I feel like I'm too far gone
Interviewing applicants. Hmmm
I've done the online dating thing myself, and I've had success. I met my wife through online dating and had some good dates as well. Don't knock it 'till ya try it. It gives you some more control over who you meet, and also generally lets you know what's going to happen on the first day (where you will meet, etc). There are plenty of men out there, and some of them are even good and sincere.
I know, having to figure out who is good and sincere from the game players actually stresses me out.
I'll be honest I've looked through dating sites before and not really wanted to meet anyone. It's just a load of photos and short blurbs of info.
It doesn't really feel like a viable option.
I really think my lack of communication is a huge thing holding me back.
I've just been sitting here thinking about my life and the people I know and I can't think of anyone who truly dislikes me. People just think I'm quiet and maybe a little antisocial, even though I'm not in my heart.
I know that I have to make more effort with other people, but i just feel so tired that it's hard to do that. Hard to get organised enough to do anything much. I need a bit of help to socialise, but i don't know how one asks for that help.
Half a year later I met my husband.
Forced positivity is soul-destroying. Read this: "Positive thinking” has turned happiness into a duty and a burden"
https://qz.com/924103/happiness-has-bec ... brinkmann/
Thankfully I've never felt any men have forced me to be something I'm not. The only men who talk to me tend to be older or marriec and they give me a lot of respect. Guys my age seem scared of me. Actually some married guys my age seem nervous around me.
It's more other women who make me feel unattractive. I'm too intelligent and I don't rely on men enough to help me or I'm too headstrong (this person was quoting the Mars n Venus book to me). I'm not forward enough. I'm too forward. All the advice is conflicting. Though other women tell me I'm lovely and attractive and men are just stupid.
Men say nothing and just smile at me. To be fair they don't treat me badly, I'm just uninteresting or roo scary and I get upset that I'm not whatever it is that makes men feel comfortable enough to talk to the woman they like.
At least I'm not disliked. I'm just that aspie female blank and stiff way (I've observed this in other aspie women i know in person, this profile won't fit all the aspie women on the forum).
I think I look like I don't need anyone.
I just rant into these guys because I was in a very male-dominated environment, and I honestly believe they were not really interested in me, just in someone with tits.
I suspect that when people give you conflicting advice, it's because they can't really make up their minds about what it is that holds you back, so they make up stuff. Not worth listening to unless a lot of people say the same thing. Also, people are different, they look for different things, and they imagine that others are looking for the same things as they do.
Maybe online dating would work for you if you could keep online conversation going for a while? Then they'd have a first impression that was not based on body language.
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I sometimes leave conversations and return after a long time. I am sorry about it, but I need a lot of time to think about it when I am not sure how I feel.
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