Is there any point to making friends?

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Keeping a log of what happens in your romantic life is an interesting project, but using pen & paper is pretty inefficient given that you cannot change it. And just burning it when you get into an LTR is even worse. I wish I kept logs during high school and college, but I didn't, so now all I have are some distant memories that are not even close to the details a real log would have. I'd download it to my website (in a hidden area), or upload it to some neutral site where it preserves. Another possibility is to write it as PMs to somebody you trust to get second opinions.

IMHO, what you describe sounds more like what some pop-star might do in order to catalogize all his conquests and not something that would be useful for the average guy.

Yeah I hear you. I am a woman, read my profile thing.

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Yeah I don't know. I've had a few friends who were super close find partners who they say have similar personalities to me and "oh you'll love to meet so and so, he's so similar to you, same sense of humour" etc. I feel like I was just the substitute friend while they were looking for a partner. Perpetually single is ok as long as my friends are still going to be my friends and still want to spend time with me. If they all leave me then I don't want to be perpetually single anymore. I don't want to be anything anymore.

I have started to view friends as temporary/transient though which helps somewhat. My problem is that I do have the ability to get attached to people as I'm extremely loyal. But whatever. So are dogs. Maybe I should get a dog.

This, kinda...

But also, friends are useful, they know people and things you don't. They can give you valuable information and lend an extra hand with tasks or activities that require more than just yourself. Try swapping an engine in a car without some friends.

No the OP isn't using friends as a substitute for a relationship. She feels like they are using her and then ditching her when they pair up.

And she's hurt. 'Whats the point' refers to her thinking why did they befriend me just to drop me? What was the point of that?

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I feel the same. I don't want a relationship for the sake of one. I want to meet someone compatible. But I do wonder if my old friends would include me if I was a part of a couple the way they are.

It's like they don't know how to deal with or what to do with us odd single people.

Who is a friend at all?
I thought I made some friends, I was happy finally I had some girls around but it was short lived. They "left" me when they found a new guy. Practically I was good to go out with as they didn't want to go alone, I was good to listen they whinging about those guys but when I had some problems, when I wanted to vent, they disappeared.
Or they used me as an ego boost, looking down on me made them feel better about themselves.
At the moment I'm just happy to be alone, no more fake friends.
I even deactivated my facebook.
Let's see who's gonna make an effort to send a friggin' text. Not even a call, just a simple text.