Anorexic Friend?

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This doesn't just apply to anorexia. How go you all deal with having a friend who might not make it?

I had to finally end the friendship ...
it was fast becoming a case of
not letting a drowning person drag you down underwater to die with them
when all you've done is reach out a hand to help them.

Once I found out the secret of my friend's eating disorder,
she started trying to get me to starve along with her.
She also wanted to come to a dinner event where I worked,
but I was afraid her behavior might jeopardize my job ...
her disorder was so extreme it was affecting her mental health
to the point where I was starting to feel like her mother or baby-sitter
and was apologizing for her behavior to strangers in public.

Also, she was so frail and thin that I was afraid she would
literally keel over and die at any time.
She asked me to go on vacation with her,
but I didn't want to be responsible if anything happened to her on the trip.

I tried calling her mother on the phone secretly to get some help,
but that didn't work.

Very sad situation.
I hope she's all right.
I told her to get help, did what I could,
that said, her behavior is her choice.

I hope and pray that things go better for you and your friend.

She is on treatment and following instructions.

It's hard to stand by when a loved one is hurting themselves. I've found co-dependents anonymous a helpful tool to avoid getting caught up in the behavior of others. Also books by author Melody Beattie are very good. All we can really do is work on ourselves. Trying to fix others tends to have the opposite effect.

Betta ponic

The friend "might not make it"? "Over the long term"?

Someone could have perfect health, and get murdered, struck by a car, killed in an accident, or anything

Everyone is going to die, sooner or later

betta ponic

tell your friend to go to support groups.

https://www.anred.com/

read books about her diagnoses

see if you can go to a support group with her

otherwise, live in the moment

there are only so many things you can do to help.

Don't forget to keep working on yourself. It's easy to focus on others in order to not have to face our own problems. Your friend is lucky to have you.

My 1st girlfriend was 15 when I was 20 & she had problems with alcohol & drugs. We were online friends before she told me she liked me. I tried to get her to stop but she slipped up occasionally & I started having anxiety & OCD worrying she was getting into trouble when she likely wasn't. I started taking things out on her as a result & we had a lot of fights & arguments. We broke up because of it & tried to remain friends but we still had problems so we stopped. I kind of fell into a psychotic depression & slashed my arm 9x when she was bragging online about how she drank so much she had to get her stomach pumped. I spent the next 5 years seeing a psych & taking meds.

There isn't much you can do other than just be there for them. Recovery from an addiction is extremely difficult for a person both physically and mentally, rather it's alcohol, drugs, video games, the Internet, vomiting, or food restriction.