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I did a ton of online tests and it appears I'm likely neuro diverse Aspie. Being 56, it's a bit late to find out. As a had a childhood that involved moving schools and countries every couple of years (father built power stations) so I always made friends with the geeks and outcasts, never with the 'in' crowd. It didn't bother me when I left that I wouldn't see them again. I thought it was my upbringing that made me the way I am, but am now questioning that.

After 30 years I went to a school reunion at my last school, where I boarded for a few years, and was amazed to find people liked me. I didn't feel that back then much. I was friends with quite a few people in the year below me, which I understand is quite typical.

I emailed my maternal uncle mentioning the tests. He wasn't surprised as he said he was one, and probably my grandfather and great grandfather. Plus my mother, which took me aback, but looking back, I can see what he meant.

Amazingly, I'm married (26 years) and have three children. I'm an accountant and the main bread winner. Last year I nearly had a melt down and almost walked out at work, which is why I want a formal diagnose – weapons to defend myself. I miss out words when I write and sometimes when I talk. I'm not a team player, preferring to work by myself. Whenever I've been asked to use a junior or get someone else to help, it's turned into a disaster. I've also been pulled up for concentrating on details too much rather than the bigger picture. I find it weird that pull in more new clients than the rest of the department combined, so I must be doing something right. I'll like to be left alone to just get on with my work.

Question now. I'm intending to go to the doctor's tomorrow to ask for a referral to be tested formally and am slightly concerned about the information I need to ask and give. Reasons would be work and I have a few examples. Would that be enough? I don't want to be brushed off, have to ask to see another doctor and have to return another day.

Hey there. There has to be some kind of start somewhere. Right now my thought is that having just a few examples and references is better than having a whole bunch of references - which might lead to the doctor feeling overpowered and defensive.

Your GP is only there to refer you really, but it wouldn't hurt to have in mind some of the major points that are making you seek a diagnosis. Different doctors have different experience and knowledge of autism so you don't know how clued in your doctor is going to be until you talk to them so I wouldn't go overboard in preparation.

Thanks. I always over think things. I'd probably take the kitchen sink if I thought it would help.

Hello, Black Spot----and, WELCOME!!

What I usually recommend to people, because others here have done this, is getting "The Complete Guide to Asperger's Syndrome" by Tony Attwood, and writing-down everything that pertains to you, with at least one example----but, you probably don't have time, for that (unless you've already gotten the book); so, I would recommend, going here, and doing the same. Besides as someone else said, your GP probably doesn't need so much information----and, hopefully, you'll have enough time to get Tony's book, and prepare for your psychiatrist's appointment, with that.

Good luck, tomorrow!!

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

Been. Doctor was fine and will write to the local mental health clinic. Now I wait, but it's a start.

Hey there A start is good, sure beats a no start!