10 year age gap. Can a 29 old date a 19 year old?

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Lots of things I read said that us Aspies mature slower than our peers & our mental age is a third less than our physical ages on average. I divided 29 by 3 & then timesed it by 2 on my calc to see what a third less of 29 is & it came to 19.3 so a 29 year-old Aspie may be at about the same mental age as 19 year-old. Also women tend to mature faster than guys on average & so a 19 year-old girl may be more mature mentally than a 29 year-old Aspie guy.

You're an adult, she's an adult. What's the problem?

My wife (smart, beautiful, assertive, NT) and I have an 18-year age difference.We got together when she was 24 and I was 42. Twelve years later, we're still together and have two kids. So I'd say it's about how the two people relate, not about fitting into anyone's preconceptions about what is or isn't appropriate.

My father is 25 years older than his present wife. They’re still going strong, celebrating their 30th anniversary this year.

Only if the younger woman is interested. Older guys have to accept "no" if the lady isn't interested.

My crazy ex and my wife are 14 years apart in age. It never once occurred to me that either one was a mismatch due to age. Yes, my ex is nuts but she would still be an overgrown toddler no matter what her biological age. Go figure that the women I dated my own age never worked out but much older and much younger did (for a while that is).

I also had a friend who was 31 and dated a 19 year old. It didn't last because of the maturity gap: she was far too mature for him.

Yes, it actually makes sense for a young women to marry a guy who is older if she wants to quickly have a family. An older guy is more likely to have a steady job that will support a family and enough money saved up to buy a house or at least enough to take out a mortgage.

So what about 35year old woman to a 66year old man. Assuming financially successful on both sides obviously the man more so due to more years and being a man (men seem more interested in making money).

Totally hypothetical would the man just dismiss the women’s intentions cause he would assume he was too old and that he had his signals crossed? Would the normal signs work in this situation? Like the textbook stuff? Assuming the man liked the woman. Urgh there’s probably a reason this doesn’t happen in reality.

When President Trump married the First Lady their ages were 58 and 34. According to Cosmo they first got together when she was 28.

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Oooooh that makes me happy. Now I can spend the rest of my day in happy dream land thnx

Aside from her being a supermodel but otherwise totally similar somehow I think he did the initiating too. Hmm they do seem happy.

I have a terrible feeling the same thing would happen to me if I dated a 19 year old.

Was in the same boat beginning of the year.
10 years isn't a large gap for adults but when one of the adults is a teenager or just entering their 20's then that's a completely different kettle of fish.

What about if the guy is a loser with no job, not going to college & not disabled or anything & ends up moving in with the girl & her parents partly cuz the girl is still in high-skewl. Situations like that actually aren't that uncommon where I'm from.

He must be good attractive and have good social skills.

I suggest u move

First off, there's no problem at all in the age gap as long as you don't think you just became the main character in a love story. Keep your head cool.

I don't mean to alarm you but... if other ladies are pushing you to make a move there's a chance that your one already knows about you and is just waiting for you to make a move. That is, if you can totally trust these women, you really should waste no more time. Ask the woman out for a coffee as "friends", have a little chat and uncover more about your woman.

Remember this must be all about her: find out her interests. Family, kids, pets, tv shows... express that you are interested in her, just don't do that with words. Don't talk much about yourself unless she asks questions, in that case you be very brief and vague, so that the conversation can stretch for a while (because she will be curious). Don't try to be funny. Just be natural. Most important, wear a content face.

On the other hand if you can't trust those girls, there's a chance that they just want to see you fail. However, the whole "friendly brief conversation" idea still stands. Don't go full pedal to the metal, be as discrete as possible, don't let anyone see you asking her out.

That's my advice for age gap *before* the relationship starts. Whenever you are both together and if you feel like needing more advice, feel free to come to me and I'll gladly try to offer the best possible help.

If she rejects you though, for whatever reason, just forget about her immediately. It's "hello, goodbye" in the morning at its best.

The girl told another female working when asked thst she didn’t like me. That was two months ago. I don’t talk to or make eye contact with her..