10 year age gap. Can a 29 old date a 19 year old?

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Do you enjoy being mean? I'm losing weight which takes time. I cant improve myself otherwise. Not everyone can't handle working full time or is good at social situations so they get hired for better paying jobs. Lots of people,spend their whole,life's working min wage including lots of nuts who don't have social and mental issues

Little update on the lady at work. She is fat so she must have gained weight since her face book pictures, so I wasn't wrong about that atleast. Also she got off work yesterday and got drunk in the afternoon on a weekday then slept on the couch at work til her sister got off. Who gets drunk on a weekday? 0.o
Knowing this it wouldn't worked out even if she did like me. I don't care for drunks

Nope...she sounds like bad news. I'm glad you didn't seek to date her.

I just had to comment on this thread because I can see the op has had a rough time and a bit of harsh treatment as well.

I know you believe this girl isn't interested, and that's fine if you decide that and don't pursue her. But, I don't think the age difference should be a concern. You're a young guy still, whether you realize it or not. Also, for those who thought the age difference was too great, they didn't really do a good job of making their case at all. You can totally see the bad reasoning in their argument which should only encourage you, not discourage you.

I want to give you honest feedback because you said that losing weight wouldn't change your face structure. That may be the case, but it's going to make your jawline more prominent and obviously give you that healthy, strong look that most women like. I'd recommend you strongly think about losing weight. I'm in the process of doing so myself and I've come a long way.

-Here's some advice about that if you decide to do so. Have somebody who knows what they are doing measure your waist.
-Look up the doctor recommended waist size for your body based on your height.
-Use your waist size as your ONLY determinant on progress, weighing yourself on a scale is freggin worthless.
-Don't try to go on a diet
-Your key to losing weight is cardio exercise. I'd recommend you start off with half and hour and after about 3 months go to an hour. After about a year you could probably go to 2 hours if you really wanted to be ambitious. That's what I do.
-Don't try to be John Wayne and diet and exercise at the same time, there's only so many changes you can make over time. As I've exercised, I've been gradually changing the way I eat, but not focusing on diet.
-Besides, if you kick the crap out of yourself with cardio, two thing will happen. You'll burn more calories than you are now, and your appetite will be reduced automatically.
-Drink a lot of water. That will help process the wasted from you working out and you'll basically pee and sweat the chemicals that make up fat (this is an oversimplification, we don't really know exactly how fat is burned off the body, but water is proven to help with weight loss significantly).
-For your cardio, I'd strongly recommend you go to the gym and use an elliptical machine (very similar to a stepper). They BURN MORE CALORIES than a treadmill and they are LOW IMPACT so you don't be stressing your joints as much.
-Measure your waist once a month. You'll probably lose about an inch off your waist each month. So if you need to lose 20 inches off your waist, your looking at approximately 20 months.
-If you reach your goal, don't stop exercising! Do less cardio and start a weight program.

Long term exercise will reduce your stress, improve your overall mood and outlook on life, and boost your confidence!

Sly, you're young and you can be healthy and desirable to women. Don't put yourself in a box. Join me!

Oh yeah, and one more thing on the age difference, there is a 25 year old lady who's interested in me and I'm 40. I'll admit I'm struggling with whether I can really date somebody that young, but she's definitely interested. At one point, when we were studying together, she got annoyed when I brought up how young she is. She said I'm old enough! She didn't say for what, but I realized she was interested in me. Anyway, the point of the story is, YOU are young my friend and you should not write yourself off!

Do this!

My 2nd girlfriend was 19 when I was 28. We met on this forum. Part of the reason our relationship didn't work is because she was dependent on her parents to help pay for college & they wanted things on their terms. I was willing to work with them but it was frustrating for both of us & we were long distance. That girl your taking about sly may be dependent on her parents too & if she is youd'd both have to make sure you try & work with their terms if they have any. My 2nd exes parents were more controlling than lots thou.

it really varies. in probably 90% of cases, the answer is a hard no.

first, you have to think about where you were when you were 19. what were your ambitions and goals? what did you want in a partner? what was your mental state like? because the majority of us, had no good answers to those questions. at 19, we're discovering the independent adult world for the first time. and you're 10 whole years ahead of this person. at 29, you should have your life mapped out to some extent, where you live, who you are, what your long term goals are, and if you don't, you probably aren't very mature - and that's probably why you're even open to the idea of dating a teenager to begin with. because if you had those things, you wouldn't be interested at all in someone who's just learning to be an adult.

while it's possible for someone to be mature at 19, that's just for their time - maybe they've experienced more or are on a good track in life. that's awesome, but you still have 11 years of experience in the adult world, and they barely have 1. they might not know what a real, loving, committed relationship requires or entails.

however, you're both still technically adults, so, have at it. just ask yourself, why would you want to date someone who's 19? i'll bet you 9 times out of 10, the answer is "i'm lonely" or "i just want to have coitus" and there's nothing wrong with that, it's just important you be honest with yourself so you don't end up with a broken heart. it is very possible that the age difference can be ignored, you each find what you want in each other and be happy. it just isn't that likely. remember - who you were at 19 vs 29, is likely very different.

I’m very much the same I was as 19 except less naive about credits , women and “Love”

I’m a loser. That’s clear I don’t have my life together and won’t ever have it together and this women 23+ won’t touch me with a 100 foot pole.

^ In that case you and her both have the same level of maturity. Did you ask her out yet?

I’m with RetroGamer ask her out! It’s 10 years I dated a 29year old at 19 it didn’t work out but that was because he was a pot head not cause of his age.

Now if we’re convinced u it’s where to ask her to... and if u can do it without looking like an idiot if she says no cause u have to work with her so we gotta be clued in here

Trivia maybe? Mixes alcohol with someone else making a 3rd of the conversation?

Well Sly's not a pothead so he already has a big advantage over your ex!

True true! Anyway I’m pretty sure 10 years is nothing 29 to 39 is normal... 49 to 59, 89 to 99 all pretty normal...

but if the woman was older that’s not so normal but still ok just a bit unusual.

Unless their a Phillipino and which case back to normal