Rejection

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Boo is going to have a field day with this.

Do you not have your own opinion? Disagree with it? Let’s hear it.

Boo is an antagonist, he’d have a field day with most of the posts here.

Well, no, it doesn't mean that. Not everyone is going to be 100% accepted by someone they're interested in 100% of the time, no matter how "conventionally attractive" they seem.

It's so much more than just looks and interests. I stick to dating sites where you can answer questions and get match percentages. If someone messages me, I look at their profiles, what questions they've answered, and other indicators to see if we'd really be a good fit before deciding whether or not to reply. I've turned down guys who I considered to be absolutely gorgeous because our morals differed too much, we didn't have the same relationship goals, we didn't see eye-to-eye on important topics like religion/politics, or we had different communication needs.

I wouldn't call what happened to that guy "ghosting", but rather being rejected just based off of first impressions. I feel bad for him because he clearly didn't expect it, but insulting all of those girls was uncalled for.

That's a pretty negative way to look at women who aren't interested in you. Also, saying "she's not special and plenty of other women are nicer and prettier" is definitely reacting with a "tic-tack insult". It's much healthier to have a mindset of something like, "Rejection hurts, but it's okay because I just wasn't what this person was looking for." It's not easy to develop that mindset, since anger or wanting to hurt in return is a natural reaction to pain, but it feels so much better when you do get there.

You said, in your own words, online dating is not recommended for the 'average' guy. Which means it's worthwhile for handsome guys. Yes?

But earlier in the same paragraph you said the world isn't divided into ugly and non-ugly people, i.e. good looking and non-goodlooking or ugly men (to you).

I don't even....



Yes. Clickity click until you come across someone who's FACE and LOOKS you like. It doesn't matter if their holding up a fish or interested in one sporting event or not. The selling point was LOOKS.

I don't even...

I'll just leave it at...

I have no interesting in dating sites so I don't have much investment here. I'm well aware that physical appearances aren't the be-all-end-all of dating, though on dating sites people have little to work with other than some photos and a bio so appearances are likely to play a rather large part. No way to naturally form bonds before developing an interest for something more.

I can't agree or disagree on why you swipe men left; it's your brain, not mine.

Oh....but she is right, in this post at least. I always knew it this how women use dating sites; it doesn't take a genius to figure it out.

Muhahaha.

Could just tell them then ghost them and avoid any such backlash while treating them like a human being. Like how you’d like to be treated but most people don’t remember the golden rule.

The world isn’t divided into ugly and non ugly people. Because “hot” guys get more replies, doesn’t make the rest “ugly”. But the so called “ugly” people just don’t often stand out. A message or profile blurb can make all the difference. They still get interest for being intelligent or interesting.

I’ve swiped no to heaps of apparently hot guys for seeming boring, or people I cannot relate to. The pushing “next” was on a dating site where you scrolled through messages. “Hi” next “how r u” next etc.

Last edited by hale_bopp on 04 Nov 2017, 4:58 pm, edited 2 times in total.

Don’t trust OkCupid’s match %
Read their profiles if you actually want to see if they match. A lot of people including me answered those a long time ago. I answered most of them when I was 17/18 so 11/12 years ago. I sometimes see some and I’m like lol why’d I answer that way. Other times I know I answered how I thought specific women would want it answered. So those match percentages are worthless and not relate to how you’d actually match with someone. They fun to read but I don’t take them seriously as a lot of women’s answers contradict their profiles.

Well you automatically reject women if they aren't perfectly skinny and fit and are even angry if they message you because how dare they think the could have possibly had a chance with someone so physically perfect as you. So what is wrong with you getting automatically rejected for those reasons?

Wish fat women would message me