What is your level of emphaty
It really kind of depends with me. If its someone i actualy care about or feel comfortable intetacting with, then ill be alot more considerate. But if if its some one that i dont like or if im really pissed off at someone, then yeah i can come off as apathetic and even mean spirited.
But usualy i just tend to be in my own zone around people in general, and tend to focus on myself a little more. Not because i have a giant ego or anything, but rather because i get too caught up in my own life, especialy when running errands. But i pretty much get along with anyone really, especialy if they are friendly or trustworthy in my eyes.
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I'm not a mean person. People consider me to be nice, and morality is important to me.
However, I struggle to read people, and I don't respond 'correctly' emotionally (internally or externally).
Think Vulcan - it's not malice, just a disconnection.
People who have got to know me enough to get a feel of what I consist of have commented that I am extremely considerate and thoughtful and I will always seek to pursue this impression since it's what I have always broadcast. If I read the newspaper or watch tv I can shed tears several times a day as sappy as that is, when I go over murder cases or accidents (which I do a lot as I am compelled by such depressing occurrences because of the impact they carry in human cost and technical/psychological weight) I end up bawling and not a day goes by when I don't think of those who have suffered pain, death, sorrow across our world and through the years etc, I am a fountain of empathy, I can also feel deeply for things I know are just inanimate objects like chewing gum lol. This thing about ''lack empathy'' never fails to bewilder and astound me.
I initially received a score of 6 on this test. I thought "maybe I was just being overly dramatic in how I answered the questions" so I went back and changed a few of my answers in an attempt to mitigate my score. My new score was 9, so I guess I'm just a monster.
It's funny though because I do get really emotional about certain things, but it's usually something on TV or in film or in a book I read. I've never been able to get through Spock's death in Wrath of Khan without crying. I watched an animated short film on YouTube called "The Dog" recently. I went into that video thinking it would just be a fun cartoon about a cute puppy, but when it was over I was absolutely wrecked emotionally. Things with animals always hit me harder.
Part of the problem is that in psychiatry/psychology, and so also in this test, the technical definition of "empathy" doesn't match how the word is used in normal conversation. It's a much narrower sense of the word, along the lines of "do you instinctively have an idea how a certain situation is making some other person feel?", or "if you want to make another person feel a certain way, do you instinctively have an idea how to do that?" Whether or not it is instinctive or intuitive is just as important as whether you can usually work out the situation correctly. And it's always about your perception of another person's emotions, the fact that an event might make you have your own emotions that are very powerful doesn't enter into it.
It's possible to feel sympathy with someone in need, and so treat them considerately, even though you worked out how they are feeling in some other way. For example, maybe they just came out and told you, or you spent some time comparing the situation with memories and advice you've been told. But that's different to what the test is checking for.
The test is not intended to learn anything about a person's morality, the strength of their emotions, or how considerate they would be once they know that another person is in need. The trouble is, of course, that most people reading or hearing about "lack of empathy" will most likely take it to mean the everyday definition of the word, including a lot of healthcare workers (and many of them are confusing "empathy" with "sympathy" anyway!)
Whether any of that makes it a good screening test for autism is a whole different matter, of course. But whether it is a useful test or not, getting a low score doesn't make anyone a "monster" or a psychopath!
Just for the record, I scored 19 when I did the test at my formal assessment. (Prime number! )
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Same. I scored 30 on this but I know I am hyperempathetic. I feel others' feelings so much that it's blinding. That test seemed to be scoring how well one can see through other people's facade. I am terrible at this. If it's a real emotion coming from someone else, I overly connect with it. If it's a bunch of fake bs coming from someone, I have no way to read or interpret it.
Your Empathy Quotient score was 4 out of a possible 80.
Scores of 30 or less indicate a lack of empathy common in people with Autism or Asperger’s Syndrome.
Wow...
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I got 20! That's insane. Everyone is always telling me how empathetic I am.
I get terribly distressed about animal welfare, I love animals so much. It brings me to tears when animals are mistreated or injured and that's why I stopped continuing to study animal nursing.
My day job is actively helping people who are unable to complete daily tasks and live independently.
And my volunteer job is helping disadvantaged people using my special interest.
And many other things, such as always helping others before myself, not wanting to upset others etc.
What the...?
How can this be?
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Neurodiverse (Aspie) score: 156 of 200.
Neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 56 of 200.
RAADS-R score: 175.0
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I get terribly distressed about animal welfare, I love animals so much. It brings me to tears when animals are mistreated or injured and that's why I stopped continuing to study animal nursing.
My day job is actively helping people who are unable to complete daily tasks and live independently.
And my volunteer job is helping disadvantaged people using my special interest.
And many other things, such as always helping others before myself, not wanting to upset others etc.
What the...?
How can this be?
Animals are great. People suck a big load.
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proficere non satis est, oportet deficiant ceteri omnes
I get terribly distressed about animal welfare, I love animals so much. It brings me to tears when animals are mistreated or injured and that's why I stopped continuing to study animal nursing.
My day job is actively helping people who are unable to complete daily tasks and live independently.
And my volunteer job is helping disadvantaged people using my special interest.
And many other things, such as always helping others before myself, not wanting to upset others etc.
What the...?
How can this be?
Animals are great. People suck a big load.
They do, but not the ones who appreciate you, but at the same time leave you be. XD
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Neurodiverse (Aspie) score: 156 of 200.
Neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 56 of 200.
RAADS-R score: 175.0
Artist | INFJ-T | heterodemisexual.
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