Don't Be Overly Loyal

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I've been overly loyal to friends & got screwed over by them & I've also been overly loyal in the workplace & ended up working alot harder than most even thou I wasn't really appreciated by management.

I am guilty of being overly loyal in friendships. I'm a very aloof person but once I opened up to someone who wanted to be my friend, that person had my total loyalty. I got disappointed when over time my loyalty was still strong and I could see it wasn't with my friend anymore. When my best friend in high school seemed to value me less over time, it really hurt, but I knew he had 'outgrown' me so I never made a fuss over it. I tend to be naive in my loyalty and I assume the other person will be the same.

Reminds me of my first best friend in elementary school. I was 100% loyal to him and it was sad to gradually realize I was maybe his 4th friend at best. I just assumed he felt the same way I did and especially since his parents liked me more than him most days!

Even though I keep getting screwed over, I still can't seem to turn off the 'loyalty' switch. I have shown incredible loyalty to people only to have them ditch me the second a perceived better option came along. I would lay down my life for those close to me yet they might call 911 at best before walking away in the same situation.