :D Also, that was the right time and the right place for being totally naked unlike a tea party at aunt Jean's or an opera evening.


Some of us would feel our inner Goatboy (Bill Hicks alter-ego) start up and ask her to let us wear like a feedbag...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8ZpQQ7kOa_g&t=121s



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04 Sep 2017, 9:42 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
XFilesGeek wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I hate to be someone's average, I want to be their fantasy too.



.....which is highly unrealistic.


No, I am literally someone's fantasy and so I was to few others (details are too erotic, but let's say... I was their fap material when they're alone in bed).

I don't even consider a relationship with who doesn't view me as a sex fantasy to a certain degree.


Most people find their partners attractive to a certain degree.

Most people are able to find average-looking people attractive.


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04 Sep 2017, 10:00 am

XFilesGeek wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
XFilesGeek wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I hate to be someone's average, I want to be their fantasy too.



.....which is highly unrealistic.


No, I am literally someone's fantasy and so I was to few others (details are too erotic, but let's say... I was their fap material when they're alone in bed).

I don't even consider a relationship with who doesn't view me as a sex fantasy to a certain degree.


Most people find their partners attractive to a certain degree.

Most people are able to find average-looking people attractive.


I don't think you got it, honestly.



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04 Sep 2017, 10:23 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
XFilesGeek wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
XFilesGeek wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I hate to be someone's average, I want to be their fantasy too.



.....which is highly unrealistic.


No, I am literally someone's fantasy and so I was to few others (details are too erotic, but let's say... I was their fap material when they're alone in bed).

I don't even consider a relationship with who doesn't view me as a sex fantasy to a certain degree.


Most people find their partners attractive to a certain degree.

Most people are able to find average-looking people attractive.


I don't think you got it, honestly.


Likewise.


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04 Sep 2017, 10:33 am

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Women are naturally aesthetic.

A man sent me an unsolicited explicit picture. i was very grossed out. If I asked from a man I was attracted to, it would have been ok. I'm not into disembodied male genitalia. Many men don't understand context.

As far as a mans entire physique, imo it's harder for a man to look good than a woman. There are plenty of men who look good to me, but they spend many hours in the gym. A woman may never work out and still have an aesthetic body. Many overweight women have incredible shapes with big booties and well endowed chests. I've never seen a overweight man's body look aesthetic. A woman can be really thin and still have an aesthetic body. This also isn't true for many men.



A very obese woman is not aesthetically appealing, nor a very bony woman

Maybe not to you, but plenty of men love bbws with huge boobs, huge booties, and sometimes huge bellies. They love that roundness. They are plenty of men who'll break they're neck over a 90lb Asian chic. They are especially a lot of men who'll go nuts over a 90lb girl with big breasts.



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04 Sep 2017, 10:34 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
XFilesGeek wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I hate to be someone's average, I want to be their fantasy too.



.....which is highly unrealistic.


No, I am literally someone's fantasy and so I was to few others (details are too erotic, but let's say... I was their fap material when they're alone in bed).

I don't even consider a relationship with who doesn't view me as a sex fantasy to a certain degree.


For a man who complains about his height deterring the ladies, you sure do seem to be doing okay with them.



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04 Sep 2017, 10:42 am

Sabreclaw wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
XFilesGeek wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I hate to be someone's average, I want to be their fantasy too.



.....which is highly unrealistic.


No, I am literally someone's fantasy and so I was to few others (details are too erotic, but let's say... I was their fap material when they're alone in bed).

I don't even consider a relationship with who doesn't view me as a sex fantasy to a certain degree.


For a man who complains about his height deterring the ladies, you sure do seem to be doing okay with them.


On here, men complain that women only want to date rich, buff dudes.

On my military forums, men complain that women only want to date jobless losers.

My impression is that men in general are just perpetually unhappy with the amount of attention they receive from women.


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04 Sep 2017, 10:47 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
XFilesGeek wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I hate to be someone's average, I want to be their fantasy too.



.....which is highly unrealistic.


No, I am literally someone's fantasy and so I was to few others (details are too erotic, but let's say... I was their fap material when they're alone in bed).

I don't even consider a relationship with who doesn't view me as a sex fantasy to a certain degree.


I feel the same way. I don't care whether it's unrealistic or not. I always found it odd when people in relationships spend large amounts of time fantasizing about celebs/pornstars/whatever. It's like why even be together then.



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04 Sep 2017, 12:33 pm

nomoretears wrote:
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Women are naturally aesthetic.

A man sent me an unsolicited explicit picture. i was very grossed out. If I asked from a man I was attracted to, it would have been ok. I'm not into disembodied male genitalia. Many men don't understand context.

As far as a mans entire physique, imo it's harder for a man to look good than a woman. There are plenty of men who look good to me, but they spend many hours in the gym. A woman may never work out and still have an aesthetic body. Many overweight women have incredible shapes with big booties and well endowed chests. I've never seen a overweight man's body look aesthetic. A woman can be really thin and still have an aesthetic body. This also isn't true for many men.



A very obese woman is not aesthetically appealing, nor a very bony woman

Maybe not to you, but plenty of men love bbws with huge boobs, huge booties, and sometimes huge bellies. They love that roundness. They are plenty of men who'll break they're neck over a 90lb Asian chic. They are especially a lot of men who'll go nuts over a 90lb girl with big breasts.


That's because..... you are media-conditioned to visually like only one type of men. As I said while porn sites for men are by far more diverse when it comes to women's body types, by far more more than the erotic stoies aimed at women.

My East Asian partner is about 50 kg, but she is short so she doesn't look bony. She is even bit muscular.

Look, that may shock you: what makes East Asian women so appealing to many men - is not their looks, but their attitudes, their cultures are so "I respect my man no matter what" (even jn the fwb type of relaion!) - Dun dunn dunnn!
And also the fact that a lot of them tend to find me very handsome, which is flattering.

That's something a lot of Caucasian and White women can't seem to comprehend and falsely assume that the "Asian fever" is mainly looks-based.

It is not.



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04 Sep 2017, 12:47 pm

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The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
XFilesGeek wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I hate to be someone's average, I want to be their fantasy too.



.....which is highly unrealistic.


No, I am literally someone's fantasy and so I was to few others (details are too erotic, but let's say... I was their fap material when they're alone in bed).

I don't even consider a relationship with who doesn't view me as a sex fantasy to a certain degree.


I feel the same way. I don't care whether it's unrealistic or not. I always found it odd when people in relationships spend large amounts of time fantasizing about celebs/pornstars/whatever. It's like why even be together then.



Yes it is so stupid, it's like "he represents the unfulfilled part that you can't fulfill". How flattering - Oh no thanks, either we make it open relationship - or go find your ideal sexual partner.

This article is spot on on this: http://jezebel.com/how-to-feel-about-yo ... 1599336767



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04 Sep 2017, 1:12 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
nomoretears wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
nomoretears wrote:
Women are naturally aesthetic.

A man sent me an unsolicited explicit picture. i was very grossed out. If I asked from a man I was attracted to, it would have been ok. I'm not into disembodied male genitalia. Many men don't understand context.

As far as a mans entire physique, imo it's harder for a man to look good than a woman. There are plenty of men who look good to me, but they spend many hours in the gym. A woman may never work out and still have an aesthetic body. Many overweight women have incredible shapes with big booties and well endowed chests. I've never seen a overweight man's body look aesthetic. A woman can be really thin and still have an aesthetic body. This also isn't true for many men.



A very obese woman is not aesthetically appealing, nor a very bony woman

Maybe not to you, but plenty of men love bbws with huge boobs, huge booties, and sometimes huge bellies. They love that roundness. They are plenty of men who'll break they're neck over a 90lb Asian chic. They are especially a lot of men who'll go nuts over a 90lb girl with big breasts.


That's because..... you are media-conditioned to visually like only one type of men. As I said while porn sites for men are by far more diverse when it comes to women's body types, by far more more than the erotic stoies aimed at women.

My East Asian partner is about 40 kg, but she is short so she doesn't look bony. She is even bit muscular.

Look, that may shock you: what makes East Asian women so appealing to many men - is not their looks, but their attitudes, their cultures are so "I respect my man no matter what" (even jn the fwb type of relaion!) - Dun dunn dunnn!
And also the fact that a lot of them tend to find me very handsome, which is flattering.

That's something a lot of Caucasian and White women can't seem to comprehend and falsely assume that the "Asian fever" is mainly looks-based.

It is not.

Its to culture, its biology.

Re diverse porn:
Think abt birds or most creatures. Males would take any female, but female birds often like that same male bird.

Women have to do less to be sexually attractive.

Men and womens bodies are different. Mens bodies just dont hold fat well.



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04 Sep 2017, 9:36 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Closet Genious wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
XFilesGeek wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I hate to be someone's average, I want to be their fantasy too.



.....which is highly unrealistic.


No, I am literally someone's fantasy and so I was to few others (details are too erotic, but let's say... I was their fap material when they're alone in bed).

I don't even consider a relationship with who doesn't view me as a sex fantasy to a certain degree.


I feel the same way. I don't care whether it's unrealistic or not. I always found it odd when people in relationships spend large amounts of time fantasizing about celebs/pornstars/whatever. It's like why even be together then.



Yes it is so stupid, it's like "he represents the unfulfilled part that you can't fulfill". How flattering - Oh no thanks, either we make it open relationship - or go find your ideal sexual partner.

This article is spot on on this: http://jezebel.com/how-to-feel-about-yo ... 1599336767


Exactly.

I want my girlfriend to find my body sexually attractive from the very beginning.

A lot o women don't seem turned on by their future boyfriends body when they first met him. They found his body neutral not gross but not a turn on either.

But once they 'fell for his personality, humor, style' they 'became' attracted to his body.

How flattering she 'settled' for my 'ugly mug'.

I'm.not saying I have to be her dream guy in every way. Just that I have the type of body she's attracted to before she even met me.



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04 Sep 2017, 9:45 pm

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Women are naturally aesthetic.

A man sent me an unsolicited explicit picture. i was very grossed out. If I asked from a man I was attracted to, it would have been ok. I'm not into disembodied male genitalia. Many men don't understand context.

As far as a mans entire physique, imo it's harder for a man to look good than a woman. There are plenty of men who look good to me, but they spend many hours in the gym. A woman may never work out and still have an aesthetic body. Many overweight women have incredible shapes with big booties and well endowed chests. I've never seen a overweight man's body look aesthetic. A woman can be really thin and still have an aesthetic body. This also isn't true for many men.


I think most women would agree with you but many people here seem.to be denying it. :o

Women are.barely sexually attracted to average men body unless she's her boyfriend, and even then some women only tolerate her boyfriends body and like it for what it does not what it looks like.



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05 Sep 2017, 12:14 am

nomoretears wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
nomoretears wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
nomoretears wrote:
Women are naturally aesthetic.

A man sent me an unsolicited explicit picture. i was very grossed out. If I asked from a man I was attracted to, it would have been ok. I'm not into disembodied male genitalia. Many men don't understand context.

As far as a mans entire physique, imo it's harder for a man to look good than a woman. There are plenty of men who look good to me, but they spend many hours in the gym. A woman may never work out and still have an aesthetic body. Many overweight women have incredible shapes with big booties and well endowed chests. I've never seen a overweight man's body look aesthetic. A woman can be really thin and still have an aesthetic body. This also isn't true for many men.



A very obese woman is not aesthetically appealing, nor a very bony woman

Maybe not to you, but plenty of men love bbws with huge boobs, huge booties, and sometimes huge bellies. They love that roundness. They are plenty of men who'll break they're neck over a 90lb Asian chic. They are especially a lot of men who'll go nuts over a 90lb girl with big breasts.


That's because..... you are media-conditioned to visually like only one type of men. As I said while porn sites for men are by far more diverse when it comes to women's body types, by far more more than the erotic stoies aimed at women.

My East Asian partner is about 40 kg, but she is short so she doesn't look bony. She is even bit muscular.

Look, that may shock you: what makes East Asian women so appealing to many men - is not their looks, but their attitudes, their cultures are so "I respect my man no matter what" (even jn the fwb type of relaion!) - Dun dunn dunnn!
And also the fact that a lot of them tend to find me very handsome, which is flattering.

That's something a lot of Caucasian and White women can't seem to comprehend and falsely assume that the "Asian fever" is mainly looks-based.

It is not.

Its to culture, its biology.

Re diverse porn:
Think abt birds or most creatures. Males would take any female, but female birds often like that same male bird.

Women have to do less to be sexually attractive.

Men and womens bodies are different. Mens bodies just dont hold fat well.


I guess you are right, it makes sense evolutionary speaking.