My mind is pushing me towards giving up

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16 Sep 2017, 3:49 am

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That's why most people rush to get married young before age 25.


Why. So they can avoid having no life single, but be stuck with someone they find they don't really like?

I do wonder how many couples regret what they did.

There's no silver lining for anyone unless you're just lucky.



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16 Sep 2017, 3:52 am

hurtloam wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
That's why most people rush to get married young before age 25.


Why. So they can avoid having no life single, but be stuck with someone they find they don't really like?

I do wonder how many couples regret what they did.

There's no silver lining for anyone unless you're just lucky.



Well, most of those i know who got married young are doing fine; apparently at least.



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16 Sep 2017, 4:21 am

Anyway where i live, everyone was shut inside yesterday Friday night and I expect today night too, all panicked including my gf lol.

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The French Embassy in Beirut urged French citizens in Lebanon on Friday to be vigilant over the next 48 hours, citing an "elevated risk of attack targeting public places".
The U.S. Embassy said earlier in the week it had barred staff from visiting the Casino du Liban in Jounieh, north of Beirut. Canada also warned its citizens on Thursday to avoid that area.
(Reporting by John Davison; Editing by Kevin Liffey and Gareth Jones)


Read more at http://www.channelnewsasia.com/news/wor ... es-9222258


it was a wild night on the news...



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16 Sep 2017, 4:37 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
That's why most people rush to get married young before age 25.


Why. So they can avoid having no life single, but be stuck with someone they find they don't really like?

I do wonder how many couples regret what they did.

There's no silver lining for anyone unless you're just lucky.



Well, most of those i know who got married young are doing fine; apparently at least.


My friends tell me, when I'm feeling lonely, or when I point out that some has got engaged, 'it's not all like that. You're only seeing one part of it.' Which makes me think the rest must be bad and not worth it.



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16 Sep 2017, 4:38 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Anyway where i live, everyone was shut inside yesterday Friday night and I expect today night too, all panicked including my gf lol.

Quote:
The French Embassy in Beirut urged French citizens in Lebanon on Friday to be vigilant over the next 48 hours, citing an "elevated risk of attack targeting public places".
The U.S. Embassy said earlier in the week it had barred staff from visiting the Casino du Liban in Jounieh, north of Beirut. Canada also warned its citizens on Thursday to avoid that area.
(Reporting by John Davison; Editing by Kevin Liffey and Gareth Jones)


Read more at http://www.channelnewsasia.com/news/wor ... es-9222258


it was a wild night on the news...

Woah 8O



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16 Sep 2017, 5:52 pm

hurtloam wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
That's why most people rush to get married young before age 25.


Why. So they can avoid having no life single, but be stuck with someone they find they don't really like?

I do wonder how many couples regret what they did.

There's no silver lining for anyone unless you're just lucky.



Well, most of those i know who got married young are doing fine; apparently at least.


My friends tell me, when I'm feeling lonely, or when I point out that some has got engaged, 'it's not all like that. You're only seeing one part of it.' Which makes me think the rest must be bad and not worth it.

They say that to make you feel better most relationships are 75% good. People wouldn't stay together if it was horrible. Most people are happy in relationships they go around making out, holding hands and such.

Everyone has bad times couples included they probably have fights and times they don't want to be around each other but most of the time they are happy together



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16 Sep 2017, 5:53 pm

I dont know why I haven't given up honestly. It seems hopeless for guys like me:(



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17 Sep 2017, 12:41 am

sly279 wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
That's why most people rush to get married young before age 25.


Why. So they can avoid having no life single, but be stuck with someone they find they don't really like?

I do wonder how many couples regret what they did.

There's no silver lining for anyone unless you're just lucky.



Well, most of those i know who got married young are doing fine; apparently at least.


My friends tell me, when I'm feeling lonely, or when I point out that some has got engaged, 'it's not all like that. You're only seeing one part of it.' Which makes me think the rest must be bad and not worth it.

They say that to make you feel better most relationships are 75% good. People wouldn't stay together if it was horrible. Most people are happy in relationships they go around making out, holding hands and such.

Everyone has bad times couples included they probably have fights and times they don't want to be around each other but most of the time they are happy together


I dunno. I think some people stay together because they don't like change. It's too much of a big thing to leave. Or if they are religious and don't believe in divorce they'll grit their teeth and stay together even if they think they made a mistake. Or there are those who stay together for the kids. Or there are those who can't afford to move out and live on their own.

There's lots of reasons couples stay together other than happiness. Just take my parents as an example. I think financial security and the security of a routine keep them living in the same house.

Looking at a couple you know you can't tell what's going on behind closed doors.



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17 Sep 2017, 12:45 am

Yeah, I'm getting to the point where I really feel a relationship isn't worth the hassle.

It's a pain in the ads trying to attract someone in the first place. When you do catch someone's eye it's a pain in the ads trying to do all the right things to develop their interest and I go to all this effort and no one asks me out or if I ask them out they don't text back or say no.

It's too much effort for getting constantly hurt.



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17 Sep 2017, 1:00 am

sly279 wrote:
I dont know why I haven't given up honestly. It seems hopeless for guys like me:(




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17 Sep 2017, 1:21 am

0.o



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20 Sep 2017, 6:11 pm

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Yeah, I'm getting to the point where I really feel a relationship isn't worth the hassle.

It's a pain in the ads trying to attract someone in the first place. When you do catch someone's eye it's a pain in the ads trying to do all the right things to develop their interest and I go to all this effort and no one asks me out or if I ask them out they don't text back or say no.

It's too much effort for getting constantly hurt.


There are 2 Steps.

Step 1 is:

The physical part.

Lots of people ignore or aren't aware of the Biological-aspect of attracting a guy.

I have begun to run 20 minutes on a treadmill every day and lift light weights - which can actually be fun.

If you do that for yourself, you will be healthier and happier and also men will notice you more.

That is actually how it is designed to be, especially if you believe in Evolution.

Step 2 is:

The verbal part.

When you see a male you desire - you only need to do one thing to attract him in conversation.

- Have a common-interest with him (or fake it, till you make it!) :wink:

Seriously! If your crush likes Football/Cricket/Whatever it may be - then you talk about that with him until he feels comfortable with you.

The reason for this is so he can feel a connection with you - and feel comfortable enough to explore it.

This is just an effective means to do that.

And it works.

Even if what he's passionate about doesn't interest you - you only need to talk about it until it seems like he's very comfortable with you.

By then, if you've been doing Step 1 routinely, then he will feel a connection with you - and he will want to explore it.

It's that simple.

You do those two things consistently, and you've got your boyfriend. :D



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21 Sep 2017, 10:37 am

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hurtloam wrote:
Yeah, I'm getting to the point where I really feel a relationship isn't worth the hassle.

It's a pain in the ads trying to attract someone in the first place. When you do catch someone's eye it's a pain in the ads trying to do all the right things to develop their interest and I go to all this effort and no one asks me out or if I ask them out they don't text back or say no.

It's too much effort for getting constantly hurt.


There are 2 Steps.

Step 1 is:

The physical part.

Lots of people ignore or aren't aware of the Biological-aspect of attracting a guy.

I have begun to run 20 minutes on a treadmill every day and lift light weights - which can actually be fun.

If you do that for yourself, you will be healthier and happier and also men will notice you more.

That is actually how it is designed to be, especially if you believe in Evolution.

Step 2 is:

The verbal part.

When you see a male you desire - you only need to do one thing to attract him in conversation.

- Have a common-interest with him (or fake it, till you make it!) :wink:

Seriously! If your crush likes Football/Cricket/Whatever it may be - then you talk about that with him until he feels comfortable with you.

The reason for this is so he can feel a connection with you - and feel comfortable enough to explore it.

This is just an effective means to do that.

And it works.

Even if what he's passionate about doesn't interest you - you only need to talk about it until it seems like he's very comfortable with you.

By then, if you've been doing Step 1 routinely, then he will feel a connection with you - and he will want to explore it.

It's that simple.

You do those two things consistently, and you've got your boyfriend. :D


Yeah it's really not that easy. I already workout.

Problem is getting someone to converse with me long enough to find out what he's into.



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21 Sep 2017, 8:24 pm

Some of us just aren't meant to have somebody.



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22 Sep 2017, 11:12 pm

Sabreclaw wrote:
Some of us just aren't meant to have somebody.


I hate to say it, but i think this is true. I'm actually beginning to accept that I am one of those people.

I just can't do this aspect of life. I don't have the skills or disposition. It's not that I don't want to make more effort. People tell me just to practice and it will come naturally to talk to guys, but I'm not enjoying it.

I don't like the stress of it, the constantly feeling I have to do this or that to be more attractive. The feeling of not being good enough when it turns out the guy isn't interested.

It's demoralizing and makes me feel bad.

I don't want to play this game anymore. I just want to be myself and get on with my life.

Love is not for me.



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22 Sep 2017, 11:58 pm

I constantly try to be good enough but never can be :(
But I won't be happy alone so guess I'll just always be sad til I end it eventually

It's like why do I bother with gym. Going cost me $200($40 to join $50 for shoes, then need bag, clothes etc) then $120 a year.
And it won't even help :( so I haven't been since last week due to lacking the shoes and feeling demoralized