shortfatbalduglyman wrote:
And I wonder.... If forgiveness ain't happening, what is the next best thing
Because there has to be a third option. Not just grudge, forgiveness......
Forgetting would be one... though I don't know how to deliberately forget something... hypnosis?
The thing about grudges is they tend to most negatively impact the person holding them. Partial forgiveness, which sounds a lot to me like "acceptance", is a good first step.
In the meantime, finding ways to distract yourself from dwelling on the past (if possible), should be a relief too.