Why are women so desperate for men?
Just today I had a chat with my friend who really wants to break up with her useless boyfriend who also has anger issues but... but... she's so settled in her life as a part of a couple that the thought of being alone feels to her like being out of water to a fish. She never mentioned love once in this conversation - that maybe she still loves him or even likes him. Nope.
To me, this is just crazy, but she's not alone in this thinking. My sister is another example. My 2 unhappily married friends too. They'd rather jump from a guy to a guy straight away than have a break which I just simply can't understand.
But then again I have female friends who are happily single and in no rush to marry or settle, or ones divorced and really just having fun with random guys off Tinder. Why not.
I know some very desperate guys too, plus the internet is full of them - ones that at the same time desperately want women but hate them with passion That's... kinda bad for their mental state (and their poor girlfriends) and it shows.
...so I wouldn't generalize that women are always the clingy, desperate types.
I agree.
But don’t you talk about being with guys ? 0.o
Willingly single is probably happier then forced single. But that’s same with anything. People enjoy willingly doing stuff but not forced to.
But don’t you talk about being with guys ? 0.o
Willingly single is probably happier then forced single. But that’s same with anything. People enjoy willingly doing stuff but not forced to.
Those weren’t official relationships, and I was very unhappy in all of them. Having low self esteem meant you gravitated to the most abusive, horrible natured people. They put me off romantic involvement for life, and I’m extremely grateful that I at least learned, finally, what I don’t want. Better to be alone than with someone who treats you like trash.
But don’t you talk about being with guys ? 0.o
Willingly single is probably happier then forced single. But that’s same with anything. People enjoy willingly doing stuff but not forced to.
Those weren’t official relationships, and I was very unhappy in all of them. Having low self esteem meant you gravitated to the most abusive, horrible natured people. They put me off romantic involvement for life, and I’m extremely grateful that I at least learned, finally, what I don’t want. Better to be alone than with someone who treats you like trash.
Yup. This is true.
I think a lot of people feel this way.
Having low self esteem meant you gravitated to the most abusive, horrible natured people. They put me off romantic involvement for life, and I’m extremely grateful that I at least learned, finally, what I don’t want. Better to be alone than with someone who treats you like trash.[/quote]
I disagree. You didn't gravitate towards them. You simply were available. Our aspie naivete draws predators directly to us. It's not your fault. Is it a steak's fault that a hungry dog ate it? The dog was hungry. The steak can't help being a delicious meal to something that has originated from the wolf. Do what you have to do to be and stay happy.
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Some guys are like that to cuz I'm a guy who's the same way. I'm pretty clingy & needy within a relationship & LOVE spending time with my partner. She's the one person who really accepts me & I feel I can be my true self around.
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Same for men. Many men can't live without a woman. In fact, in my observation, men get more upset and more depressed about being single than women do. But the fact of the matter is, some people really just don't like being alone. For some people, being alone is one of the worst things in the world for them, and even a toxic relationship is more appealing to them than being alone. As for break ups, in my observation men take break ups harder than women. As to why are women so clingy....some women are clingy, as well as some men, but when men are clingy, society doesn't call them clingy, society calls them "possessive" and "jealous".
I'm not sure where you get this idea. I think how quickly people start to consider marriage depends on many factors, such as how much they like the other person, their age, and where they are in life. For example, in one's early 20's, in the west, most men and women are not ready for marriage and would not, at that point in their lives, consider marrying their partner. Men tend to start thinking about marriage slightly past their mid 20's, which is when women tend to also start thinking about marriage, and people in their late 30s, both men and women, are more likely to be looking for marriage. When I go on dating sites, most of the men in my dating pool are in their mid to late 40s and are looking for marriage. The difference is, a women in their 30s who want children may, on average be looking for marriage more than a man in his 30s who eventually wants children, because she has less time to have children, so she may be more likely to want to get to the point, whereas a man may feel he has more time to "play the field".
In my observation, women who are clingy are more likely to find a man and marry him. I preset as evidence, myself vs. women with borderline personality disorder.
I'm not a clingy person. I prefer a lot of time to myself. Women with borderline personality disorder are the epitome of clingy because people with borderline personality disorder rely on others to give them a sense of self. People with borderline personality disorder also tend to create stormy, toxic, abusive relationships due to their emotionality, paranoia, and perpetual fear of abandonment. I'm sure you have hear of those women who stay with abusive men who hit them and wonder why (some of these women have BPD but that's not what I'm getting at) there is a parallel for men. Men who stay with abusive women with BPD.
On this message bored, most of the people posting about the problems they have with their spouses are women with partners they think have AS.
However there are message boards geared towards BPD where most of the people posting about their spouses are men who believe their wives have BPD. After reading some of the horrors these men have been subjected to, one starts to ask "Why do these men stay with these abusive women". The men provide an answer to this question. Because, via their clingyness, the women made the men feel like they were the most important person in the world, and the attention they bestowed upon the men made the men absolutely enamored with them.
The lesson: Women who give men a lot of emotional and sexual attention don't have a hard time getting men for any type of relationship.
I'm going to be single for a long time.
Yeah, you are completely right. I've been without a girlfriend since HS (I'll be 35 in May) and I have to say I'm a very very lonely individual. I've been depressed for a long time, and having a woman around me I've felt is about the only thing that honestly makes me feel happy. For a long time the only thing I truly wanted since HS is a life-time female partner, but once they start to get to know the real me, they often times just see me as desperate or very lonely, clingy, weird or "too passive". It honestly sucks being alone, and I just want to find someone. I don't want to grow up into a depressed old man like my father is.
Same for men. Many men can't live without a woman. In fact, in my observation, men get more upset and more depressed about being single than women do. But the fact of the matter is, some people really just don't like being alone. For some people, being alone is one of the worst things in the world for them, and even a toxic relationship is more appealing to them than being alone. As for break ups, in my observation men take break ups harder than women. As to why are women so clingy....some women are clingy, as well as some men, but when men are clingy, society doesn't call them clingy, society calls them "possessive" and "jealous".
I'm not sure where you get this idea. I think how quickly people start to consider marriage depends on many factors, such as how much they like the other person, their age, and where they are in life. For example, in one's early 20's, in the west, most men and women are not ready for marriage and would not, at that point in their lives, consider marrying their partner. Men tend to start thinking about marriage slightly past their mid 20's, which is when women tend to also start thinking about marriage, and people in their late 30s, both men and women, are more likely to be looking for marriage. When I go on dating sites, most of the men in my dating pool are in their mid to late 40s and are looking for marriage. The difference is, a women in their 30s who want children may, on average be looking for marriage more than a man in his 30s who eventually wants children, because she has less time to have children, so she may be more likely to want to get to the point, whereas a man may feel he has more time to "play the field".
In my observation, women who are clingy are more likely to find a man and marry him. I preset as evidence, myself vs. women with borderline personality disorder.
I'm not a clingy person. I prefer a lot of time to myself. Women with borderline personality disorder are the epitome of clingy because people with borderline personality disorder rely on others to give them a sense of self. People with borderline personality disorder also tend to create stormy, toxic, abusive relationships due to their emotionality, paranoia, and perpetual fear of abandonment. I'm sure you have hear of those women who stay with abusive men who hit them and wonder why (some of these women have BPD but that's not what I'm getting at) there is a parallel for men. Men who stay with abusive women with BPD.
On this message bored, most of the people posting about the problems they have with their spouses are women with partners they think have AS.
However there are message boards geared towards BPD where most of the people posting about their spouses are men who believe their wives have BPD. After reading some of the horrors these men have been subjected to, one starts to ask "Why do these men stay with these abusive women". The men provide an answer to this question. Because, via their clingyness, the women made the men feel like they were the most important person in the world, and the attention they bestowed upon the men made the men absolutely enamored with them.
The lesson: Women who give men a lot of emotional and sexual attention don't have a hard time getting men for any type of relationship.
I'm going to be single for a long time.
Yeah, you are completely right. I've been without a girlfriend since HS (I'll be 35 in May) and I have to say I'm a very very lonely individual. I've been depressed for a long time, and having a woman around me I've felt is about the only thing that honestly makes me feel happy. For a long time the only thing I truly wanted since HS is a life-time female partner, but once they start to get to know the real me, they often times just see me as desperate or very lonely, clingy, weird or "too passive". It honestly sucks being alone, and I just want to find someone. I don't want to grow up into a depressed old man like my father is.
I'm sure there's just as many women in the world who feel this way as men!!
/sarcasm
I strongly relate to how you feel about being alone.
^ There is just as many women who are single as men, though they probably aren’t as desperate.
Biology dictates that it’s a 50/50 split between males and females. Like I said, the men wanting more sex likely causes the balance to skew.
A desperate woman might date a man who is essentially using her for sex in the form of a fake relationship. Really common.
Sucks for guys who genuinely want one.
Biology dictates that it’s a 50/50 split between males and females. Like I said, the men wanting more sex likely causes the balance to skew.
A desperate woman might date a man who is essentially using her for sex in the form of a fake relationship. Really common.
Sucks for guys who genuinely want one.
How does biology dictate there a man for each woman? How does that take in account male twins or quadruplets. No there’s more men then women in the world.
My area alone has 3,000 more men then we have women. China has millions and millions more men then they have women.
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There are more women in the world because women live longer. If the birth rate is roughly equal and women live 10% longer than means there will be 10% more women at any given time.
Yes there are male sets of twins. There are also female sets of twins and mixed sets of twins. I don't see how multiple births will lead to more males.
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