livingwithautism wrote:
Not being able to say what's wrong, or being able to say it but everyone ignores you? I have both problems.
Good question / good point. Being ignored isn't the worst of it either. Saying what's wrong can get you vilified. It brings people down if they're wedded to an overpositive view of their flawed beliefs or plans, and apparently there's a lot of that around. Which is the worst of the 2 options depends on the context, I've had to take option 1 a lot, but I often wish I had enough money and power to take option 2. I also wish I was really gifted in honest but persuasive language and could somehow get the cloud-cuckoo-land types to embrace my criticisms and feel genuinely grateful for my useful input.
Hypothetical Example:
Football team: We can't lose! Here we go!
Me: Wrong. You most certainly can lose. [explanation of how they can lose]
Football team: Shut up!
Me: But I'm only trying to stop you setting yourself up for a fall.
Football team: (sigh) Look, we need to psych ourselves up with this positive hype to boost our confidence.
Me: Why not go in there knowing you might lose but muster up the courage to run with that?
Football team: May you rot in hell, ToughDiamond. You're a weirdo. Don't talk to us again or we'll kick you.