learning about boundaries question

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After a narcissistic relationship, my daughter began learning and placing boundlessness in her life and I know I need to do this too. How ever I was told that by telling my granddaughter she was wearing too much make-up I was crossing a boundary. I don't really understand, like grandparents can't say things like your dress is to short or I don't like that boy.
I'm feeling like having my vocal cords removed so people can't misconstrued what I say.

Maybe they meant boundary synonymous with right? As in, they may have believed you do not have the right, as a grandparent, to be criticizing your grand-daughter's makeup choices? Especially if her mother approved?
I don't see a problem with expressing it as an opinion, though - something like "I don't think it looks nice when young girls wear so much makeup now."
Can they tell you you're crossing a boundary and have no right to speak your own opinion? I guess that would depend on them.