Bursts of anxiety

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This is a issue that's been steadily getting worse and worse the more I stumble socially such as this forum real life and the army. Breathing. Imagining I'm in a far away place... doesn't cure the sense of dread. Like all of my logic is flawed or I am flawed in communicating it. Like I feel like life is meaningless and people are too stubborn and can't be helped. I could never off myself. It comes and goes. If the feeling never occurs I feel motivated to pursue my interests and learn. It might be that I am just mentally weary of studying too much crap or going into too much psychological debate stuff. It's affecting my sleep. I seem to have no interest. Barely enough to want to eat. Anxiety. What are some suggestions that can help that actually work and not just a pill excuse?

How about taking up a new side interest? Psychology is a heady subject. Something more relaxing maybe? You could get binoculars and a book about birds and do some birdwatching, there are camera binoculars you can buy now too to make it easier to remember the birds you saw.

Excersize helps eleviate anxiety and helps you sleep better. You could try going for walks.

I'm in the army, I already do excercise.....................................................................................................................I don't have any interests in other hobbies.

I don't know. It's just I can't get away from being labeled as defective. I screw something up by changing one little habit, or by following a habit and my world comes crashing down on me. I get taken advantage of for my ability to preform, but I don't get any credit for it. I'm just a bad egg. Spoiled. Thrown away.

maybe you are correct, in that "life is meaningless and people are too stubborn and can't be helped."

you can't measure stubbornness. some people are more stubborn than others, about certain things, at certain times.

sometimes, providing specific job skills, resources, or cash, to someone, could help them. however, the word "help" makes it sound like the "after" situation is better than the "before" situation. and what is better, is subjective.

for example, a stranger gave me a fifty dollar bill. she "helped" me get the Epicurean Solutions curried tofu and Clif bars, among other merchandise. and that "helped" the grocery store. but maybe she was enabling me by making me codependent . and maybe she helped me make more fat cells. it is impossible to know.

the results of your actions are not always immediate, direct, physical, or obvious.

for example, when i was 12 years old, a stampede of junior high school reptiles had the nerve to physically assault me at the bus stop.

they did not injure me, but they easily could have. they scared me profoundly. every day i think about it. every day since then. and i am 34 years old.

so.

but after they "cared" about me (the dictionary definition of "care" is "to attend to. "care" does not refer to outcome, intention, legality, or morality. just resources wasted). then i gorged on Kit Kats. and doing so "helped" Safeway and Nestle.

so, those precious lil "people" inadvertently and indirectly "helped" Nestle and Safeway.

ragnahawk

a counselor told me to use a mantra. so, whenever i start obsessing about the past, or getting paranoid someone will rape me in the future, i think to myself the words "here and now".

"here and now" is my mantra.

the counselor told me to think "i did my best" (about past events), but there is no way to know or measure what was your "best". there were many times i felt that i did not do my best. the counselor told me to think "i will do better next time". but that doesn't make sense either. because you can't measure quality. that statement sounds more like a flimsy promise that a former precious lil "friend" made.

your job might make this inconvenient or impossible, but get adequate sleep and eat a healthful diet. or at least, get as much sleep as possible and eat as healthfully as possible.

Ragnahawk

That was why I do not use "I did my best" or "I will do better next time" as the mantra

Mantra

Because, that might "subliminally brainwash".

The mantra "here and now" is like the statement "pay attention". It is a command, not a declarative statement. It is not true or false. It is not brainwashing.

For example it would behoove me to pay attention to the here and now so I do not unintentionally do something careless (that I otherwise would not have done,)

Grounding

Meditation

I already meditate all the time in my head. I don't know what grounding is. Can you tell me your mantras?

After getting assessed with Asperger's, I'd go through periods of denying it and only a few months ago did I really and truly understand that I definitely have Asperger's. This realization occurred because I'm going through college in a physical therapy program and the stress and hard work caused me to have this realization. It sounds like in the army you're being challenged everyday physically and mentally, and your special interest is also challenging you mentally. You should find something that can relieve that stress.

Believe me, I know that can be easier said than done when you don't have a lot of free time and each day brings new challenges, or more work/studying. But sometimes you should have to take some time for you, and for relaxing.

Hello, eating darkchocolate, berries, avocado probably can help.