My 20's were wasted

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I can relate all too well. How much it sucked when all my loser cousins got married one by one while I, the responsible and caring one could not even get a hug from a woman in my 20s. Things obviously did work out but I made a huge mistake being so desperate that I grabbed the first person who showed any interest in me at 29. After I said "f*^$ relationships" at the age of 32 I met my wife a week later. I know it's hard now but in hindsight everything I did built up to that moment and I did NOT "waste" my 20s in any way. Hindsight is 20/20 but I made the best decisions I could have with the knowledge I had.

I wouldn't worry about your lack of experience. For the record my wife would have preferred my low "number" to be even lower than it is and was not turned off it. She WAS turned off by my bitter attitude thanks to crazy ex although luckily she is very understanding: one big positive for someone in their 30s is that there are no ex-spouses or children to worry about. If a woman rejects you for inexperience, thank her for not wasting your time and be glad you know she isn't the one. Besides, you don't even need to share it with anyone, just say you aren't comfortable talking about past relationships yet with someone new.

If it makes you feel any better most of the women who rejected me over the years are either still single or in miserable relationships meanwhile my wife gets upset sometimes because other women check me out regularly. I would have NEVER dreamed of that happening in my 20s! the trick is to have inner confidence that you are a valuable person, you don't care what other ignorant, judgmental people think of you and you deserve to be treated with respect, weird or not. Easier said than done but learn that and attracting a relationship becomes easier than you would have imagined.

I'm not doing at as a laugh i dont know for sure jones is that person but there was a person who Registered male out of irrational fears of being Mis treated for being female and only came clear when people asked them why they were posting in the women's section. It was like year ago or so.

Your lucky to have had a relationship I've never had one

I'm not doing at as a laugh i dont know for sure jones is that person but there was a person who Registered male out of irrational fears of being Mis treated for being female and only came clear when people asked them why they were posting in the women's section. It was like year ago or so.

Your lucky to have had a relationship I've never had one

I bet if you spent more time in Austin, your chances for a relationship would increase.

The key, really, is to not openly lament, to a woman, your relative lack of previous relationship experience.

I am almost 30 and I feel like my 20's were wasted. Instead of dating, having sex, and getting engaged like so many people I know around me did, I was deprived of those things and everything that I tried to do in order to get out of the rut ended in failure. I feel like I am damaged and malfunctioning but I can't be treated. Even if I do become confident, it will be too late because my empty past (Except for one real relationship that didn't last) will mark me as "strange" or even a serial killer in waiting.

I guess I just haven't figured out how to be okay with myself. I feel like I am "damaged" or "malfunctioning" due to my past failures. Just how can I decide that I am a worthy person?

I fortunately do not do that. I just hope she won't decide I am a "freak" once she learns I have depression and have been a failure in the romance department for almost 30 years.

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Hockey fan is a prime case of that he didn't get much luck til he has a good paying job and went to eharmony( a site for people with better paying jobs) lots of cases of losers and nerds havinggn this happen and it's often the advice people give . But if you don't fit that mold then your not going get better. There's no high paying professional job in my future.
I'll work at cabelas min wage part time til they close, remove my department(might happen soon) or fire me. This is literally the best job I can get in a post robotics industry world.

Not really sly, I wouldn't consider myself to be in a good job anymore (same job same pay for over 10 years) and I worked at this job for 5 years before landing my first relationship (and I probably would have been better off single). The job certainly didn't get me the wife although there is no question the #1 question women ask is almost always about employment.

I am almost 30 and I feel like my 20's were wasted. Instead of dating, having sex, and getting engaged like so many people I know around me did, I was deprived of those things and everything that I tried to do in order to get out of the rut ended in failure. I feel like I am damaged and malfunctioning but I can't be treated. Even if I do become confident, it will be too late because my empty past (Except for one real relationship that didn't last) will mark me as "strange" or even a serial killer in waiting.