People always tell me I have a beautiful smile and when I smile it puts people at ease and makes them feel safe and good. A genuine smile will do that and if your smile is genuine, even if you are not the most attractive person, it won't matter. The heart will show through and it will put people at ease.
But, having said that, I have watched myself speak to my cousins and to an Aspie friend using whatsapp. I love whatsapp because you can see yourself as well as the person you are talking to. It was fascinating watching my nt cousin and myaelf and then watching my aspie friend and myself. The lack of facial expressions with me and my aspie friend compared to my cousin was astounding.
Every now and then my aspie friend and i would laugh or smile but a smile was rare. For the most part we were completely deadpan expressionless. My cousin's face was constantly changing expressions.
My aspie friend and I talked about this and one thing he said is that he thinks it is that way because we don't tend to learn to understand and recognize subtle expressions from birth like nts do and he thinks that because of that fact, we don't learn how to make those expressions naturally. So we will smile when we naturally feel the need to smile, when something makes us feel happy or gives us certain kinds of pleasure, but nts will smile more often because they have learned to make socially based expressions and to smile socially.
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"I'm bad and that's good. I'll never be good and that's not bad. There's no one I'd rather be than me."
Wreck It Ralph