My husband has an eating disorder. I'm devastated.

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It's been a while and he has been concealing this... We had a really bad time after my misdiagnosis, I believe it was a severe trauma to him to see his wife insane and on heavy medication. It was over a year ago, I went to a different doc who got me out of this sh*t.
But my husband remained traumatized. He developed bulimia, he counted every calorie, then exercised with no moderation, then ate whatever he could grab, then vomited...
I thought he got better lastly but only today I learned he threw up every single evening for the last week. I don't know what about the weeks before.
I'm devastated. I'm trying to convince him to go to a therapy but he is resistant, he doesn't want to talk about it.
I love him. I want him to be happy and healthy.
I have no idea what to do

Encourage him to, at least, become a member of an Internet forum consisting of people with bulimia.

Don't criticize him----but do tell him the health risks.

I lost a tooth because of it. Because of the acid of the food being "expelled."

I was.

For how long? And how did you stop?

What made you start? Do you remember?

I still have it to a certain extent. I started when I was 14. It was all about keeping the weight off.

I don't have a distorted view of my weight, though. I'm chubby, but not fat.

I didn't have much charm when I was 14. And I was previously fat. And I wanted to make friends.

When did your anorexia nervosa start? And what bought it on?

I was 15 and going to high school, but the city lines stopped right where we lived so I had to go to a whole different high school than everyone I knew from junior high. I had no control over anything. It was also around this time that my Pa told me I was fat. So it was a mixture of things. It went on the whole time I was in high school (3 years) and all I did was not eat and exercise to excess, slept because of no energy and drank. My entire calories came from coffee and alcohol. Went to a size 0, lost a lot of my hair. Had a lot of strange rituals which I really don't want to go into here, but I later found out other anorexics do these same things. I thought about it over the years and I do believe it was all about a lack of control over my present situation. Wish it hadn't happened because my grades really suffered in high school. If I would have done in high school what I do now in college, I would have done great. Too bad.

Most bulimics aren't really skinny, but anorexics are. I looked unhealthy and gaunt - like those runway models. I had absolutely no energy and never really smiled. My parents never caught on, but they thought I was on drugs because I slept a lot. I also was doing diet pills and forms of speed because I was so tired.

I'm glad you're over it now. Anorexia nervosa is quite a dangerous thing if not controlled.

I know how you feel. I had no "control," either. I went to an okay high school, a school for people who are 'gifted underachievers." Still, it has a 1 1/2 hour commute, and I was frequently late.

I had no "friends" until senior year. I was a weirdo even to the weirdos.

You gotta get some help, Mr. K. You can rupture your esophagus, especially since you have been doing it for so long. And like you said about your teeth - that won't get better.

I've been fortunate that I've only lost one tooth.

It's much better than in the old days.

They say dentists are usually the first to find out a person is bulimic. Mine actually stopped after high school. I still remember the day - I wanted a piece of pizza, so I ate one. I was so tired of the whole mess because it took up all of my time. I think I started to feel better about myself too. I didn't have to worry about the high school dramas and making friends. I still watched what I ate, but the drinking continued.

I'm fortunate in that I never "acquired the taste" for alcohol.

If I did "acquire the taste," God knows what would have happened.....

Do people with disorder force themselves to vomit up food? I’m confused

People with bulimia force themselves to vomit food.