Mistaking diplomacy for kindness/interest
So this is something that's happened to me a couple times over the last 10 years or so. Every once in a while, when interacting with someone either at work or at some casual social setting, it may seem to me that that person is displaying a considerable affinity with me through their actions and the words they say. At those moments, I have sometimes thought that this person could be interested in pursuing a friendship ( as I myself was interested in). Apparently, I am terrible at reading signals, because typically what happens when I suggest that we meet at some place of mutual interest, they decline. This always throws me off, and has been the cause for much self-doubt, as it made me feel as though even people with whom I have a 'click', are not really interested in socializing with me beyond the superficial. Note that, at this point in my life, I have no friends or acquaintances (haven't had friends since school 14 years ago, and only had 2 acquaintances from 2010-2013).
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clarity of thought before rashness of action
CharlesRooster
Yellow-bellied Woodpecker
Joined: 8 Sep 2017
Age: 23
Gender: Male
Posts: 69
Location: Waco,TX
This I can relate to in a way, I can't really get past acquaintanceship with people especially. Then again, usually I'm the one avoiding them.
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