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18 Oct 2017, 9:15 am

And that's what I want.

A person's physical looks really only goes SO far.



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18 Oct 2017, 9:17 am

Doesn't matter.

I would like to drown in women for a while... I've always been jealous of men who can get one night stands so extremely easily.

It's a luxury reserved for 10% of all men.



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18 Oct 2017, 9:20 am

I wouldn't want the hassle of having to attend to all these women at the same time.

When people become polygamous, they then begin to understand the hassle of trying to appease and satisfy more than one "partner."

One at a time is enough for me.....



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18 Oct 2017, 9:22 am

I'm talking about one night stands.

I would never want an open relationship.



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18 Oct 2017, 9:22 am

Closet Genious wrote:
Doesn't matter.

I would like to drown in women for a while... I've always been jealous of men who can get one night stands so extremely easily.

It's a luxury reserved for 10% of all men.


I want just one good man that I get along with well and feel comfortable with and that we are both attracted to each other.



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18 Oct 2017, 9:24 am

I've had too many one-night stands. They are not satisfying, they are a hassle, they make me feel like a male slut, and my mouth usually doesn't feel quite right.



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18 Oct 2017, 9:30 am

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I've had too many one-night stands. They are not satisfying, they are a hassle, they make me feel like a male slut, and my mouth usually doesn't feel quite right.


I've had too many relationships. They're not satisfying, they're a hassle.

That's slut shaming kraftie!



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18 Oct 2017, 9:38 am

If I'm surrounded by 75 virgins or whatever, I would feel absolutely swamped....



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18 Oct 2017, 9:43 am

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If I'm surrounded by 75 virgins or whatever, I would feel absolutely swamped....


Do you know the original translation was raisins. It got lost through the years. Sorry.



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18 Oct 2017, 9:54 am

Being successful at getting night stands is a strong indicative that you're charming or physically attractive to a lot of women; it's a strong indicative that the women like for who you are and not for what you have or how much you make.

Hence why it's psychologically satisfying for most men.

While relationships are not a guarantee for that, the man in a a relationship can never know if the woman have other more important motives than being with him.

For example my gf's sister (she *is* a gold digger and very opportunistic) mentioned something that bothered me and made me....a tad suspicious of my current relationship, I know my gf is not her sister but usually...sisters have similar values - hopefully I am wrong.



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18 Oct 2017, 10:00 am

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Being successful at getting night stands is a strong indicative that you're charming or physically attractive to a lot of women; it's a strong indicative that the women like for who you are and not for what you have or how much you make.

Hence why it's psychologically satisfying for most men.

While relationships are not a guarantee for that, the man in a a relationship can never know if the woman have other more important motives than being with him.

For example my gf's sister (she *is* a gold digger and very opportunistic) mentioned something that bothered me and made me....a tad suspicious of my current relationship, I know my gf is not her sister but usually...sisters have similar values - hopefully I am wrong.



Wow, this is right on.

I hadn't really thought about why I felt that way, but this resonates.

It's the "I am willing to drop silky things even if you don't pay my bills".



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18 Oct 2017, 10:05 am

hurtloam wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
If I'm surrounded by 75 virgins or whatever, I would feel absolutely swamped....


Do you know the original translation was raisins. It got lost through the years. Sorry.


Are you referring to the Syriac interpretation of the Qur'an?

Those jihadists were self bombing and killing people for something found in the supermarket!


I did a research on that matter tho, the other verses mentioning the word "Hoori" obviously were referring to maidens, raisins didn't make much sense in the context -
Houris in islam are celestial "beings" btw, they are not the dead souls of female humans, and they serve only the alphaiest of warriors, roar.
They are like Porn-in-flesh or Playboy Playmates in created by God. :lol:

And notice how they serve both male humans and jinn; they are sexually cross-species! Quite talented.

Quote:
The houris (/ˈhuriz/)[1] (from Persian: حوری‎‎) or ḥūr (plural ofḥaurāʾ or ḥūrīyah[note 1] Arabic: حورية‎‎) are beings in Islam, described in English translations as "full-breasted companions of equal age [or well-matched]",[2][3] "lovely eyed",[4] of "modest gaze",[5] virgins[6] of paradise, denoting humans and jinn who enter Jannah (paradise) after being recreated anew in the hereafter.[7] The word itself occurs four times in the Qur'an, always in the plural:

44:54 "Thus. And We will marry them to fair women with large, [beautiful] eyes",
52:20 "They will be reclining on thrones lined up, and We will marry them to fair women with large, [beautiful] eyes",
55:72 "Fair ones reserved in pavilions",
56:22 "And [for them are] fair women with large, [beautiful] eyes"
but they are also referred to in a few other passages in different terms.[8]



Raisins can't have beautiful eyes or full breasts as far as I know.



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18 Oct 2017, 10:14 am

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The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Being successful at getting night stands is a strong indicative that you're charming or physically attractive to a lot of women; it's a strong indicative that the women like for who you are and not for what you have or how much you make.

Hence why it's psychologically satisfying for most men.

While relationships are not a guarantee for that, the man in a a relationship can never know if the woman have other more important motives than being with him.

For example my gf's sister (she *is* a gold digger and very opportunistic) mentioned something that bothered me and made me....a tad suspicious of my current relationship, I know my gf is not her sister but usually...sisters have similar values - hopefully I am wrong.



Wow, this is right on.

I hadn't really thought about why I felt that way, but this resonates.

It's the "I am willing to drop silky things even if you don't pay my bills".


Yes, it would be a proof that you are seen as a sexual and attractive being.

We hear a lot of stories that prove that many men in marriage and LTRs may not even been desired by their spouses from the beginning.



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18 Oct 2017, 10:17 am

I hate raisins... they look like dead flies.


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18 Oct 2017, 2:12 pm

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intelligence and decent conversational skills are lacking in the messages 98% of men send.


No wonder. Intelligence and conversational skills are completely different things and seldom do they intersect.


You’d be surprised. A lot of men on dating sites seem to have a very average skill set of both of those things. If you excel at at least one, you can usually get replies.



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18 Oct 2017, 2:16 pm

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Funny you should mention the intelligent man. Women appear to be very drawn to intelligent over average. Case in point, I know a very aspie person who is very different, looking and the way he acts. He is also extremely intelligent and has no problems on dating sites. People love an intelligent, interesting conversation. As someone who has guinea pigged men and women on dating sites for years, intelligence and decent conversational skills are lacking in the messages 98% of men send.

The two aspie men I enjoy talking to on a regular basis are both extremely intelligent. One is an intellectual genius, the other, a master of perception and awareness. Both wonderful in their own way. I’m quite picky though, I get bored of average intelligence very easily. I can’t converse with low at all really.


I'll bite. Because I hear other girls say this often then when I ask for context it usually means game.

But sure are you talking about conversations like politics? Or are you saying you want a guy to keep a conversation exciting and fresh and not be boring and mundane like, "seen any good movies lately?"


If someone messages me about what movies I’ve seen I’d probably ignore them. I tend to favour deeper conversations about life, human behaviour and scientific things.

Politics isn’t a bad topic. I can imagine people would reply to that.