What would you want to be different?

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It would be great to get insight about when it comes to socialising, if there's certain things you'd like to be able to do or if you didn't have what you find difficult, what would be different?
For example mine is I would like to be able to be comfortable socialising longer periods of time like at events or parties, instead of short blocks of time like meeting a friend for coffee, or feeling comfortable outside the house for many hours.
I'd be able to meet more people that way and try new activities or societies.

I would like more people to 'get me'. Most people either ignore me or at least in the interim just pretend to get along to play nice. This does not also effect my social life but also my professional life where some opportunities that would have been afforded to me were thorted due to people not really liking me.
I have no idea how that would look or what I could do differently.

Neurotypical

Cisgender

More normal

More emotionally resilient

Physically healthy

Athletically strong and coordinated,

Socially adept

Financially stable

Vocationally competent

Gravitationally skinny

Visually handsome

White

Vertically tall

Physically blurry or identical, name tags optional. Also optional: cause pins or bracelets, making ID a personal creation.

I would like more energy, and no more insomnia, being able to sleep 6-7 hours and then just popping out of bed to have a productive day. Less phone anxiety, better negotiation skills, the ability to conquer and complete tasks instead of having them pending for months.

Also, I would like no difficulty with traveling, including driving, taking trains or planes. I would love to have a specialized or technical skill so I can be moderately wealthy and live a life I would enjoy- more travelling, vacations, working from home, making art and clothing, etc, etc. I actually don't wish to be neurotypical because.. even though my life is socially barren, that really isn't a problem for me anymore. I enjoy my alone time

Specifically for socializing, I wish that I could process information faster. To be able to hear what someone is saying and think of an answer immediately. It's a daily problem that someone says something to me and expects an answer before I even understood what they said.
Like when the cashier in the store says something that isn't "want the receipt?" and "have a nice day". Anything other than that is unexpected and always turns out awkwardly, because whatever my answer is to whatever they said, it's something really weird or stupid. Once I've left the store I get what they were saying and what I should have answered.

That, and to be able to follow the relevant subject of a conversation. I seem to always make comments about the wrong things.

I'd like to be more flexible without feeling stressed or anxious.

I'd like to be in a room with someone I sort of know, without causing awkward silences.

I'd like to be authorative and outspoken at work, instead of timid and meek.

I'd like to live life without worrying about when I'm next going to have "me time".

I'd like to have the courage to find a new job, without being scared of new people.

But, most of all, I'd like to not have Asperger's. Or anxiety. Or ADHD. I just wish I was a neurotypical with no challenges.